Saturday, July 21, 2018

"The Dating Game"

Welcome to the dating game. Where you put your faith and trust into a guy hoping you hit the jackpot and that he turns out to be the man of your dreams. Then you realize you put all your trust , energy and faith into him, only to strike out and he's not the one. Yes sis, that is the dating game. You lose some but the goal is to win. 

I look at my dating experience as a game. Between me and you I hated games all my life. Boards games, card games, sport games, and games played with my heart. Don't play me , play lotto! 

See you meet a guy, then you waste your time getting to know him by telling him all the amazing things about yourself. Also while listening to all the lies and bull shit he tells you about himself. Just when you really think you got a good one, he turns out to be trash. Conversations start to fade. Now you have to dispose him and keep it moving. Let's hope you don't get dickmerized in the process. Then you move on and do it again, and again. Playing the game until you finally win. 

Sucks but its part of the dating process. You literally have to kiss a million frogs until you meet your King. I can easily say don't get in your feelings but who am I kidding. Accidentally falling for someone happens so often. Mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the good and the bad. Go into every dating situation knowing this could work out and this could be a disaster. What do you really have to lose? Don't be scared to date thinking you are bound to get your feelings hurt. By doing that you already have set yourself up to fail. 

If you haven't realized men lie just for the hell of it. I find it very creepy. It be the stupidest unnecessary lies too. Remember to always do your own little investigation. That's the best way to avoid egg on your face. I had a date with a guy one time. I had a funny feeling in my spirit. I found out he told me a fake name. After I discovered his real name I ran a background check on him. 

"Oh Yes I Did"

He had a criminal record longer than Ariana Grande pony tail. It included assault, assault, assault. You get the point! The same way employers call references you do the same. It's all fun and games but remember this is your life so don't gamble everything on a man. 

Thursday, July 19, 2018

#TTOTM: Having A Easy Menstrual Cycle

I can always sense when a woman is on her period. Her fashion style is very casual and comfortable. Normally she skips makeup and doesn't want to be bothered. Oh, and lets not forget the slow walk of death because your cramps are killing you. Giirls this is the partwhere we all bond. Every woman has some kind of symptoms before and during her period. Whether it's bad cramps, gas, or a acne breakout.

 I was on NEXPLANON birth control for 3 years and just got off a few months back. During those 3 years I was lucky enough to not have a menstrual cycle. Now that I am off for good, I am back to mother nature every month. One thing I did realize, it still sucks. Instead of us doing our normal complaining every month, I have found ways to help us women have a smoother and easier period every month. Take a look and use some of these tips to make it much less stressful and dreadful.

The worst feeling is getting a "funny feeling" then discovering your period is on and you have no tampons or pads near. Download a period tracker on your phone and keep track of when your period comes on every month. Also many of those apps allows you to track you ovulation. That way you know when you're fertile to avoid getting pregnant or plan for your pregnancy. 

Unless you're a savage, you have to take something to avoid cramps. I normally cramp in my butt. Yes, my bottom. It's very odd but I have met other women who get butt cramps also. Its very painful when it comes suds. I know you may have cravings but fried foods, sugar, caffeine and bread are major causes of cramps during your menstrual and causes inflammation. To stop the pain quickly, doctors suggest
ibuprofen,or aspirin. For a natural route use heating pads by applying it to your abdomen. Something new I have heard of is acupressure and massages too. My doctor even mentioned Fish Oil and Vitamin B1 for a natural relief. My mother taught me years ago about the Apple cider vinegar bath. Warm bath and just add the vinegar. There are many types of ways to help those cramps, try some.

One thing I learned as a teen is what to wear and what not to wear. Remember in school that one girl would wear khaki pants and you would see a period stain on her pants. That is not hot. 
Dress comfortable. Wear loose pants and comfortable full covering panties. The worst feeling is wondering if there is something on your pants if you know what I mean. 

The best way to have a easy period is sleeping. For some reason I feel as if my period flow is lighter when I'm sleeping. It is also good to move around but let's keep it real. Who wants to work our during their period unless you have to?

The best you invest in pads, and tampons will make it much easier. The top brand of tampons and pads are Tampax, Playtex, Kotex. Making sure you understand your flow is also key. If you're lighter go for regular sizing pads and tampons. Like myself if you have much heavier flows . Super will give you full protection. Remember to read the packaging of tampons. Staph, which is found in many of our bodies. ... Toxic shock syndrome will cause a drop in blood pressure that deprives organs, oxygen and can lead to death. So be aware of how long you keep your tampons in.

Sunday, June 24, 2018

Put Some Respect On Her Heart

Women use to be treated like queens. If a guy mother found out he broke a girls heart it would be world war in their household. It was something fathers would teach their sons back in the day to respect women. Always treat a lady with respect, and don't play with girls feelings. We live in a time where fathers aren't giving those talks to their sons anymore. Now the more hoes you have you're winning. 

The respect level for women has surely decreased. Just look at how many unstable couples we read about on the blogs. Guys constantly getting caught on video cheating, or abusing their woman. It makes you worried about your own daughters if you have any. These men are role models to the next generation of boys.

Women hearts are fragile. We are already emotional beings. We take love seriously. I don't think men understand what it does to a woman to have her heart broken, or to be played and lead on. It will take their own daughter in tears for them to understand the pain each woman has ever felt. The best solution is to stop hurting women. Be honest, and stop leading women on. If you don't want her leave her alone. a selfish man will lead you to his heart, and give it to someone else. Guys will tell you half the truth. " Oh yeah I talk to a chick". But forget to mention they are married and she's pregnant with his child.

As a woman, but also as a black woman. My respect means everything to me. Once I feel disrespected and embarrassed I have to dead a person out of my life. Disrespect for me feels like a punch to my gut especially by people who I cared about and thought cared about me. I always say men who cheat on pregnant women are some of the most disrespectful scums to walk this earth. To step out with a whore probably having unprotected sex and come home to your pregnant spouse is disgusting. Its truthfully one of the reasons I stop supporting Kevin Hart. Quick story.

I had someone in my life who I have known for about 5 years. I ended things after 1 1/2  years because I felt he was wasting my time. If I loved you and you supposedly loved me why haven't you committed which was my questioning. Throughout the years as I moved on with my life he would find some way to hit me up even if he was blocked. Literally his own sister ran me down on the road one day waving. Finally I let him know I don't want to get back involved with you and mess up my mind and feelings. I'm good with where I am.  He ignored that and entered back in my life as friends reconnecting. Cut to the tea he had a entire girlfriend not chick as he mentioned who he lived with and even had his name tatted on her. My disrespect and rage I felt went from 0-100. You are reading this thinking after 5 years of knowing her,  he really did her like that. At that moment he did the one thing I hate and that was disrespect my heart, my feelings, and my body.  The moral to this post is your respect is all you got as a woman. Don't let no one use you, mistreat you and disrespect you. You should be treated like a queen always. If guys would put some respect on women's hearts, there would be less broken hearted girls. Guys if you re reading this keep this in mind. Treat every woman how you would want your own daughter treated, and watch your lifestyle change.

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