.

.

......

Saturday, May 26, 2018

Unstable

If you're a subscriber you will know Janine is a R&B singer who's lyrics I have used as topics. She has a line in her song called Unstable. She sings:
"But loving you is chaos

But the fire is incredible"
You may be in a volatile relationship where it's always arguing and just unhappiness. He doesn't understand you, he doesn't care or it may feel like he doesn't even try. The fire is in the love and passion, but truly you know that situation is chaos. How do you handle that? Leave!


Being in that type of relationship or situation is not mentally and emotionally good for your spirit, soul and heart. You need balance. The break ups, and back and forth will drain you sis. He loves you,  he loves you not. Those sudden changes of moods is not good. The feeling of joy and the disappointment is enough to spiritually suck you dry. There are steady situations for you. You just have to decide you want better. 

We all want to be with the one we love. It's only natural to want to spend your life with that person. Is it worth you destroying yourself just to tolerate a inconsistent situation? Men come and go. Cry about it and just be done with it. Janine has another line in her song where she sings :
"You bring me to the top

To throw me down to zero"
They tell you they love you,  but hurt you. You're at the top, and the feeling of disappointment feels like winning a race only to be told after the fact that  everything you did to win you still lose.

A friend once told me "You're not in love. You think you love him because you haven't been brave enough to let that go. This back and fourth thing is rocky. Why can't you let him go and be with someone who brings peace and harmony in your life. "

Check out Janine single "Unstable". She's one of my favorite artists.







Monday, May 7, 2018

Met Gala 2018 Fashion Picks

So I love met gala and picking my top fashion picks. I do it every year. But this year it was hard because finally mostly everyone was on point for the the theme.Last year's theme was a hot mess. This year's #MetGala theme was "Heavenly Bodies", Fashion and the Catholic Imagination.” Its inspiration is religious art in the museum’s holding it self. It's a fundraiser where celebrities who are selected attend at a cost of 30k to pretty much mingle and party. But the designer's are the ones who get to show off their designs. I'm impressed this year
_________________________________________

Sara Jessica Parker
 Kim Kardashian West
                       Katy Perry
                           Rita Ora
                         Rihanna
                   Ariana Grande
                   Diddy & Cassie
                     Jennifer Lopez
                       Kylie Jenner
                      Mary J Blige
                         Cardi B
              Queen Nicki Minaj
                    Janelle Monae

Slowly will be adding more. These are the ones who stayed on theme.
                           Zendaya
                       Gigi Hadid
                     Selena Gomez
                   Kendall Jenner
                            Sza
                       Bella Hadid

Solange


Tuesday, April 24, 2018

Damn Gina: "You Took Him Back Again"?

Eve didn't lie when she said love is blind. Love really will have you out here looking foolish. Why is that? Like my previous post sometimes it has something to do with being dickmerized . Is it really that good to be tolerating alot of the mess you allow him to put you through. A man will only treat you how you allow him to treat you. The cheating, the having babies outside your relationship, not helping financially and the abuse. When is enough, actually enough.

I have seen a big increase of women not only in my personal life but also in the media who constantly get walked all over.

Yes I should mind my business but I don't want to. What I want is for us girls to walk away and stop taking them back.  The only way to learn from your mistakes is to be taught a lesson. There are some men who go from woman, to woman with the same bad behavior. That's because they voluntarily leave you and go to another woman doing the same extact things. Make him regret what he did, so when he moves on he does better by the next woman.

Look at rapper Cardi B.  She's at the rise of her career. Making money,  successful and all.

Her fiance Offset has been caught on video maybe twice now cheating on her with unknown women. She stayed and now they are expecting a child together. He pretty much cheated on her while she was pregnant and she took him back because she says he makes her happy.  But what lesson did he learn from embarrassing her in front of the world?

Emily B who is a former cast member of love and hiphop has been on and off over 10 years with rapper Fabolous. This poor girl has been dealing with infidelity,  disrespect and just recently we found out abuse.

 After she alleged he punched out 2 of her front teeth, he later turned himself into the police. But just this weekend guess who was spotted together at Coachella. Yes Emily & Fabolous.  Video was sent exclusively to The Shaderoom




The most talked about #DamnGina moment is Khloe Kardashian and her NBA baby daddy Tristan Thompson  who was caught on video booed up with some groupies and heading back to the hotel with 1.

It's been rumored they are working things out.  He was caught cheating just days before she gave birth to their daughter. The disrespect of cheating on you while pregnant is the biggest slap in the face. Unfortunately it seems as if she's upset but she's going to stick it out according to reports.

So what makes a woman walk away from a relationship ? Is there a certain number of times or a incident that will force you to walk away?

Monday, April 16, 2018

Workplace Hook Ups ( Do you agree?)


Can you be a naughty girl and be about your business? Let's face it, work has become the newest way of meeting guys besides Instagram. You work between 8-12 hours a day seeing the same people. Attraction is strong, if they see something they like they will pursue.
I have always worked in a office setting. Personally I'm lazy as hell and I prefer to sit down in the air conditioning. I have noticed over the years that in most office environments somebody is hooking up. I don't technically mean hooking up but you get the point.

In 2018 it is very common to have companies have a NO DATING IN THE WORKPLACE POLICY.  An office relationship can lead to charges of sexual harassment if things ended badly. Don't think because you're a woman a man couldn't be petty like that. Remember men get scorned too. Truthfully between us, allot of men can't handle hookups and being ignored.  It also could cause outside drama brought into the workplace if someone is married. Just 2 weeks ago the company I work for was put on lock down. Apparently someone was having a affair with another employee and his wife found out and came ready to whoop ass..


Workplace romance has it's pros and cons. I have met couples who've  met at the job and are married, still working together. Then I have met people who have tried dating people only for things to end and turn bad. Look I understand you may see someone you want, don't let me stop you, but let me help you in determining if  that's the right decision. Let's begin with cons. 

  1. People are nosey. Let's face it the biggest flaw amongst people is them  not minding their own business. You don't want everyone in the office knowing your business.  The last thing you want is co workers knowing who you're  hooking up with after work. 
  2. Violating company policy. Its been a while since I have seen a company NOT have rules on workplace romance. There have been cases where people were fired for not following the rules. Do you really want to lose income and processional reputations just to date someone. 
  3. Drama could quickly abrupt at your job if the relationship ends bad. The tension in the office will be sharp as a knife. Don't bring bullshit to your place of work because it will stink up the place. There is a luxury of ending a relationship and never having to see them again. But in the workplace you still have to see them..
  4. Distraction. Having them at your job could be a distraction.  Them constantly emailing you, or stopping by your desk could get in the way of your job. Plus the nervousness of your managers finding out can becoming nerve bottling. 


  1. Having someone who understands a long day of hard work. The pros would be having someone to discuss work with. They may van even help you get better and your job. To keep it real, if you are dealing with the right person it could help advance your career. It could be a great opportunity for you. Love and promotion.
  2. If you are dating someone at your job, why wonder what they are doing when you have front row seats. If you find yourself in a workplace romance you can keep a eye on your man better since he's in the same building. 
  3. If you are having car problems you have someone to ride with. 




4. You get to see them every day if you are that clingy type that doesn't mind that. 

5. Work becomes fun. Going to working seeing someone you like can give you butterflies. Could become a little naughty scandal if you two are intimate. 

I would suggest not dealing with anyone at your job especially in same department.  If you can't help your self don't tell anyone. Remember work is work. Just because you have work buddies doesn't mean they will be loyal.