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Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Man Down: " Protecting Yourself From Predators As A Woman

Being a woman has it's perks. If your car breaks down on the side of the road people will always run to your rescue. Or how about free before 11 at the club for ladies. Being a woman is awesome and it does has it's disadvantages. I watch a lot of crime shows. Women are always the target. From robbery, kidnapping, rape, to domestic violence. There are men who take advantage of women because they're bigger and stronger. I can not tell you how recently I have came across a woman robbed and sexually assaulted by a stranger this year alone. Its scary as hell being a woman and knowing you're the prey for a lot of sick, disturbed individuals. Sadly we can't stop every bad person but we can help protect ourselves and be more aware. I don't want you to be scared but I want you to be aware and alert. I am going to give you all a few things to look out for as women to help protect yourself. It breaks my heart when I see a young women assaulted or violated. I am a mom myself to a daughter. I want us all to be safe. Let's start with the number one thing.


Sometimes when a guy offers you a drink it doesn't always mean he's being a gentleman. Never accept a drink from a guy if you didn't actually see him make it. There are guys who will slip a date rape drug into your alcohol beverage to get you knocked out so they can take advantage of you sexually. Most women admit they got very dizzy and lightheaded suddenly and when they woke up didn't remember a thing. Always smell your drink and look clearly at it. Be careful to not leave your drink sitting around too. Some of the most common date rape drugs are roofies, gamma, liquid ecstasy, and special k all street terms. Be careful also outside of clubs. Just because he has a bottle at his house doesn't mean it's still safe to drink. Smell, look, and trust your gut. If he's very pushy for you to drink it, RUN BITCH!

 This is a common way women are violated. If you feel this has happen to you or someone you know, contact your local authorities and contact 1-800-656-HOPE. 

. Watch Your Surroundings 

Sometimes those midnight Wal-Mart runs sounds like a good idea. Nobody is there that late. I remember seeing a episode of See No Evil on investigation network of a teen doing late night shopping. A strange man followed her around the store, and attacked her at her car. He approached her with a gun, kidnapped her, raped her, and killed her. I cried like a baby. It could of been me or you. Girls please watch your surroundings especially when you are alone. I don't want you to be paranoid ,but be aware. If you live alone pay attention to the cars following you. If a person follows you for miles call a friend to have someone on the phone with you. Also if you leave early or come home late, check your surroundings before getting out the car. Always have your keys and phone in hand. It sounds like a lot, but if your key is in your hand it's a life safer if a person is coming at you. 

. Don't Date Anyone

Sometimes a guy may slide in your DM. He seems great, he's cute from his pictures too. Remember , you don't know him. Get to know him very well before agreeing to a date. If you do decide to go out with him make sure it's a public place. 
I don't suggest that but at least inform a friend where you're going, and who you are going with. Truthfully I wouldn't even suggest he picks you up. He can meet you there. It has become common for women to meet up with predators they meet online. I like to see if we have mutual friends, that way you can do a quick reference check.  Don't be thirsty for a date and risk your life. 

. Watch Your Hands & Mouth

There are some crazy ass men out there. Girls be careful how you talk to men. The cursing , and hand in face will set off a already violent man quickly. Some guys are full of rage, it only takes you poking the bear before he unleashes. Please don't get yourself in a violent situation with a physcopath .A quick hit upside his head from you may make him hurt you in a way you might not recover from. Look for signs in abusive men. Crazy people can only hide their crazy for so long. His outburst and how he treats other's will tell you allot. If you see signs of crazy, Run Bitch! Fighting back is for the boxing ring, don't risk your life trying to be Wonder Woman.

Revenge Porn

If I see one more explicit picture or video online of revenge porn I may scream. If you don't know what revenge porn is, its basically posting  explicit pictures or videos of someone without consent. Trust me I know how easy it is to believe the hype when he says he will delete it. I can almost bet you $50.00 he is lying. Don't let these guys record you having sex. You can't even trust boyfriends these days. There are actual websites out there where men expose ex girlfriends by posting their nudes or sex tapes. If you are having sex and you see a flash just get up and start swinging. I know what I said before just in this case get the camera and run. 😂💯
It has happen to me, I had to jump up quick. They sneaky. Don't let them take advantage of you. Your reputation and dignity is what makes you a woman. 


