Kevin Hart : Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?

Social media is going in on comedian Kevin Hart,  and I'm joining in.  Let me just say Kevin Hart "Good Guy" act has always been suspect to me.  Yes he is talented but putting your wrong doings in your comedy doesn't take away from what you did.  Now if you stumbled across my page on Google,  or link then refresh yourself on a very recent fave post titled Who's Man where I talk about how Kevin Hart cheated on his ex wife with his current wife Eniko "Allegedly. "

Anyways, so Kevin posted this bizarre video of a part 3 to Usher Confessions where he's apologizing for some shit we have no idea about. But he's basically saying it's for his wife and kids, and goes on how he needs to do better.  He also says he will not be giving his money to anyone seeking financial gain.  Take a look at the video and lets keep chatting.

So social media has kind of read between the lines of "HE CHEATED,  SIDE CHICK IS ASKING FOR A CHECK,  HE IS SAVING HIS ASS BY EXPOSING HIMSELF".

So of course his die hard fans who are in denial along with his 2nd wife Eniko ( Catch The Shade) feels no one should assume it's infidelity. Well when you post a apology video not acknowledging what the hell you're apologizing for,  we can assume whatever.

Now this is a question that came to mind.  If you cheat once,  are you always a cheater?
Let me tell you from experience.  I spent 4 years of my teen years with a excessive cheater. He constantly was getting caught up with chicks until he eventually cheated so much I kept forgiving him and just said No More.  People who cheat know what they are doing.  The goal is to not hurt anymore people after you get caught once.  But in my opinion most cheaters are always a cheater.. It's like robbing a bank and getting away with it.  The adrenaline rush of getting away with it is a thrill. Very similar to cheating.  When they cheat and don't get caught no different. If it worked once why not try it again.

However, if their partner will forgive them, why not try it again? That's how many cheaters think. There's also this new thing where people think let me expose it to my partner because it will sound better coming from me.  Soooo,  being honest about your infidelity is a better idea than lying about it.  See how stupid and smart that sounds.

Let's see how this plays out.  Let's wait on the anonymous person to come forward soon.  I'm sure they mad that Kevin took it upon himself to half ass expose himself.

1:59 p.m just saw TMZ got word that someone is exhorting Kevin Hart with some kind of allegedly mini sex tape. This is so bad. I really want to say Karma is a bitch to his new wife Eniko but I choose the door of not petty because she's with child.

TMZ came with it ⬇

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Who's Man?

What does it feel like having to constantly worry about other women taking your man?  Having to watch your man move on with the woman who possibly interfered in your relationship. As a woman who never experienced that can you imagine that feeling?  The humiliation, and feeling like  "Damn What's Wrong With Me?" But there's nothing wrong with you, something is wrong with him. Yes it is understandable that people fall out of love.  Let's keep it real,  some women are forced out of there relationship because another woman decided your man was a catch instead of a single or divorced man who's available.  What can you do if your man cheats or leaves you to be with another woman?  What you shouldn't do is be out here in these streets fighting over a man.  He's not worth it at all.  If he wants to go,  let karma take care of him.

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Recently comedian Kevin Hart's wife Eniko Parrish had the nerves to respond to a follower on Instagram as if she was clearing up some things, but what she did was clarify everything ex wife Torrei Hart has been saying.  Kevin allegedly cheated on Torrei with Eniko and they got divorced 6 years ago, but Eniko claims her and Kevin started dating over 8 years ago, which was allegedly the reason for the failed marriage. Now keep reading. 

 Eniko responded to a follower 

“Their marriage was broken way before I came in the picture.. They were separated living in separate homes. I was never a secret." 

Now she took it upon her self to keep responding. She even went on to say Torrei spreads those lies trying to play victim. Now Torrei has been very classy and mature over the years allowing her and Kevin's kids to take family photos with a woman who is not there mother. 

Now what mother you know would allow her kids to take family photos with her ex husband and his new chick?  I'll wait 🕖. So Torrei gathered the other Mrs. Hart quickly by saying, 

“Eniko sweetheart normally I don’t feed in to this, but when you addressed me directly, you forced my hand to respond. We have made successful strides to become a loving co parenting family, but you have now left it open for my character to be questioned. You, Kevin, and I know the truth. 

