Singer SZA had a song off her debut album CTRL called 20 some thing's. There is a line where she sings "Honesty hurts when you're gettin' older" which really got me to thinking. I will be turning 26 years old in September. My 20s have been a life assessment for me. I moved out at 18 to attend college and life really hit home for me. I had a daughter at age 21 who I have to provide for and protect. In our 20 some thing's, you will learn what being a true adult means. When we were kids we wished upon a star to become a grown up. Now we wish we could go back in time when we didn't have bills, taxes, and people breaking our hearts with no empathy what so ever. Those fairy tale books we read as kids, thinking life was one big magical place, Ha, not so much anymore. Life is savage. Sza also sings "Hopin' my 20 somethings won't end Hopin' to keep the rest of my friends Prayin' the 20 somethings don't kill me. Do you also remember when you were in your teens you thought that crew of yours would be with you for a lifetime.. Now looking back you ask yourself how many of those friends are still your friends? You are either the friend who couldn't keep up, or you are the friend who grown, and matured and had to let the past go.
Our 20 somethings are a test run, 10 years long for us to fu*k up, make mistakes, learn from them and better ourselves. No 20 something year old knows everything. Look honey, you may think you do, but you don't. All the crap I have experience at age 25 I still have more to experience and learn from. You have to live a little to understand the big picture of this thing called life. In a perfect world some 20 year olds have found their true love, married and have succeeded in their career. The rest of us are working towards making a statement in life for ourselves. Trying to figure out exactly what the hell we even want to do and how to do it. The struggle is real. Working odd jobs, or working at a job that may bring in good money but it's torture having to go to a job you truly don't give a fu*k about Truthfully, so many of us 20 something year olds have managed to snag great jobs but hate doing it. This is the time for us to work towards our goals. Fast cash, but not cool helping a billionaire make more billions. You won't accomplish anything if you don't put effort into it. It is not hard to become discourage in our 20s. Let's keep it real, alot of us lack ambition. We feel something should be given to us and the world should know and see our talent. But Reality Replies Back.....
Dating is a struggle in our 20s. No one takes love serious anymore. Side chicks and side dudes are being glorified. People are having kids outside marriage or have no thought of building a family and having a solid foundation. Men don't court women anymore because we offer all our goods up for free without making him earn us. There is no respect in dating anymore. So if we as young women in our 20s don't respect ourselves, our morals, our body or have standards, how can we expect a man to respect us? We should date as much as possible. How can you know your type if you haven't actually took time to date. Get to know men all while getting to know who you are. Big difference in dating, and thotting.
Still we are going to be alright. We have made it this far. Things will get tough, you may cry and feel like your life is so hard and stressful you hate life. But come back and read this post. Every time you make a mistake learn from it. Ask yourself, "Why is this happening to me". Also let love find you during these years. The best love comes unexpected. Marriage is not going anywhere.. Get to know exactly who you are before committing to someone else's life. Remember marriage is a partnership, their baggage and struggles becomes yours added to what you already had. Accomplish things in life, Go to college, travel, start a career of your own. This is our starting line, let's give ourselves a head start to the finishing line.