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Sunday, January 14, 2018

Wack Sex: Stay Or Go?



The most annoying feeling for a woman is laying next to a guy after bad sex.  Bad sex doesn't always mean the sex itself was bad.  Leaving a woman feeling unsatisfied is also bad sex.  It's like going to a new restaurant that looked great on the outside, but once you got there and tried the food it wasn't all that. It was BLAH!


Men don't realize that bad sex for a woman is the biggest deal breaker. Size is not always the issue. Let's keep it real girls,  a lot of grown ass men don't know their own strokes and movements. They think because they are big in size that's all is needed.  The same way they put effort into getting meat out of crab legs, put the same effort into your woman during sex. From most women I have spoken to,  the number one problem is ..

Women are soft, and gentle naturally. Sex is all about the anticipation. Foreplay is cool if that's what you're into.  Kissing, licking, sucking are all some key things guys can do to lead into sex. Make her want it by teasing her. Their major problem is no patience. They want to dive in, get their nut and go to sleep. All in 1-5 mins while you're laying their unsatisfied feeling used and unwanted.

Men think women are like jack rabbits who want to go on and on all night. I have even heard the line, "You'll just lay there." They're so one sided to understand the length of sex is not the problem.  Them not fulfilling their sexual duties by making sure their woman is satisfied is the issue.
I remember in my last relationship he would wake up the next morning confused as to why I was so upset. Had the nerves to say "I know you not mad about last night?" Of course after satisfying him and 3 mins in he gets what he needed and falls into a deep coma of sleep after wards, I would be pissed off.

 It got to the point I was so turned off by it I hit my ex up the day after.  At least he knew and understood my body. That was a deal breaker for me.  So what your sex is good, but if 80% of the time you're selfish and inconsiderate to her needs it's not worth it.

So the big question is...

Sex is a big cause for break-ups and infidelity in relationships.  People we who aren't satisfied tend to wander off. Most people don't like to admit it,  but I will.  Sex is very important in relationships. So if you decide to stay talk to your guy about your desires.  A lot of your men don't even know you're not sexually satisfied, because you don't talk to them.


Thursday, January 4, 2018

Are You Willing To Give Sugar For A Sugar Daddy (Must Read) ๐Ÿ‘€

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Would You Be A Sugar Baby For A Sugar Daddy?

Yes, spoil me!
I already am ๐Ÿ˜‰
No way, I value myself.
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When I say sugar daddy I don't mean the candy sis I mean that old man who's probably old enough to be your dad.  If you're really messy,  he may be old enough to be your granddad. A sugar daddy is pretty much a older man who lavishes someone younger with gifts,  and money only if she does something strange for a little piece of change. Not all the time but majority.


 I an not a sugar baby.  Personally Ive  had a few old men try to recruit me. If we really gone keep it real,  I have thought about it especially during my college days. I even made a account on one of those websites, one in particular SeekingArrangement.com
I SURE DID GURLLL.  When I got a message from one of my teachers from middle school trying to recruit me,  I knew it was time to deactivate.  

What I realized for me personally I am not fake enough to act interested in a sugardaddy. Plus most sugar daddies love submissive women. If you're opinionated, bossy, and demanding he can't tolalerate you. He doesn't want a baby who's gone talk back. Most sugar babies don't find their sugar daddies attractive, they find his pockets more attractive. A lot of them play along to get what they need from him. They don't love your old ass. 

Truthfully I don't look down on girls who have sugar daddies. I'm open and understand why they choose to do so. Even if I personally would not. In my eyes I look at it as desperate times call for desperate measures.  She must really be going through a hard time to tolerate it. 

Most studies show that college women between ages 18-25 are normally the sugar baby age group.  Think about it?  You're in college, on your own trying to pay for books,  and tuition. From experience college is hard and a lot of life responsibilities come with it. Chipotle cashier or sugar baby?  Some sugar daddies just want the attention and company of a young woman.  Then the other majority wants pleasure. The girls look at it as easy money and gifts. All they have to do is please him.  Sometimes it's also a low self esteem thing.  Feeling as if they are not good enough and wanted, but this older man comes along to give them better.  Let's not act as if the men don't do it for their own insecure reasons.  Using money, and gifts to bribe beautiful young women into being with you. 

Most chicks I know who have sugar daddies never fully admit to being sexual active with him.  They always say he's just nice like that. In my mind I'm thinking.... 