Yasssss Torrei.  (ROUND OF APPLAUSE) 

Now we can't forget the biggest "Bitch I took your man", moment in Hollywood. Angelina is my girl, but I can never stand for her taking Jennifer Aniston husband Brad Pitt at the time.  Jennifer and Brad got married in 2000. Shortly after Mr & Mrs Smith hit theaters Brad and Jennifer were announcing they were getting divorced.  

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Angelina is a shady home wrecker indeed.. She had no sympathy or remorse for taking that lady man lol. Brad admitted he fell in love with Angelina on the set of Mr & Mrs Smith.  

 Angelina and Brad were even spotted on vacation after the split,  and Angelina even got pregnant in 2006, a year after split from Jennifer. 

Brandy Glanville is known from Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.  She may have a bad reputation,  but she did not deserve what LeAnn Rimes did to destroy her family.  LeAnn has been so disrespectful as far as flaunting it. LeAnn not only took her man,  but also seems as if she wanted to take the damn woman kids too.  LeAnn the country singer career has suffered from her being known as a home wrecker. LeAnn's own ex husband spilled the beans.  He actually encouraged her to star in the lifetime movie that lead to her meeting Eddie and both cheating on their spouses. 

Here's Swiss & Alicia Keys.  It seems as if people really have turned a blind eye to what Alicia did.  Producer Swiss Beats was married to R&B star Mashonda .This has been a long messy triangle. I remember years ago Mashonda saying Swiss abandoned her and her son in a house that was falling apart and she couldn't afford it. The strange part is there's no real public timeline of when they actually started dating.  Alicia has said in the past Swiss and Mashonda were well broken up before she came alone.

 Swiss even had a baby with another random woman in 2008 during marriage to Mashonda then turned around and married Alicia Keys in 2009.

Well years later seems as if Mashonda has let things go and matured way more than I could.  Her ex husband Swiss Beats,  and Alicia Keys were spotted all on vacation together. Where Swiss and Alicia flaunted there love in front of her. 

Allot right?  Truthfully girls I could of kept going from Kylie Jenner,  Tyga,  and Blac Chyna to more. See the truth is women go through this daily.  He's your man,  then another woman decides she wants him. Then the big confusion starts where the question is,  who man is he? You are amazing,  if he doesn't want you,  you may cry,  curse. Trust me,  you will find love again. Let her have him.  Karma is my 1st cousin and she plays no games. 

Karma Is A B*tch

Have you ever heard the saying  "Karma's A B*tch before? What comes around goes around. That is a saying people use to others that means what negativity you put out will come back to you.  Now I am no scientists or psychology major at all.  I do believe Karma is possible just from my own experiences and watching others. A great example would be stealing money from someone only to lose it right after.  That is karma.  You steal from someone and then after someone steals from you.  Karma is strong and normally it will catch up to you. 

There are a lot of lucky people out there.  I believe if you do good,  good things will come to you.  Living a positive life is a choice and some people feel like they never have good karma even when they do good things.  Karma works fast some times and sometimes it works slow.  But future happiness is all about the good you put in the universe. Alot of countries gave their own definition of Karma and what it stands for.  The main thing we all can agree with on Karma is when it hits you,  it hits you hard.

There are women who sleep with married men or taken men with no care in the world or remorse. They think it's a game  and it's funny.  Karma Is A Big B*tch Then Most.  So always remember you loose them how you get them.

"I remember a few years ago I was in a 4 year relationship age 17-20. I remember basically finding out he was cheating on me and he didn't care I found out and the girl he cheated with did not neither. I was pregnant at the time and I had a miserable pregnancy. I cried many nights,  I was depressed. I had basically been lied to and betrayed and harassed on my phone by the girl he cheated with weekly.  Being pregnant you can't defend yourself much. I kept alot of it to myself and didn't tell friends or family.  Funny she thought she was popping because she supposedly took my man.  I can recall her saying "He Love Me Bitch". But 2 years after that breakup I got a message on Face book which I have to this day of her apologizing for what she did and how everything he put me through,  he is now putting her through. "

I don't wish harm to anyone and ladies you should not neither.  But remember to pray,  stay positive and let Karma take care your battles. I understand too that Karma takes to long sometimes lol.  You may want to seek revenge on the people who did you wrong yourself. But trust me girls,  Negative,  evil people always get a taste of their own medicine. Stay beautiful,  stay strong and keep it pushing. 

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Upgrade Your Standards!