 Don't let your woman's intuition go to waste. Your brain is there for a reason. If it doesn't sound right, or feel right, it must not be right. If you're somewhere with a guy and the vibes feel weird, get out.  Its hard to describe the feeling but it's a quick instinct of danger. 

Sunday, January 14, 2018

Wack Sex: Stay Or Go?

The most annoying feeling for a woman is laying next to a guy after bad sex.  Bad sex doesn't always mean the sex itself was bad.  Leaving a woman feeling unsatisfied is also bad sex.  It's like going to a new restaurant that looked great on the outside, but once you got there and tried the food it wasn't all that. It was BLAH!

Men don't realize that bad sex for a woman is the biggest deal breaker. Size is not always the issue. Let's keep it real girls,  a lot of grown ass men don't know their own strokes and movements. They think because they are big in size that's all is needed.  The same way they put effort into getting meat out of crab legs, put the same effort into your woman during sex. From most women I have spoken to,  the number one problem is ..

Women are soft, and gentle naturally. Sex is all about the anticipation. Foreplay is cool if that's what you're into.  Kissing, licking, sucking are all some key things guys can do to lead into sex. Make her want it by teasing her. Their major problem is no patience. They want to dive in, get their nut and go to sleep. All in 1-5 mins while you're laying their unsatisfied feeling used and unwanted.

Men think women are like jack rabbits who want to go on and on all night. I have even heard the line, "You'll just lay there." They're so one sided to understand the length of sex is not the problem.  Them not fulfilling their sexual duties by making sure their woman is satisfied is the issue.
I remember in my last relationship he would wake up the next morning confused as to why I was so upset. Had the nerves to say "I know you not mad about last night?" Of course after satisfying him and 3 mins in he gets what he needed and falls into a deep coma of sleep after wards, I would be pissed off.

 It got to the point I was so turned off by it I hit my ex up the day after.  At least he knew and understood my body. That was a deal breaker for me.  So what your sex is good, but if 80% of the time you're selfish and inconsiderate to her needs it's not worth it.

So the big question is...

Sex is a big cause for break-ups and infidelity in relationships.  People we who aren't satisfied tend to wander off. Most people don't like to admit it,  but I will.  Sex is very important in relationships. So if you decide to stay talk to your guy about your desires.  A lot of your men don't even know you're not sexually satisfied, because you don't talk to them.

Monday, December 18, 2017

Kayla Got The 411 Podcast Episode 6: 20 Something's

Whats the 411? Former political aide
Omarosa allegedly resigns from white house . Kevin Hart talks recent infidelity on recent breakfast club interview. 
Girl talk discussion this week. 20 Somethings,  when life gets real and reality sets in that you are no longer a kid. 

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Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Kayla Got The 411: #GirlPower

Story Time:

I was at work and this lady was 15 minutes late for a interview. I come in from break and she's by my desk.  I said " hey have you been helped?" She let me know she was here for a interview in accounting. She said "they're doing work on Interstate 285 so traffic was hell,  coming from Stone Mountain".

So I called over and the person who interviewed her has a, reputation of being a "strict" 

She said "Did that lady just get here?"

I paused and just instantly lied.

 "It looks like she's been waiting in the lobby, I came in and saw her just sitting. I just came back from break no one has helped her,  but I will send her over".

The girl said "OMG thank you".  I said it's ok good luck on your interview.

30 minutes later she came and found me and hugged me.  She said, "girl thank you for having my back. I got the job,  I start Monday".  I told her we black women gotta look out for one another. Just women in generally.  I'm happy you got it.  She was so happy. She said sadly most women especially black women don't stick up or help one another as much.  I told her no problem I have been there and I understand.  She said lunch on me lol.

It truly warmed my heart.  I didn't do it for a reward.  I know when you travel for a interview anything can happen to cause you to be late. Things happen.  Seeing her happy made me happy.  I truly believe if I told her interviewer she was late and just arrived it would of ruined her chances.

So girls let's look out for one another.  One compliment or kind gesture can do alot for another woman.  Girl power. 

Sunday, July 9, 2017

Karma Is A B*tch

Have you ever heard the saying  "Karma's A B*tch before? What comes around goes around is a saying people use that means what negativity you put out will come back to you.  I am not a scientists or psychology major at all.  I do believe Karma is possible just from my own experiences and watching others. A great example would be stealing money from someone only to lose it right after.  That is karma.  You steal from someone and then someone steals from you.  Karma is strong and normally it will catch up to you. 

