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Monday, January 15, 2018

#MLKJRDAY๐Ÿ’™



On April 4, 1964 on my mothers 11th birthday, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr was assassinated while standing on a balcony outside his second-๏ฌ‚oor room at the Lorraine Motel in Memphis, Tennessee. She recalls being so young at the time but remember hearing it on the radio broadcast that he was shot and killed.  She recalls everyone in the neighborhood going outside and destroying all the business and rioting. Not only in Augusta, Georgia but all over the world. People were angry, upset, felt hopeless. 


Dr Martin Luther King gave black folks hope that one day blacks and whites could go to school together, and shop together. 54 years later a lot of our parents and grandparents who aren't living would be proud to see the progress and everything he went through made a difference. We are still dealing with racism, and injustice today, but because of the strength, and bravery Martin Luther King Jr had,  it's the reason I and yourself reading this can live in a country and have equal rights.  So today we take the time to honor a man who gave up a wife, and family to make this country a better place.  R. I. P We Love You. 

"Thank you Dr Martin Luther King Jr for all you have done for us.  There has been progress and much more needed but thank you for giving us hope.  #MLK" ๐Ÿ’™




Sunday, January 14, 2018

Wack Sex: Stay Or Go?



The most annoying feeling for a woman is laying next to a guy after bad sex.  Bad sex doesn't always mean the sex itself was bad.  Leaving a woman feeling unsatisfied is also bad sex.  It's like going to a new restaurant that looked great on the outside, but once you got there and tried the food it wasn't all that. It was BLAH!


Men don't realize that bad sex for a woman is the biggest deal breaker. Size is not always the issue. Let's keep it real girls,  a lot of grown ass men don't know their own strokes and movements. They think because they are big in size that's all is needed.  The same way they put effort into getting meat out of crab legs, put the same effort into your woman during sex. From most women I have spoken to,  the number one problem is ..

Women are soft, and gentle naturally. Sex is all about the anticipation. Foreplay is cool if that's what you're into.  Kissing, licking, sucking are all some key things guys can do to lead into sex. Make her want it by teasing her. Their major problem is no patience. They want to dive in, get their nut and go to sleep. All in 1-5 mins while you're laying their unsatisfied feeling used and unwanted.

Men think women are like jack rabbits who want to go on and on all night. I have even heard the line, "You'll just lay there." They're so one sided to understand the length of sex is not the problem.  Them not fulfilling their sexual duties by making sure their woman is satisfied is the issue.
I remember in my last relationship he would wake up the next morning confused as to why I was so upset. Had the nerves to say "I know you not mad about last night?" Of course after satisfying him and 3 mins in he gets what he needed and falls into a deep coma of sleep after wards, I would be pissed off.

 It got to the point I was so turned off by it I hit my ex up the day after.  At least he knew and understood my body. That was a deal breaker for me.  So what your sex is good, but if 80% of the time you're selfish and inconsiderate to her needs it's not worth it.

So the big question is...

Sex is a big cause for break-ups and infidelity in relationships.  People we who aren't satisfied tend to wander off. Most people don't like to admit it,  but I will.  Sex is very important in relationships. So if you decide to stay talk to your guy about your desires.  A lot of your men don't even know you're not sexually satisfied, because you don't talk to them.


Thursday, January 4, 2018

Are You Willing To Give Sugar For A Sugar Daddy (Must Read) ๐Ÿ‘€

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When I say sugar daddy I don't mean the candy sis I mean that old man who's probably old enough to be your dad.  If you're really messy,  he may be old enough to be your granddad. A sugar daddy is pretty much a older man who lavishes someone younger with gifts,  and money only if she does something strange for a little piece of change. Not all the time but majority.


 I an not a sugar baby.  Personally Ive  had a few old men try to recruit me. If we really gone keep it real,  I have thought about it especially during my college days. I even made a account on one of those websites, one in particular SeekingArrangement.com
I SURE DID GURLLL.  When I got a message from one of my teachers from middle school trying to recruit me,  I knew it was time to deactivate.  

What I realized for me personally I am not fake enough to act interested in a sugardaddy. Plus most sugar daddies love submissive women. If you're opinionated, bossy, and demanding he can't tolalerate you. He doesn't want a baby who's gone talk back. Most sugar babies don't find their sugar daddies attractive, they find his pockets more attractive. A lot of them play along to get what they need from him. They don't love your old ass. 

Truthfully I don't look down on girls who have sugar daddies. I'm open and understand why they choose to do so. Even if I personally would not. In my eyes I look at it as desperate times call for desperate measures.  She must really be going through a hard time to tolerate it. 

Most studies show that college women between ages 18-25 are normally the sugar baby age group.  Think about it?  You're in college, on your own trying to pay for books,  and tuition. From experience college is hard and a lot of life responsibilities come with it. Chipotle cashier or sugar baby?  Some sugar daddies just want the attention and company of a young woman.  Then the other majority wants pleasure. The girls look at it as easy money and gifts. All they have to do is please him.  Sometimes it's also a low self esteem thing.  Feeling as if they are not good enough and wanted, but this older man comes along to give them better.  Let's not act as if the men don't do it for their own insecure reasons.  Using money, and gifts to bribe beautiful young women into being with you. 

Most chicks I know who have sugar daddies never fully admit to being sexual active with him.  They always say he's just nice like that. In my mind I'm thinking.... 

