Lurking !!!! When Is It Necessary?

Sometimes you find yourself on a persons page, then see someone you know and go to their page, then another and another. Yes darling, you are a lurker. Don't trip it happens to all of us, but lurking isn't such a bad thing. For a woman who is mysterious about her mans activity you may want to lurk. Now I know there are some who believe"WHATS DONE IN THE DARK WILL COME TO LIGHT" Well I believe "If you think it, believe it, and look into it"

I have been cheated on before like allot of other good women. But because of my woman's intuition and smartness I listen to my gut and look into niggas.

Quick story. 

A few months back I was talking to a guy who seemed like he was digging me. He swore he was different not like the rest. God fearing, ambitious, good independent man, I thought. I told my best friend about him she was so happy that damn I may have found a good man. But I said to her "girl something not right". I kept saying it and she thought I was tripping and letting my past mess this up. So I followed my gut. After LURKING, I came across his ex, who I found out he had another woman in their shared home and that was the reason they broke up. After a few mins of lurking each week I came across a girl who was the reason for his last break up and was actually his girlfriend now. Yasss! He sweared he was different, and wouldn't lie, and cared. Church boy act was a front. Let's just say I scared him so bad he went ghost. 

Don't be the crazy chick going through his wallet, but if you think his ass up to something. Lurk and you may find resolution to the truth. Check out these 4 signs you need to take on the role of a detective and look into your partner. There is nothing worse than those women who are married 20 yrs and find out their man was creeping for the last 10 years 💀. People leave clues like mice leave crumbs. Don't stalk the man and catch a charge, but look into it if you think something.

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Reggie Bush Side Chick Nightmare?

Reggie Bush the football player of the Buffalo Bills...also may be known as Kim Kardashian ex boyfriend. Well that Reggie is in the middle of some nasty, nasty drama. Alledgly with his sidechick. According to Tmz & Bossip this young lady by the name of Monique who works in a night club in miami is alleging she is pregnant with his baby, and that she was actually the mistress, aka sidechick. Now Reggie has been married since 2014 to Lilit Avagyan who is now Mrs.Bush. They have 2 beautiful children together.

I'm just so lost on how, and why. The sidechick Monique is even alleging he offered her 3 million in hush money and to abort the baby. She even may have secretly recorded their sex encounters that allegedly has him asking to nut inside her. Yasssss, I know your mouth is open right now in disgust. This chick planned her come up apparently.

Just today both TMZ & Bossip has found out the sidechick was actually married herself. Her husband is filing for divorce because of the rumor of the affair and wanting dna documents of his own to prove who this baby belongs too. She's 6 months now but dna is possible. Now what do you think Reggies reps are saying? They claim they are just rumors and he is still happily married. Oh okay, sure.

I am wondering if the wife will stay with Reggie if the baby is his. I hate to say it, but part of me thinks her ass is not going any where. I don't judge but in this case I am judging. For a man to have unprotected sex and come home to you, is very disrespectful. So we got 3 more months before the baby drops, I will keep following this story. 

Girlfriend or Sidechick ?

Main chick, side chick are both stupid to me. You would think that every woman wants to be the ONLY chick. Guys show you what you are to them by the way they treat you. With his girlfriend he treats her with respect, he cares about her feelings. He doesn't want to hurt her and lies to protect that. With a side chick he is honest and your feelings aren't something he keeps in mind.

He Is Bluntly Honest

If you are dating a guy who opens up to you he's interested in other women than he pretty much gave you what you needed to hear. Sweetie its obvious he's telling you that because he looks at you like a side chick. So he feels why not tell you, you shouldn't care.

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Not Bluntly Honest

You know you are his girlfriend and his only when he goes out of his way to protect your feelings. He may have a lock on his phone so you won't go in his phone and stroll through his contact list to see a ex girlfriends number. Sounds petty right? But its because your feelings towards him matters. He doesn't want you thinking anything to make yourself insecure. 

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Friendly Verbal Interactions

If he prefers to you as his homie, or his friend is a hurtful but real sign. No kisses, no affection, but you two are actually sexual. He sees you as a friend with no connection. Sis he's just smashing because you are easy and convient. He probably has a main woman at home.