Not many men no matter how old and desperate they are will spend money and buy gifts and lavish vacations and get nothing out the deal.  It's like a business deal.  You do for me, I do for you. Men have been doing it for years, and women are now doing it to men.  Telling people you have a sugar daddy is also embarrassing. That's something I feel you need to keep to yourself. Just make sure someone knows who he is just in case he's a insane person and your life is in danger. Truthfully most sugar daddies have a wife and kids hidden off somewhere in the suburbs, so sis your secret is good with him.  But I have heard of these situations turning out bad. 

I watched this documentary on the life of sugar babies and dealing with sugar daddies before writing this.  . 

 In 2014 there was a kick-start program for a documentary called Daddies Who Date Babies. (sounds creepy right).  But it must have never been created. I came across a tumbler page  for it of people telling their stories and how dangerous it can also be. 
 I quote one story from a commenter. 
Just remember to be careful. Your life is your choice.  I don't condone being someones sugar baby but I don't judge people on it.  I want all us girls to work hard, be independent.  Reality is real life happens and some have to survive.  Please be careful.  Remember that leading men on can be dangerous. If they are buying you gifts, taking you on dates ask yourself what will they want from you?  Be smart,  be safe .

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

What A Girl Wants




What a girl wants? That's like a million dollar question for men. One they can't get right. Men over think themselves trying to figure us out. I will point out some of the major things we women want from our man. It really is bothering me how unhappy allot of women are. Men have to realize the number one thing a woman wants is to be Happy. 

Being in a relationship you aren't happy in is miserable. Love is important but happiness is a big part of love. A girl wants to smile every time she sees her man. A girl wants to get chills every time her man touches her, and not get annoyed and angry every time he comes around. If a woman is not happy a real man should do his best to find out why and fix things. If he does all he can and she still isn't happy at least he can say he gave it his all.
Society has painted the picture where a man should protect and provide for his woman. In 2017 women are bosses and doing for themselves. But that doesn't mean she wants a man with no car who she has to drive around. Or a man who cant keep a job. If she loses her job or become sick a woman wants to feel like her man will have her back. Stability in a man should be a goal when dating men. Allot of women sadly don't have this. Trust me every woman wants a man with his shit together.

Respect goes back to "treat me how you want to be treated". Men are really getting disrespectful. Anything that will hurt her or embarrass her is disrespectful. A woman's pride and self esteem could be torn ed down by the disrespect of a man. When it comes to respecting a woman that means talking to her like a lady. Putting her feelings in consideration. Lastly always putting her 1st. Never have another chick laughing at your girl because you in the streets as if you're single.

A girl wants a man who studies her body. Pleasing your woman sexually is key in a relationship. Women just want their man to please them, and treat their bodies like its theirs. 

Nothing is sexier than a man who has life goals. Who wants a bum ass guy with no goals, no life plans or future. A woman seeing her man try to accomplish his goals or become better is inspiring.

Women want to hear it from her man and not someone else.  Honesty is what women crave. Nothing hurts women more than a lie. Be honest with her is all we want. Truth hurts, hut lies hurt worse.

Us girls never want to feel like he gives 0 fucks about us. Want to feel important to our man. We want to feel like he cares. Whether its returning her calls or texts, asking how our day was. Little things add up to show us we are important.


I don't know not one woman who enjoys being cheated on. Who wants to share their man? I would hope no one. We women just want to be the only woman in our relationship with our guy. Keeping their ๐Ÿ† in their pants shouldn't be a difficult wish.













Saturday, March 11, 2017

Lurking !!!! When Is It Necessary?


Sometimes you find yourself on a persons page, then see someone you know and go to their page, then another and another. Yes darling, you are a lurker. Don't trip it happens to all of us, but lurking isn't such a bad thing. For a woman who is mysterious about her mans activity you may want to lurk. Now I know there are some who believe"WHATS DONE IN THE DARK WILL COME TO LIGHT" Well I believe "If you think it, believe it, and look into it"

I have been cheated on before like allot of other good women. But because of my woman's intuition and smartness I listen to my gut and look into niggas.

Quick story. 

A few months back I was talking to a guy who seemed like he was digging me. He swore he was different not like the rest. God fearing, ambitious, good independent man, I thought. I told my best friend about him she was so happy that damn I may have found a good man. But I said to her "girl something not right". I kept saying it and she thought I was tripping and letting my past mess this up. So I followed my gut. After LURKING, I came across his ex, who I found out he had another woman in their shared home and that was the reason they broke up. After a few mins of lurking each week I came across a girl who was the reason for his last break up and was actually his girlfriend now. Yasss! He sweared he was different, and wouldn't lie, and cared. Church boy act was a front. Let's just say I scared him so bad he went ghost. 

