Damn Gina: "You Took Him Back Again"?

Eve didn't lie when she said love is blind. Love really will have you out here looking foolish. Why is that? Like my previous post sometimes it has something to do with being dickmerized . Is it really that good to be tolerating alot of the mess you allow him to put you through. A man will only treat you how you allow him to treat you. The cheating, the having babies outside your relationship, not helping financially and the abuse. When is enough, actually enough.

I have seen a big increase of women not only in my personal life but also in the media who constantly get walked all over.

Yes I should mind my business but I don't want to. What I want is for us girls to walk away and stop taking them back.  The only way to learn from your mistakes is to be taught a lesson. There are some men who go from woman, to woman with the same bad behavior. That's because they voluntarily leave you and go to another woman doing the same extact things. Make him regret what he did, so when he moves on he does better by the next woman.

Look at rapper Cardi B.  She's at the rise of her career. Making money,  successful and all.

Her fiance Offset has been caught on video maybe twice now cheating on her with unknown women. She stayed and now they are expecting a child together. He pretty much cheated on her while she was pregnant and she took him back because she says he makes her happy.  But what lesson did he learn from embarrassing her in front of the world?

Emily B who is a former cast member of love and hiphop has been on and off over 10 years with rapper Fabolous. This poor girl has been dealing with infidelity,  disrespect and just recently we found out abuse.

 After she alleged he punched out 2 of her front teeth, he later turned himself into the police. But just this weekend guess who was spotted together at Coachella. Yes Emily & Fabolous.  Video was sent exclusively to The Shaderoom

TSR Staff: Kyle Anfernee Instagram: @Kyle.Anfernee Fabolous has been laying low for the past couple of weeks after news broke that he allegedly assaluted the mother of his children, Emily B. ___________________________________ Many thought that Emily would be throwing up the deuces after Fab reportedly threatened her father and brother, but it looks like the heart wants what it wants because the two of them were spotted at Coachella trying to keep a low profile. ___________________________________ One of our followers were able to get a LITTLE glimpse of the two and other Coachella goers confirmed via Twitter!

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The most talked about #DamnGina moment is Khloe Kardashian and her NBA baby daddy Tristan Thompson  who was caught on video booed up with some groupies and heading back to the hotel with 1.

It's been rumored they are working things out.  He was caught cheating just days before she gave birth to their daughter. The disrespect of cheating on you while pregnant is the biggest slap in the face. Unfortunately it seems as if she's upset but she's going to stick it out according to reports.

So what makes a woman walk away from a relationship ? Is there a certain number of times or a incident that will force you to walk away?

NASA Removed What "Would've Been" 1st African American Astronaut Jeanette Epps Off Upcoming Spaceflight

Jeanette Jo Epps is an Engineer and NASA Astronaut

Strangely without reason Jeanette Epps was booted off a mission to be a crew member on the international space station. Sis would of made history in becoming the 1st African American woman astronaut to actually serve a long term stay on the international space station. 

NASA made a announcement this past Thursday they were taking Jeanette off the mission and replacing her with this woman

Serena Auñón-Chancellor

Now normally when this happens there is a reason behind it.  But in this case NASA

has not gave a reasoning behind it. Serena Auñón-Chancellor was actually Jeannette Epps backup. All NASA stated was she would be returning to NASA’s Johnson Space Centre in Houston to assume duties in the office and would be considered for future assignments.

We don't know as of yet why they reassigned her. But we do know Jeanette dreams are crushed. She dreamed of one day walking in space and now her dreams are no longer happening in June of 2018.

Inquiring minds want to know... 

@NASA we need answers.  Is it because she's sick,  not qualified or because she would if been the 1st African American woman to actually live on the international space station? This woman seemed as if she was ready, and qualified. Let's stay tuned for a reason. I'm not going to say why I really think they reassigned her but I'll wait on their explanation first. 

Wack Sex: Stay Or Go?