Baby let me upgrade you? No I think we as women should upgrade our standards. Life is all about growth. So grow your taste in men as well. Now for young girls in their teens may not understand what upgrading your standards are. For one they are still living with their parents watching Disney and eating hot Cheetos as lunch. When you are 16 you are lucky to even date a guy who has his driver license. You aren't 16 any more babe. Those standards you had for yourself at 16 should not be the same when you are 25 and up. You are a grown ass woman now. Bills, responsibilities and things going in life. You have upgraded in life so the men you date should not be any different.

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• A man who has a job is very important. He should have some source of income. Unless he was born rich he needs to be able to file his taxes at the end of the year. The main reason we need a man who has a career is because it is not our job to take care grown men. Dating a rich man is not realistic but he needs to be independent. He should be able to pay his own bills, and have his own gas money, That's if he has a car. 

• It is understandable that everyone can't afford a car, but you are not a Uber. You can not always be his Lyft when he is in need of a ride. If he doesn't have a car he should be hopefully looking for one, unless he can afford to pay for a driver. Trust me, those date nights when you're the designated driver who has to get in your vehicle, and use our gas to pick him up, will become tiring. My mom once told me years ago, if there is a emergency and you need help in the middle of the night, he should be able to get in his car to come help you. The bus doesn't run after midnight.

• Then you have the "Couch Crasher." If he is always sleeping at his fellas house, or his family members homes, that is a serious downgrade, He needs to have his own place that he can call home. Once he gets comfortable with you, he will be bringing a suitcase full of his items to your house and he will never leave. Ha! (That was hilarious) As grown women we don't have time for kiddie games. Dinner at his house and dinner at your house is how its suppose to be. Or consider privacy. Room mates are cool, for the moment, not a lifetime.

• You are a woman, so as women those little boy antics are for little girls. If a man wants to get to know us, or meet up he should be inviting us for coffee or a date. Netflix and chill is cool if that's all you want from him. In the dating world the impression you give him is what he is going to have. You can't meet him and invite him over to have sex, but a week later you tell him he needs to take you on a date. Excuse me b****? That is going to be his response if he's a savage. We should be wanting a man with goals, and respect for himself and us as women, He knows what he wants and won't waste our time. Upgrade your standards is so important. We have to know our worth and stop settling. It is okay to tell him "You're Are Not For Me."  Grown men are already on that type of mentality . You are not a gold digger for upgrading your standards. You are a woman who wants to be treated like a grown woman and not a little girl. 

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Girl Talk London Feature: Are Sidechicks Winning In 2017?

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I had the privlage to write a article for Girl Talk London which was created by Vanessa Sanyauke the Founder and CEO of Girls Talk London who is a speaker, presenter and writer who is based out of London.  Also host of Girls Talk, an online panel talk show for women.I recently did a post on are side chicks winning, and wanted to go more into detail explaining the cons of being a sidechick. Head over to their website and check it out. Subscribe to their website as well. 

HATE THAT YOU LOVE HIM

Love is truly like a drug. To fall in love is a amazing feeling. To get butterflies just by receiving a text from your man. But the most common thing is to love and hate someone at the same time. You hate that you can't stop loving them. It feels so good but feels so wrong. You may have told him you hate him so much, don't call you anymore, and to play in traffic. Or maybe that's just me lol. Still the thought of them leaving your life would be heart breaking. Girl nothing is wrong with you. As women we are just crazy as hell.

I hate that I love you is a real feeling. You hate that person for the hurt that they caused you. However laying in bed at night not having them kills you. You want them but then again you don't want to ever see them again. Listen you are not crazy. True love just doesn't die. You can curse him out, yell, send him mean texts, yet when he actually leaves you alone, your world crashes.

As women we are slightly indecisive. We say we don't want him, but get mad when he moves on. As women you are allowed to change your mind. Be mindful he may be tired of it and actually not come back. Do you like being with him more than being apart from him? Make a decision if you want to work it out. Do you hate the flaws in the relationship more than the great times? Fight for what you want. Life is short, if its meant to be it will be. Yes you hate his childish ways, selfishness or etc, but love the nice things he do for you, and always there when you need him. Think about it, and figure it out. Listen to my favorite song to help you think about it. 