There are a lot of lucky people out there.  I believe if you do good,  good things will come to you.  Living a positive life is a choice and some people feel they never have good karma, even when they do good things.  Karma works fast and sometimes it works slow.  But future happiness is all about the good you put in the universe. Alot of countries give their own definition of Karma and what it stands for.  The main thing we all can agree with on Karma is when it hits you,  it hits you hard.

There are women who sleep with married men or taken men with no care in the world or remorse. They think it's a game  and it's funny.  Karma Is A Big B*tch than Most.  So always remember you loose them how you get them.

"I remember a few years ago I was in a 4 year relationship age 17-20. I remember basically finding out he was cheating on me and he didn't care I found out and the girl he cheated with did not neither. I was pregnant at the time and I had a miserable pregnancy. I cried many nights,  I was depressed. I had basically been lied to and betrayed and harassed on my phone by the girl he cheated with weekly.  Being pregnant you can't defend yourself much. I kept alot of it to myself and didn't tell friends or family.  Funny she thought she was popping because she supposedly took my man.  I can recall her saying "He Love Me Bitch". But 2 years after that breakup I got a message on Face book which I have to this day of her apologizing for what she did and how everything he put me through,  he is now putting her through. "

I don't wish harm to anyone and ladies you should not neither.  But remember to pray,  stay positive and let Karma take care your battles. I understand too that Karma takes to long sometimes lol.  You may want to seek revenge on the people who did you wrong yourself. But trust me girls,  Negative,  evil people always get a taste of their own medicine. Stay beautiful,  stay strong and keep it pushing. 

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Friday, May 12, 2017


As girls we have that ex who we always fall back in their arms. When we know deep down he is a ex for a reason. But men are very smart and sneaky on their plot to get us back.

I use to have a ex who always would let me know he was in town but would do so after 11pm. Now men who have dated us probably know our weakness. Now my weakness is Sex & Food lol. Now I had to put on my thinking hat a ask myself. "Girl, why come he over here the next morning, when you hated him yesterday"? If he texts me at 1pm in the afternoon he knew I would not entertain him. But if he hit me up at 1 a.m when I am half asleep and was hearing his deep sexy New Orleans accent on my phone line, I might give in. Which I always did for a while. Until I said Ohhhhhh no! I had "DO NOT ANSWER" as his name, but also blocked him. He would leave crazy voice mails but it helped.

Girl do not feel bad. As women we are soft, and sweet. But it only takes that 1 who you will always have a special place in your heart for. But don't let him suck you back in when you left him for a reason. When you wake up the next morning you are going to feel bad all over again for allowing him to get the best of you. Block him, change your number do what you have to do. I can almost promise you the only reason he is hitting you up is because someone else is unavailable. So be strong and "DON'T ANSWER".

Thursday, January 26, 2017

Womans Intuition

Being a woman is like being a superhero. We got the type of power men just dont have. That is "Womens Intuition". Every woman has it, but if you dont use it for your advantage it has no use. 

I would probably be with my ex who I dated for 4 years if it wasnt for my womans intuition.  5 years ago I had a dream one night he was telling a girl he loved her. I woke up in tears. I called him 6am asking is there someone else. He replied, "NO". After I looked through his facebook friends I came across a girl who was dating him as well. So it saved me and I left that relationship. 

A womans intuition is a gut feeling you get that something is not right and you shouldnt ignore it. It can help us discover the truth, and avoid bad situations. 

Even if your are insecure, that intuition is like a bee at a bbq outside, that wont leave you alone. Evenually you have to do something about it. If you got trust issues trust me I get it. Dont drive him away, give him a chance. But if you think it, look into it. For example, something is off in your relationship investigate first. Dont look like a idiot and jump to conclusions. 

I am the king of facts. I recently met a guy who I thought was really a good guy. But he always called me when he was at work, or in the car. Never when he was at home. My bestie thought I was bugging I followed my intuition and he was full of shit. Lol
Girls please dont think you are crazy following your intuition. Follow your heart, mind, you know yourself better then anymore else.

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Which Engagement Ring Is For Her?