The most annoying feeling for a woman is laying next to a guy after bad sex.  Bad sex doesn't always mean the sex itself was bad.  Leaving a woman feeling unsatisfied is also bad sex.  It's like going to a new restaurant that looked great on the outside, but once you got there and tried the food it wasn't all that. It was BLAH!

Men don't realize that bad sex for a woman is the biggest deal breaker. Size is not always the issue. Let's keep it real girls,  a lot of grown ass men don't know their own strokes and movements. They think because they are big in size that's all is needed.  The same way they put effort into getting meat out of crab legs, put the same effort into your woman during sex. From most women I have spoken to,  the number one problem is ..

Women are soft, and gentle naturally. Sex is all about the anticipation. Foreplay is cool if that's what you're into.  Kissing, licking, sucking are all some key things guys can do to lead into sex. Make her want it by teasing her. Their major problem is no patience. They want to dive in, get their nut and go to sleep. All in 1-5 mins while you're laying their unsatisfied feeling used and unwanted.

Men think women are like jack rabbits who want to go on and on all night. I have even heard the line, "You'll just lay there." They're so one sided to understand the length of sex is not the problem.  Them not fulfilling their sexual duties by making sure their woman is satisfied is the issue.
I remember in my last relationship he would wake up the next morning confused as to why I was so upset. Had the nerves to say "I know you not mad about last night?" Of course after satisfying him and 3 mins in he gets what he needed and falls into a deep coma of sleep after wards, I would be pissed off.

 It got to the point I was so turned off by it I hit my ex up the day after.  At least he knew and understood my body. That was a deal breaker for me.  So what your sex is good, but if 80% of the time you're selfish and inconsiderate to her needs it's not worth it.

So the big question is...

Sex is a big cause for break-ups and infidelity in relationships.  People we who aren't satisfied tend to wander off. Most people don't like to admit it,  but I will.  Sex is very important in relationships. So if you decide to stay talk to your guy about your desires.  A lot of your men don't even know you're not sexually satisfied, because you don't talk to them.

New Years Resolutions (Goal Digger Edition)

Hello everyone.  It is now 8:25 p.m eastern time on December 30, 2017 as I write this.… One more day in 2017. Have you looked back and reflected on how this year as a whole turned out?  I did and I truly must say as a whole this wasn't a good year.  Between the violent mass murders, police brutality, weather catastrophic,  this was a rough year. One thing I do hope is 2018 brings us more peace and love. 

I am not going to make my resolutions for 2018 just to not do it.  That's the thing people don't actually think things throughout. I look at new years resolution as goals.  I feel like saying resolutions sounds good but in reality there are things people put on their list knowing damn well it won't be done. You may work out,  for a week or two. Or the ones who say they're going to start going to church every Sunday.  You see them 1st Sunday and never again. 

My resolutions are goals. Things I know I will do,  because it will help benefit me. Check out my 5 goals. Next year around this time the goal is to come back and hope I got them all completed. 

 The first goal of mines for 2018 is to take some hosting classes.  One way I would like to expand my brand is by interviewing and hosting.  I would like to learn more about that field,  before I actually go out there and do it. 

 I have a major fear if heights. No joke.. Going to the mall and riding the escalators freaks me out. Because of my fears I have never been on a airplane before.  This is one goal I must force myself to do.  A great opportunity may come up and I can't allow my fear of heights to stop me. 

 Third is to get my articles featured in other publications.  I always wanted to be a guess writer for Essence Magazine. I will truly be submitting more submissions into them on topics hoping one catches the editors attention. But to get Kayla Got The 411 as the author throughout many publications is the mission. 

 Networking.  It's hard to talk to others who aren't in my field or understand my passion of writing and my newest podcast. People who don't think like you won't get it.  I will be going to many network events in 2018 to meet women like myself who have business goals they're trying to achieve. When women put their power together we do a lot of great things. Plus I am fun,  outgoing, and know what I want.  I need to be around others like myself. 

 Focusing on my family.  Recently I saw my father who I haven't seen in years.  I don't know him,  and he doesn't know who I am which is sad.  Meaning, we have no idea each others personailty. I want to put effort into getting to know him.  Maybe that way all the questions I have can be answered. I want to do more family activities with my mother and daughter. My daughter and I always do fun events.  But I want to get my mother to join us.  These times are precious and I don't want to take it for granted. 