Not many men no matter how old and desperate they are will spend money and buy gifts and lavish vacations and get nothing out the deal.  It's like a business deal.  You do for me, I do for you. Men have been doing it for years, and women are now doing it to men.  Telling people you have a sugar daddy is also embarrassing. That's something I feel you need to keep to yourself. Just make sure someone knows who he is just in case he's a insane person and your life is in danger. Truthfully most sugar daddies have a wife and kids hidden off somewhere in the suburbs, so sis your secret is good with him.  But I have heard of these situations turning out bad. 

I watched this documentary on the life of sugar babies and dealing with sugar daddies before writing this.  . 

 In 2014 there was a kick-start program for a documentary called Daddies Who Date Babies. (sounds creepy right).  But it must have never been created. I came across a tumbler page  for it of people telling their stories and how dangerous it can also be. 
 I quote one story from a commenter. 
Just remember to be careful. Your life is your choice.  I don't condone being someones sugar baby but I don't judge people on it.  I want all us girls to work hard, be independent.  Reality is real life happens and some have to survive.  Please be careful.  Remember that leading men on can be dangerous. If they are buying you gifts, taking you on dates ask yourself what will they want from you?  Be smart,  be safe .

Saturday, December 30, 2017

New Years Resolutions (Goal Digger Edition)


Hello everyone.  It is now 8:25 p.m eastern time on December 30, 2017 as I write this.… One more day in 2017. Have you looked back and reflected on how this year as a whole turned out?  I did and I truly must say as a whole this wasn't a good year.  Between the violent mass murders, police brutality, weather catastrophic,  this was a rough year. One thing I do hope is 2018 brings us more peace and love. 

I am not going to make my resolutions for 2018 just to not do it.  That's the thing people don't actually think things throughout. I look at new years resolution as goals.  I feel like saying resolutions sounds good but in reality there are things people put on their list knowing damn well it won't be done. You may work out,  for a week or two. Or the ones who say they're going to start going to church every Sunday.  You see them 1st Sunday and never again. 

My resolutions are goals. Things I know I will do,  because it will help benefit me. Check out my 5 goals. Next year around this time the goal is to come back and hope I got them all completed. 

 The first goal of mines for 2018 is to take some hosting classes.  One way I would like to expand my brand is by interviewing and hosting.  I would like to learn more about that field,  before I actually go out there and do it. 

 I have a major fear if heights. No joke.. Going to the mall and riding the escalators freaks me out. Because of my fears I have never been on a airplane before.  This is one goal I must force myself to do.  A great opportunity may come up and I can't allow my fear of heights to stop me. 

 Third is to get my articles featured in other publications.  I always wanted to be a guess writer for Essence Magazine. I will truly be submitting more submissions into them on topics hoping one catches the editors attention. But to get Kayla Got The 411 as the author throughout many publications is the mission. 

 Networking.  It's hard to talk to others who aren't in my field or understand my passion of writing and my newest podcast. People who don't think like you won't get it.  I will be going to many network events in 2018 to meet women like myself who have business goals they're trying to achieve. When women put their power together we do a lot of great things. Plus I am fun,  outgoing, and know what I want.  I need to be around others like myself. 

 Focusing on my family.  Recently I saw my father who I haven't seen in years.  I don't know him,  and he doesn't know who I am which is sad.  Meaning, we have no idea each others personailty. I want to put effort into getting to know him.  Maybe that way all the questions I have can be answered. I want to do more family activities with my mother and daughter. My daughter and I always do fun events.  But I want to get my mother to join us.  These times are precious and I don't want to take it for granted. 


Happy New Year Dolls.  Thank you to ever subscriber,  and person who comes to read my post.  The views, and shares this year were amazing. I was sometimes shocked. I'm happy to share my experiences.  I am no expert. I am just a girl with a passion for writing who shares her experiences. If I can make you laugh, smile , or say yassss at least once,  I have accomplished what I wanted. Be safe, be brave, be bold see you next year. 



Wednesday, December 27, 2017

You're Not Invited (Fashion Trends To Keep In 2017)





Hey there you'll.  With only 4 more days left in 2017 I am reflecting back on the fashion this year.  Normally how fashion statements begin is a celebrity making it popular. Let's be real,  Monkey See,  Monkey Do is how I look at fashion. But just because our favorite celebrities wear it, that doesn't mean its a good look for everyday wear.  Now darling I'm not Anna Wintour but I do know there are some fashion / beauty trends of 2017 I would like to not invite into the new year.  Let's begin.

No Bra/ See Through




This was the year the twins were on display. I do love a nice cleavage moment when it comes to my fashion.  When the titties are just there looking back at you like ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘, now I think we're taking it too far. Rihanna pulled it off best and first and now I'm seeing chicks at target with no bra,  see through top,  and titties staring at me,  or the floor.  Can we leave this trend here in the year of 2017. Let's keep men imaging what we look like under our clothes, not give them a free show. 
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  Man Bun


Maybe it's just me on this one.  This year women were drooling over this new trend of men wearing buns.  Apparently this is the top style on the barbers list, but not for me.  I hate the style. The dutch braids, shaved sides,  all awful.  I think a good looking man can for sure pull it off.  The look doesn't make my panties wet,  only dry.  It takes away the masculinity in a man.  


Track Suits With Heels 

I blame Kim Kardashian for this one.  Her style use to be so fabulous.  This trend of taking track suits,  with heels and a fabulous fur has to stay behind.  The pairing of a Adidas tracksuit, heels, and a fur is straight tacky to me.  I haven't seen this style rocked on the streets thankfully. So far the celebrities are owning this trend and I hope they retire it. 

These are my picks I don't prefer.  Everyone has a opinion.  You may like vanilla ice cream,  I prefer strawberry. Enjoy and share your 2017 fashion trends you would like to leave behind.