Are Side Chicks Winning? (MUST READ)

Lately side chicks are a new trend for men, besides rompers lol. It's a big topic in the media but also a big topic in the communities. From fight videos trending of the main chick fighting with the side chick. Side chicks are bragging about being a side chick. It's like they have their own society. 

Remember there use to be a time when Mistresses were ashamed to admit they were dealing with a taken man. They knew they were a slut but if anyone knew it too it was a embarrassment. Think of the biggest side chick scandal.  

Monica Lewinsky admitted she had sexual encounters with President Bill Clinton on 9 occasions and even admitted Hillary Clinton was at the white house during some of those moments. To actually admit, yes I knew he was married, and yes it was under the same roof as the wife.

But today in 2017 men want themselves a side chick. Rapper Lil Boosie had the nerves to say “Now I do be respecting the women who go back to they men. I like that. See the girl who went back to they man. Waka Flocka old lady. See I respect that. All these people leaving and doing all of this and she go back to her man. Cause she know it’s bigger than that man. It’s a home; it’s a family. I respect women who take they men back after they cheat,” said Boosie.

Men find that inspirational to cheat with a side piece and come home and have a home cooked meal by their main chick at home. Who is normally the one who holds them down, makes sacrifices and all. Also to even think that his main girl should be okay with it because she is supposedly his number 1. Really?

So it goes back to my question. Are side chicks winning? They get gifts, money, trips and less drama because they are not his number 1. He gets what he wants from her and she gets what she wants from him. 

But......

Truth is, being a voluntarily side chick is not winning. By voluntarily meaning you know he has a woman but you don't care. Lets keep it real sometimes you can be a side chick and not even be aware you are one, because men can lie so well. Side chicks you are losing, To allow yourself to be number 2 in anything, and accept that , babe you can never win. To lay down with a man knowing he has a woman that says a lot about that person. You lose them how you attract them. Side chicks find any excuse to clarify why they do what they do. "Oh they not together LIKE THAT" or SHES NEVER AROUND' or "HE DON'T LOVE HER ANYMORE."But why even involve yourself in that? So no side chicks aren't winning in my opinion. Because you will always be known as the woman who allows anything. Lastly side chicks always end up having to deal with another side chick. 

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Step Your Cookies Up!!!

I know this post is misleading. "Step your cookies up before they crumble, was a line from Nicki Minaj Mix tape. I know some tolerate situations out of love. But you cannot allow a man to get by, get by and get by. If he needs to step his sh*t up, tell him. Keep reading.......

Allot of men need to be told "step your shit up".  There is nothing wrong ladies with telling your man to step it up and be a man, and do better. If he is someone you love and see a future with he needs to get it together. If he doesn't, you have to see the worth in yourself and let him go.

There are men who want to still party every weekend, or don't want to work, or be a better man for you. Do you really want to have to tell him daily he needs to get it together? How annoying is that? We as women can only support and love a man so much before we crumble trying to save his ass. I always say it is a parents job to build confidence and self love within a child. Because you may end up with a grown ass man who needs to be taken care of.

Support your man, but don't let your life crumble trying to save his life. 💯

Make Up Sex ? Or I Miss You Sex?

Arguments happen in relationships. It is totally normal for you and your significant other to have fights. The subject of make up sex or I miss you sex was a topic between co workers and I today. It was very interesting hearing others opinions on this topic. Before I jump into this topic take my quiz now below. Then keep reading.

Make Up Sex Or I Miss You Sex?

Make up sex, having a big blow up then making up with sex is the best I can't decide! Sex is just amazing period.

Yasss, I miss you sex. The feeling of anticipation of seeing them. Other Please Specify:

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Make up sex is so passionate. After breaking up, and reuniting its a way to take out your sexual frustrations on each other. Whether its a big argument you and your man had or even break up, sometimes makeup sex can squash the beef. Have you ever been so mad at your man, then you two have rough passionate sex and all of a sudden you aren't mad anymore? You two just made up. But don't depend on makeup sex to fix problems in your relationship. Make sure you later talk about what and why both of you were upset anyways. I noticed in a previous relationship the makeup sex distracted me on major things that needed to be addressed. So enjoy it, do your thing girl but don't let it distract you.

I miss you sex is my favorite. I miss you sex is very emotional, and meaningful. You may have broken up, and months or years went by and you have always missed the other person. I look at I miss you sex as a way of showing your man how you truly feel. It feels like a spark all over your body because you had been waiting for them and yearning their touch. I miss you sex could also be a eye opener of what you thought you missed, but realize you really don't.