Happy New Year Dolls.  Thank you to ever subscriber,  and person who comes to read my post.  The views, and shares this year were amazing. I was sometimes shocked. I'm happy to share my experiences.  I am no expert. I am just a girl with a passion for writing who shares her experiences. If I can make you laugh, smile , or say yassss at least once,  I have accomplished what I wanted. Be safe, be brave, be bold see you next year. 

NeveR ThE RighT TimE

Do you think it's true that everyone has a soulmate?  You know that person no matter what path you both take in life, the feelings always stay.  The person who knew you,  understood you,  and made you feel complete. 

But

It just wasn't the right time. You love them,  they love you but right then at that moment it just wasn't the right time for you two to be together.

You both or one of you could not be particularly ready to settle down.  You know that this person is the one for you but it just won't work out. Maybe both of you want different things in life.

The most devastating feeling is to have to love someone from a distance. Knowing you can't be together when all you want is them.  I believe the pain comes heavy having to watch them move on.  Never the right time is it?

People sometimes meet at the wrong time in life.  You may be in college or working on your career goals and they have their own thing going. Or you may be in a whole relationship with someone else and here he comes.  Messing up what you thought, was a good thing.

It's easy to say well if you love the person go be with them.  Easier said than done.
But real life shit happens.  Love has detours.  Sometimes you can get through it,  but sometimes you have to go another path. Get it!

I walked away from someone who made me the happiness I ever been with a man.  His presence, his personality, his heart, I loved.  But his future and my future didn't mix.  I'm a good girl.  I want to go the narrow path in life, become a mogul of my brand. Build success the right way.  He is the opposite, he wanted to have success and money no matter the consequences.  I didn't want that, and he didn't want to change who he was. Love is amazing, but sometimes your soul mate enters your life at the wrong time.  Maybe if I met him years later when he was mature and thinking different the puzzle would fit.

Never the Right Time?
Or Not The Right One.

Never The Right Time

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Who's Relationship Goals? 🤷‍♀️

Will be posted November 5, 2017

Episode 2: "Who's Relationship Goals ?"

Don't speak for me or others when you say #Relationshipgoals. I'm down for inspiring and motivating the single ones to have a relationship, but let's keep it real.  Those hashtag Relationship Goals memes aren't for everyone.  So who's relationship goals? 

As a millennial myself born in 1991 let me be the first to say majority of us don't have any idea what relationship goals are unless you grew up fortunate to see your parents show you by example. But lots of my generation are basing it off of social media and the reality shows.  It' has portrayed a picture that they are so perfect. Then things hit the fan and the Breaking News is, "He & She Are Divorcing After 72 Days". 

The fame,  the money is what people consider relationship goals. You do know people with money and fame have issues too? 

Example...  Singer Tamar Braxton & Manager Husband Vince Herbert from the reality show Braxton Family Values are calling it quits after a 9 year marriage. 

They were known as the power couple because they had TV shows,  money, artists he was managing like "Lady Gaga" and clothing lines. They seemed like the better modern day Ike & Tina without the beatings. Everyone knew them as that couple that did and went everywhere together. Just weeks before it was announced Tamar filed, they were seen loving it up as if they were going stronger than ever.  After a alledged abuse 911 call last year and rumor controlling ways he had over her. #RelationshipGoals turned out to be struggling. 

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Mary J Blige and ex husband Kendu Isaacs divorced after 12, years of marriage. Kendu was caught cheating and is currently receiving a big spousal support check after it all.  He was known as the good guy who got Mary clean and career back on track.  We looked at them as that couple still going strong. Everyone thought they were perfect.  But turns out Mary didn't think so.  She told Angie Martinez in a interview from March, 

"You start to realize that this man doesn’t want you and he’s just gone all the time and you’re by yourself in the relationship,” said Blige. “When you realize you’re by yourself and you’re just suffering through it, now it’s time to do some investigating"

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Trust me I know it isn't always a good idea to look at others relationships as goals. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with looking to other couples as inspiration and for advice.  Come on,  you have to be realistic. Cardi B & rapper Offset from rap group Migos are engaged after a few months of dating. Cardi B left a long relationship for her incarcerated ex. Lets give them more time to build their relationship before referring to them as relationship goals and not admire money,  making it rain, and icy jewelry. 

