Friday, September 13, 2019

Kayla Got The 411 Podcast: Episode 16 - Understanding The Mind Of A Man

Whats the 411?

-Antonio Brown Rape Allegations

-Wendy William's New Marriage Rules

Girl Talk Discussion:
"Understanding The Mind Of A Man"

****Special Guest Lex @blu_duke_jr from Sophisticated Ignorance Podcast. Frank @frank_stylz from The @336PullUp Podcast. Also the lovely Danielle .

Inspired by:

Alex @blu_duke_jr from Sophisticated Ignorance Podcast and Frank @frank_stylz from The @336PullUp Podcast. Also Danielle 

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Friday, September 6, 2019

Sunday, August 11, 2019

The Self Pleasing Woman

You had a long day. You come home, take a shower, eat and need something relaxing to put you to sleep. You may have a few sex toys to help you have a orgasm or you may be old school and use your fingers. Once you cum, you fall right asleep. That is very common amongst many women. Not just single women.

One of the best ways to understand your body is by getting to know your body. Its yours, you're stuck with it.  As you get familiar with your body you may start enjoying your body and building self confidence.

Every women masturbates for different reasons and some choose to not do so. You may be stressed. Single. Not sexually satisfied with your partner, or just damn right freaky. There is nothing wrong with touching your own body. This is a topic that many women feel embarrassed to talk about. I never really understood why until I spoke to a few women who don't. They said they felt uncomfortable or embarrassed even though they were by themselves. The thought of engaging in sexual activity without a man was creepy one said.

I started using vibrators as a teen.  It did help relieve sexual frustration without going out releasing it with every boy in the town. Most young girls are curious about sex, and studies show most women masturbate before the age of 18.  Its safe and healthy as long as it doesn't consume your life.

Many couples bring sex toys, or use porn to spice things up. Then you have a few women who say their men hate the idea of sex toys. One woman I spoke to says she comes home on her lunch break and uses hers while the boyfriend is at work. Do you think some men feel threatened by sex toys possible pleasing you better? I sometimes think that the idea of you getting a orgasm without, makes some men furious.  If this is your case, let your man know why you do it. Maybe try to let him use it on you.  Him walking in on you masturbating may be a shock.

The real reason why women masturbate is because it just feels good. It doesn't take anything away from a man. Many if us do it because we truly enjoy it. Nothing is wrong with you if you are arouse yourself.

Wednesday, July 31, 2019

What Is Your Love Language?

We all are unique in our own way. We look different, we talk different, and most importantly we love different. We all have our own way of expressing love and receiving love.When you share deep intimacy, passion, and commitment with someone, love develops. If you have experienced love you know it's a beautiful feeling, but sometimes not a good feeling if you can't express love. I had to learn my love language and learned how to pay attention to others love languages. 
 You can't fully love a person if you don't understand what their heart needs.

Singer and song writer Kehlani has a song titled "Love Language". In the song she starts off singing

"A lot of ways to love you
Teach me through your eyes

What is needed for you?"

Check out the 5 love languages from Gary Chapman's book published in the 90s. This book has sold more than 10 million copies. I got this book off Amazon and it was such a learning experience. Learning how you love and accept love could help improve the passion in your current or future relationships, even the ones non romantic.

Words of Affirmation
This language is all about voicing your love to the person. This is actually my love language. Telling me how you feel about me, and saying heartfelt things is the key to my heart along with the next love language on the list. Those small compliments you think are nothing means a lot to a person who has this love language.  But remember people with this love language may start to feel insecure.  They always need validation on where they stand in your life.

Acts of Service

We all have heard the saying,
This love language means exactly that. Don't just say you love me, prove it. This love language requires effort. This is the main love language people struggle with accomplishing. Your partner hears your words of affirmation, but your actions are not showing that. They have to see your kindness, and commitment to accept your love. 

Receiving Gift

I hear alot on how this next love language is materialistic. This love language is fine if that person has other love languages they need. This love language means gifting that person. You can take your girl car to get new tires. Or you can cook your guy dinner. This person wants something ssomething from you to know you still care.

Quality Time

People with this love language enjoy your company. Time together they want not interruptions. So leave your phone in your purse, or pocket. With social media, people with this love language have a hard time getting through to their partner. Understand they are not being selfish. If that person is not getting your attention their minds start to wonder. Engage more with these type of people.

Physical Touch

Last love language on the list involves physical affection. This doesn't involve just sex. People with this love language loves your kisses, and hugs. You may have a partner who holds you like a hostage at night. They feel love through touch. So those love hugs means alot.

Find out your love language

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