So it's the season lucky girls are getting engaged and planning weddings. The 1st step is when that lucky guy propose with the ring of your dreams. I always feel like a man should ring shop not with price always on mine, but your girlfriend on mine. Going into a jeweler asking where are the most expensive or not so expensive rings is all wrong. The right way is describing your girls style, and personality to them and have then show you those particular rings. Bring a friend of hers or even a family member. The ring does matter. Its a reflection of how well he knows you and him thinking about you. If he picks a ring he likes and not you, he's basically buying it for himself. Girls, sometimes we don't know what we would like neither. Its okay. I came across this cool site where it quiz's you.
Link to quiz here

These were my results its creepy because its spot on. I am unique I always like to be different. If I got a ring just like somebody I know I may be in my feelings about it. I love different shapes or stones in jewelry. I only wear GOLD, even since I was a kid. I want a wow ring. So unique something you don't see everyday.

But take my bestie who also took the quiz.

She's simple, layed back. She likes traditional. Not so out of the box. Something classic and shouts elegant. Diamond or stone is the focus point.

So see how our taste are so different. Ring does matter. You want to be happy, and he should want you to be happy. 😀

Wednesday, February 17, 2016

5 Signs You're The Girl On The Side (Sidechick)

As women I would hope we all would want to be a mans one and only. It's so hard dating these days because guys feel like its a buffet, full of all the vagina they can get. You can be the most beautiful woman in your town, but that doesn't mean a man will change his ways for you. Having a side chick is becoming a trend for men. I never want to be a side chick and I'm sure you ladies reading this don't as well.

Look I have been a side chick by default, once I found out the truth he got dropped. Lets just say due to womens intuition I saved myself. I almost got caught up in a "sidechick predicament" 

If you've  been wondering some thing's about a guy I will help you figure out if you have been getting played. Now ladies, you have to ask men questions. If you don't ask, he isn't going to volunteer. A closed mouth dont get answers sis.

Check out some signs you may be a side chick. Better to know now then later.

He is unavailable a lot after 7pm.

A man who has other women will become busy. If you were use to him always responding to texts and calls quickly but it suddenly changed. That may mean he's around someone he doesn't want you to know about. Do you call him, then he texts you? You are wondering why can't you call me? He's busy, well clearly not to busy to text. He sees your call, so ask yourself why he didn't answer.

You have never been to his home

If all he does is come over to your place, that's a issue. Dating should be a two way street. He visits you, you visit him. Also if you have asked him where he lives and he never gives you a street address or even a neighborhood, thats shady as hell. I have even said well what if its a emergency and i cant reach you by phone? Try saying something clever and see if he tells you. He clearly doesn't want you popping up at his house, but the question is why.

 If you about that life call a few friends and follow him one night after he leaves your crib. Best to know now than later. 

He never spends the night

A man who has a main woman doesn't have time to spend the night. If he always makes sure he is out the door before midnight you should question him on that. Ladies think clear on this one. After being intimate, does he ask to use the shower, or use the bathroom before leaving your crib. Guess what, he is washing off evidence before he leaves. Or his phone starts ringing but he ignores it. Look at your clock and see how long it takes him to say "I gotta go . That means his main girlfriend or wifey is wondering where he is.
" I remember a guy I was dealing with phone kept going off. Now he was deadass asleep in the next room. I picked the phone up but it had a lock on it. I quickly saw the texts on his iPhone stroll at the top too fast for me to read it. Im a samsung chick so I had no idea on breaking those codes. I googled that you can restart a iphone and all the unread tests will stroll at the top even if phone is locked. Well I did that shit. Let's just say Baby mama Jasmine was wondering why Robert left his laundry unfolded and accused him of being with another bitch (I would be that bitch). Lets just say I didn't fool with him again."

His Family hasn't met you

This is the key one here.  If he always talks about his kids, or his parents or grandparents on how much they mean to him. Wouldn't you think you should meet them, or they should at least know your name? If he is talking to a family member on the phone and says he's at the store but he is really sitting by you. Ask yourself, why didn't he say he is with me. He doesn't need his family knowing about a sidechick.

Social Media Affection Off Limits
If he has a social media and you send him tags, or cute messages and he doesn't do the same or find yours cute that's a obvious clue. If you were his girl you would think showing you off was important. Or maybe he has a social media but doesn't accept your request . Something is on his page he doesn't want you to know about. Lastly let's say he claims to not have a social media. Its 2016 grandma's have social media. Search his name and see what you find. You may be surprised he is on social media.

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