A couple of mines who I adore so much and their love story are Actor & Actress Cory Hardrict and Tia Mowry Hardrict. Both were featured on OWN new hit show "Black Love".  

This couple met when she was already a established actress from the hit sitcom "Sister Sister" and Cory was a struggling actor also working odd jobs trying to better himself in California. After giving him a ride along with her sister Tamera from a movie set they remained friends. She saw the kindness and ambition in him. 17 years they have been together married since 2008 with 1 son name Cree.  They admit it isn't easy, but it's real and they are each others support systems and best friends. Cory has gone on to star in American Sniper,  All Eyez On Me and lots more.

So ask yourself what does the couple have that will hold a stable, long, healthy relationship before you hashtag #Relationshipgoals.

Wendy Williams: Husband Caught Creeping & Shacking Up

So He Creeps? Oh boy,  the daily mail dropped a 💣for real today.  Looks like someone has been following talk show host Wendy Williams husband Kevin Hunter for over a year now.  The tea they gathered is so hot my fingers are scorching as I type this.

Talk show host Wendy Williams is a radio legend now TV host.  With 9 seasons on air that is epic for a black woman. But girl..... As much crap she talk daily on her show about other celebrities,  she should have knew that her husband was shacking up nine miles from her family home with another woman who's much younger.

This is something we women do alot.  We judge women,  and put down others relationships to the point we are clueless on what the hell is going on in our home. I don't care who you are,  or what you do. If Beyonce allegedly got cheated on,  all our asses can too.  You can't worry about someone elses lawn when yours is 4 ft high.

Photo credit (Daily Mail)

Kevin Hunter also Wendy's manager allegedly has a home worth 750,000 with this 32 yr old massage therapist Sharina Hudson. He got her almost a 1 million dollar home, with money he made from Wendy Williams brand.  He even has his damn name on the mail box. They have being eating out at restaurants and going to the gym.  They supposedly have been together more than10 yrs now a source told daily mail. 

Now I hope Wendy is not that dumb she couldn't have realized her husband was living with another woman and still coming home to her and her kids.  I mean why have a hot topics team if they can't get the scoop on you too.  This is a big epic embarrassment for the talk show host. She was just giving Kevin Harts wife Eniko advice through the TV screen about cheating husbands.  Also you all her husband was seen with the alleged mistress right after her public vacation with husband Kevin to 🇧🇧 2 weeks ago. 

Photo Credit ( Daily Mail)

Let's see if Wendy mentions this.  Now this is not the first rumor of him cheating,  Mrs. Wendy has admitted of infidelity in the pass from Kevin and says she doesn't regret forgiving him because it made the marriage stronger. Wendy has publically showed her despise of sidechicks. 

Hey Wendy!!  Girl what you gone do?

What can she do?

Read full article here to see timeline of pictures 

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4899912/Wendy-Williams-husband-leads-double-life-mistress.html

Kevin Hart : Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?

Social media is going in on comedian Kevin Hart,  and I'm joining in.  Let me just say Kevin Hart "Good Guy" act has always been suspect to me.  Yes he is talented but putting your wrong doings in your comedy doesn't take away from what you did.  Now if you stumbled across my page on Google,  or link then refresh yourself on a very recent fave post titled Who's Man where I talk about how Kevin Hart cheated on his ex wife with his current wife Eniko "Allegedly. "

Anyways, so Kevin posted this bizarre video of a part 3 to Usher Confessions where he's apologizing for some shit we have no idea about. But he's basically saying it's for his wife and kids, and goes on how he needs to do better.  He also says he will not be giving his money to anyone seeking financial gain.  Take a look at the video and lets keep chatting.