Don't be the crazy chick going through his wallet, but if you think his ass up to something. Lurk and you may find resolution to the truth. Check out these 4 signs you need to take on the role of a detective and look into your partner. There is nothing worse than those women who are married 20 yrs and find out their man was creeping for the last 10 years ๐Ÿ’€. People leave clues like mice leave crumbs. Don't stalk the man and catch a charge, but look into it if you think something.











Thursday, January 26, 2017

Womans Intuition


Being a woman is like being a superhero. We got the type of power men just dont have. That is "Womens Intuition". Every woman has it, but if you dont use it for your advantage it has no use. 

I would probably be with my ex who I dated for 4 years if it wasnt for my womans intuition.  5 years ago I had a dream one night he was telling a girl he loved her. I woke up in tears. I called him 6am asking is there someone else. He replied, "NO". After I looked through his facebook friends I came across a girl who was dating him as well. So it saved me and I left that relationship. 

A womans intuition is a gut feeling you get that something is not right and you shouldnt ignore it. It can help us discover the truth, and avoid bad situations. 



Even if your are insecure, that intuition is like a bee at a bbq outside, that wont leave you alone. Evenually you have to do something about it. If you got trust issues trust me I get it. Dont drive him away, give him a chance. But if you think it, look into it. For example, something is off in your relationship investigate first. Dont look like a idiot and jump to conclusions. 

I am the king of facts. I recently met a guy who I thought was really a good guy. But he always called me when he was at work, or in the car. Never when he was at home. My bestie thought I was bugging I followed my intuition and he was full of shit. Lol
Girls please dont think you are crazy following your intuition. Follow your heart, mind, you know yourself better then anymore else.


Saturday, November 19, 2016

The Curse Of Men (Mariah Carey,Jennifer Lopez, Halie Berry


I hate to be petty. But I know you all love when I be petty. I'm having some concerns, frustrations, so many other words also about these 3 beautiful, talented, successful women. I'm just gone spit it out. THEY CANT KEEP NO MAN. I just don't understand why it always ends bad for them. These are 3 of the most beautiful women in the entertainment business. Yes Beyonce and Rihanna are beautiful too. But this post isn't about them. 

So its all over the blogs, now my blog about the big fight Mariah Carey and ex fiancรฉ James Packer. Remember she was married to Nick Cannon and had two twins before that went south. Anyways, well now her and this billionaire are beefing. She thinks he's trying to ruin the holidays. He thinks she's unstable allegedly. I got to thinking, Mariah, Halie, Jlo stay with man drama. They all are similar in age. This is something that's been going on since they were in the beginning of their career.  I don't know if its them or they choose the wrong men. Let's break down the situations with their latest guys. 
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halle berry olivier martinez



It's been over a year. Halle filled for divorce, But they seem to still be vacationing and spending the holidays together.  Nahla the 8 yr old with ex-boyfriend Gabriel, had issues as well. Let's not forget that big fight back between Gabriel and Oliver. Now we all know her ex husband Eric Benet who came out to support her other ex David Justice in that twitter rant. He accused her and her PR team of lying about domestic violence in their relationship. Let's just say Halle is not cool with none of her exes.
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        Jennifer lopez and casper smart




Now Jennifer Lopez can't seem to hold on to her men neither, but the difference between her and Halle, Jennifer's exes actually like her lol. When she got with back up dancer Casper the world was like #girlstop. But when we saw him by her side and her happy and him playing with her kids by ex Marc Anthony, who recently preferred to them as brother and sister after they shared a kiss online. Anyways ๐Ÿ˜. Well Casper and Jennifer are supposedly broken up. It may be their 17th break up since dating. According to people magazine 
She kicked him out because he cheated on her and he got caught,” says the source. “It happened two years ago, and he promised he would never do it again and once he did, she was done.” Jennifer said her self she loves hard. Whatever that means.
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            mariah carey james packer


Lastly the Holiday Queen herself. She's dated her manager. Allegedly rapper Eminem some athletics and when she finally had kids, it was with Nick star Nick Cannon. We all were wondering why, and how. But like Jennifer & Casper they grew 
on us as a couple. Only to break up.
Now her and ex fiance James Paker are in a media war. Mariah says he's a opportunist allegedly. 
 A source previously told ET that Carey feels she is owed a $50 million “inconvenience fee” she believes was discussed in prenup negotiations, despite never actually tying the knot





It seems like with Halle its her way or the high way. No compromising in relationships. She's so easy to walk away. With Jennifer she loves and trusts to much. Every guy she dates it seems like she falls hard. With Mariah I can't figure out what her issue is.