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Loving Verbal Interactions

When he asks how's your day. He misses you. He's affectionate towards you. He has feelings for you. Men who love their girlfriend are affectionate to their girl. He actually enjoys talking to you about those messy chicks at your job.  He can see past your vagina into your mind. 

He's doesn't open up to you

A guy who makes you his side chick are very secretive with you about where they work, where they live, sometimes their names. He doesn't want you coming by his home,  or calling his job. Normally guys who see you as a sure thing won't follow you on social media. He has another somebody he doesn't want crossing paths into his secret extra activities with you. 

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He told you everything

Girlfriends get to meet the family, friends, co workers even the pets. You probably have a key to his place and has his work number. A guy who is serious about you being a girlfriend looks forward to inviting you into his life.  He knows he wants you, so he's ready to have you in his life. 

5 Signs You're The Girl On The Side (Sidechick)

As women I would hope we all would want to be a mans one and only. It's so hard dating these days because guys feel like its a buffet, full of all the vagina they can get. You can be the most beautiful woman in your town, but that doesn't mean a man will change his ways for you. Having a side chick is becoming a trend for men. I never want to be a side chick and I'm sure you ladies reading this don't as well.

Look I have been a side chick by default, once I found out the truth he got dropped. Lets just say due to womens intuition I saved myself. I almost got caught up in a "sidechick predicament" 

If you've  been wondering some thing's about a guy I will help you figure out if you have been getting played. Now ladies, you have to ask men questions. If you don't ask, he isn't going to volunteer. A closed mouth dont get answers sis.

Check out some signs you may be a side chick. Better to know now then later.

He is unavailable a lot after 7pm.

A man who has other women will become busy. If you were use to him always responding to texts and calls quickly but it suddenly changed. That may mean he's around someone he doesn't want you to know about. Do you call him, then he texts you? You are wondering why can't you call me? He's busy, well clearly not to busy to text. He sees your call, so ask yourself why he didn't answer.

You have never been to his home

If all he does is come over to your place, that's a issue. Dating should be a two way street. He visits you, you visit him. Also if you have asked him where he lives and he never gives you a street address or even a neighborhood, thats shady as hell. I have even said well what if its a emergency and i cant reach you by phone? Try saying something clever and see if he tells you. He clearly doesn't want you popping up at his house, but the question is why.

 If you about that life call a few friends and follow him one night after he leaves your crib. Best to know now than later. 

He never spends the night

A man who has a main woman doesn't have time to spend the night. If he always makes sure he is out the door before midnight you should question him on that. Ladies think clear on this one. After being intimate, does he ask to use the shower, or use the bathroom before leaving your crib. Guess what, he is washing off evidence before he leaves. Or his phone starts ringing but he ignores it. Look at your clock and see how long it takes him to say "I gotta go . That means his main girlfriend or wifey is wondering where he is.
" I remember a guy I was dealing with phone kept going off. Now he was deadass asleep in the next room. I picked the phone up but it had a lock on it. I quickly saw the texts on his iPhone stroll at the top too fast for me to read it. Im a samsung chick so I had no idea on breaking those codes. I googled that you can restart a iphone and all the unread tests will stroll at the top even if phone is locked. Well I did that shit. Let's just say Baby mama Jasmine was wondering why Robert left his laundry unfolded and accused him of being with another bitch (I would be that bitch). Lets just say I didn't fool with him again."

His Family hasn't met you

This is the key one here.  If he always talks about his kids, or his parents or grandparents on how much they mean to him. Wouldn't you think you should meet them, or they should at least know your name? If he is talking to a family member on the phone and says he's at the store but he is really sitting by you. Ask yourself, why didn't he say he is with me. He doesn't need his family knowing about a sidechick.

Social Media Affection Off Limits
If he has a social media and you send him tags, or cute messages and he doesn't do the same or find yours cute that's a obvious clue. If you were his girl you would think showing you off was important. Or maybe he has a social media but doesn't accept your request . Something is on his page he doesn't want you to know about. Lastly let's say he claims to not have a social media. Its 2016 grandma's have social media. Search his name and see what you find. You may be surprised he is on social media.

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