So social media has kind of read between the lines of "HE CHEATED,  SIDE CHICK IS ASKING FOR A CHECK,  HE IS SAVING HIS ASS BY EXPOSING HIMSELF".

So of course his die hard fans who are in denial along with his 2nd wife Eniko ( Catch The Shade) feels no one should assume it's infidelity. Well when you post a apology video not acknowledging what the hell you're apologizing for,  we can assume whatever.

Now this is a question that came to mind.  If you cheat once,  are you always a cheater?
Let me tell you from experience.  I spent 4 years of my teen years with a excessive cheater. He constantly was getting caught up with chicks until he eventually cheated so much I kept forgiving him and just said No More.  People who cheat know what they are doing.  The goal is to not hurt anymore people after you get caught once.  But in my opinion most cheaters are always a cheater.. It's like robbing a bank and getting away with it.  The adrenaline rush of getting away with it is a thrill. Very similar to cheating.  When they cheat and don't get caught no different. If it worked once why not try it again.

However, if their partner will forgive them, why not try it again? That's how many cheaters think. There's also this new thing where people think let me expose it to my partner because it will sound better coming from me.  Soooo,  being honest about your infidelity is a better idea than lying about it.  See how stupid and smart that sounds.

Let's see how this plays out.  Let's wait on the anonymous person to come forward soon.  I'm sure they mad that Kevin took it upon himself to half ass expose himself.

1:59 p.m just saw TMZ got word that someone is exhorting Kevin Hart with some kind of allegedly mini sex tape. This is so bad. I really want to say Karma is a bitch to his new wife Eniko but I choose the door of not petty because she's with child.

TMZ came with it ⬇

http://m.tmz.com/2017/09/17/kevin-hart-sex-tape-video-extortion-woman-cheating/

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Who's Man?

What does it feel like having to constantly worry about other women taking your man?  Having to watch your man move on with the woman who possibly interfered in your relationship. As a woman who never experienced that can you imagine that feeling?  The humiliation, and feeling like  "Damn What's Wrong With Me?" But there's nothing wrong with you, something is wrong with him. Yes it is understandable that people fall out of love.  Let's keep it real,  some women are forced out of there relationship because another woman decided your man was a catch instead of a single or divorced man who's available.  What can you do if your man cheats or leaves you to be with another woman?  What you shouldn't do is be out here in these streets fighting over a man.  He's not worth it at all.  If he wants to go,  let karma take care of him.

(READ KARMA IS A BITCH ARTICLE) 

Recently comedian Kevin Hart's wife Eniko Parrish had the nerves to respond to a follower on Instagram as if she was clearing up some things, but what she did was clarify everything ex wife Torrei Hart has been saying.  Kevin allegedly cheated on Torrei with Eniko and they got divorced 6 years ago, but Eniko claims her and Kevin started dating over 8 years ago, which was allegedly the reason for the failed marriage. Now keep reading. 

 Eniko responded to a follower 

“Their marriage was broken way before I came in the picture.. They were separated living in separate homes. I was never a secret." 

Now she took it upon her self to keep responding. She even went on to say Torrei spreads those lies trying to play victim. Now Torrei has been very classy and mature over the years allowing her and Kevin's kids to take family photos with a woman who is not there mother. 

Now what mother you know would allow her kids to take family photos with her ex husband and his new chick?  I'll wait 🕖. So Torrei gathered the other Mrs. Hart quickly by saying, 

“Eniko sweetheart normally I don’t feed in to this, but when you addressed me directly, you forced my hand to respond. We have made successful strides to become a loving co parenting family, but you have now left it open for my character to be questioned. You, Kevin, and I know the truth. 

Yasssss Torrei.  (ROUND OF APPLAUSE) 

Now we can't forget the biggest "Bitch I took your man", moment in Hollywood. Angelina is my girl, but I can never stand for her taking Jennifer Aniston husband Brad Pitt at the time.  Jennifer and Brad got married in 2000. Shortly after Mr & Mrs Smith hit theaters Brad and Jennifer were announcing they were getting divorced.  

http://www.nydailynews.com

Angelina is a shady home wrecker indeed.. She had no sympathy or remorse for taking that lady man lol. Brad admitted he fell in love with Angelina on the set of Mr & Mrs Smith.  

 Angelina and Brad were even spotted on vacation after the split,  and Angelina even got pregnant in 2006, a year after split from Jennifer. 

Brandy Glanville is known from Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.  She may have a bad reputation,  but she did not deserve what LeAnn Rimes did to destroy her family.  LeAnn has been so disrespectful as far as flaunting it. LeAnn not only took her man,  but also seems as if she wanted to take the damn woman kids too.  LeAnn the country singer career has suffered from her being known as a home wrecker. LeAnn's own ex husband spilled the beans.  He actually encouraged her to star in the lifetime movie that lead to her meeting Eddie and both cheating on their spouses. 

Here's Swiss & Alicia Keys.  It seems as if people really have turned a blind eye to what Alicia did.  Producer Swiss Beats was married to R&B star Mashonda .This has been a long messy triangle. I remember years ago Mashonda saying Swiss abandoned her and her son in a house that was falling apart and she couldn't afford it. The strange part is there's no real public timeline of when they actually started dating.  Alicia has said in the past Swiss and Mashonda were well broken up before she came alone.

 Swiss even had a baby with another random woman in 2008 during marriage to Mashonda then turned around and married Alicia Keys in 2009.

Well years later seems as if Mashonda has let things go and matured way more than I could.  Her ex husband Swiss Beats,  and Alicia Keys were spotted all on vacation together. Where Swiss and Alicia flaunted there love in front of her. 

Allot right?  Truthfully girls I could of kept going from Kylie Jenner,  Tyga,  and Blac Chyna to more. See the truth is women go through this daily.  He's your man,  then another woman decides she wants him. Then the big confusion starts where the question is,  who man is he? You are amazing,  if he doesn't want you,  you may cry,  curse. Trust me,  you will find love again. Let her have him.  Karma is my 1st cousin and she plays no games. 

The Dating Struggle

If you haven't lucked up and already found a good man then girl keep reading. The problem isn't finding a man to date,  the struggle is dating men in this generation.  They don't even have the courtesy to ask  you on a date so they can get to know you.  Their ideal of a date is coming over to your crib,  hoping you cook or at least have snacks.  With hopes they can get to know you more by getting inside of you.  

It normally starts off,  "Send me a picture" or "When can I come see you? " You're thinking boy "I just met you".  Alot of women are single because they truthfully don't have the patience for it anymore.  Stop saving numbers in your phone,  because by the end of the year you will have a long list of contacts under names of guys you won't even remember. Why is dating is such a struggle for single girls?  

1. Well first off men don't have respect for women.  There are so many thots out here who set the tone for modern day women.  Men think if she looks that good and she gives it up easy,  then all pretty girls give it up easy.  We have to demand men to respect us.  Stop sex on the first date,  that's even if you are asked on a date 
2. We deserve to be taken out and felt special.  If he really likes you he should put some effort into it.  As a grown as woman that Netflix and chill is not hot and it's a cheap excuse for a man to use your wifi and watch your account,  smash,  and go home.  
3. What's worse than talking to a guy who can't hold a intelligent conversation?  Almost as worst as watching paint dry.  Conversation is the key reason why women leave guys on read, we women want a man to stimulate our mind. 
4. It's hard to find a available man.  Not guys who claim they are available,  men who have no wives or baby mamas hidden.  This is the biggest issue we have.  The 100 lies told to cover 1 lie.  All to avoid being caught up.  Literally these men are for everybody 

The best way to get through the dating struggle is to upgrade our taste in men,  and stop even wasting our time giving any ol body our time and energy.  The way he introduces himself says it all.  So what we may have to weed the bad ones out the bunch.  You gotta kiss a few frogs before you find your prince right?  Ha!  Truth is figure out what you can do different to change your dating experience.  It's not always the men,  sometimes it's just you.  

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