Either way always make sure you use protection when having sexual intercourse. Sex is a amazing experience to share with your partner, but always practice safe sex. Hope you enjoy my poll. Share with friends.

Not The Right Time

You know that saying, "If its meant to be, it will be". Its 100% true. If you love someone, and they love you it will come together. If it doesn't it just means they weren't the one. If people love you they will fight for you. The main thing women ask for is their man to fight for them. Prove you love her, and want her. Chasing and fighting for someones heart is two different things.

Breakups can be easy, or hard. If its easy, that shows you they were not that special to you anyways. But if months, and years go by and no matter and you still wonder how they are doing, or are okay that tells you allot. But one thing I can say ladies. A mans role is to lead, protect, provide. The most you can do is tell him how you feel. The rest is up to him. If its worth it, it will be. If it isn't wait for love again. A love that sticks like super glue, and doesn't come apart. ❤

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Rapper T.I & Tiny & Alledged Sidechick

⏯ PRESS PLAY 😳

I swear. This T.I & Tiny @majorgirl & "allegedly"  side chick @realberniceburgos shit is a mess. She done posted this snap 23 hrs ago taunting Tiny, Rapper T.I wife. ☣☣☣☣Public service annoucement. If you gone be a sidechick. Have some (SIDECHICK ETIQUETTE) 😂😂 Be polite about it

This woman Bernice is a model. She is very beautiful. It is believed she is rapper T.I sidechick. She has denied it but Tiny has pretty much confirmed it by telling her ass off. I mean. Why wont they both stop dealing with him. Wouldnt that be smart.

Im Just Saying You Can Do Better

Do you ever look back on past relationships and think, "Damn I could of did better"? You just know you deserve so much more and better. I can not count how many women go through this when dealing with a guy she no longer wants

Sometimes we stay because we don't know exactly how and what to say. You can't just say " I can do better than you." Or maybe you can.

Its your heart, you have to look out for yourself. Truth is, no one will have your best interest more than yourself.

Oh so you aren't happy? Leave that relationship. Nothing irks me more than a motherfucker staying in a relationship they are not happy in. Release yourself. Yes they may be mad, but oh well as long as you are happy.

Your partners sex isn't great? Leave. If you are going to spend your entire life with a person, make sure their sex is A1.

No goals, no ambition. If you feel like they are not doing anything with their life you have to move on to better. Be with a person you can grow with. Not a person who takes you backwards. You are suppose to grow. Don't let no more hold you back. Its okay to think you can do better. You know what you want, so go for it.

What A Girl Wants

What a girl wants? That's like a million dollar question for men. One they can't get right. Men over think themselves trying to figure us out. I will point out some of the major things we women want from our man. It really is bothering me how unhappy allot of women are. Men have to realize the number one thing a woman wants is to be Happy. 

Being in a relationship you aren't happy in is miserable. Love is important but happiness is a big part of love. A girl wants to smile every time she sees her man. A girl wants to get chills every time her man touches her, and not get annoyed and angry every time he comes around. If a woman is not happy a real man should do his best to find out why and fix things. If he does all he can and she still isn't happy at least he can say he gave it his all.

Society has painted the picture where a man should protect and provide for his woman. In 2017 women are bosses and doing for themselves. But that doesn't mean she wants a man with no car who she has to drive around. Or a man who cant keep a job. If she loses her job or become sick a woman wants to feel like her man will have her back. Stability in a man should be a goal when dating men. Allot of women sadly don't have this. Trust me every woman wants a man with his shit together.

Respect goes back to "treat me how you want to be treated". Men are really getting disrespectful. Anything that will hurt her or embarrass her is disrespectful. A woman's pride and self esteem could be torn ed down by the disrespect of a man. When it comes to respecting a woman that means talking to her like a lady. Putting her feelings in consideration. Lastly always putting her 1st. Never have another chick laughing at your girl because you in the streets as if you're single.

A girl wants a man who studies her body. Pleasing your woman sexually is key in a relationship. Women just want their man to please them, and treat their bodies like its theirs. 

Nothing is sexier than a man who has life goals. Who wants a bum ass guy with no goals, no life plans or future. A woman seeing her man try to accomplish his goals or become better is inspiring.

Women want to hear it from her man and not someone else.  Honesty is what women crave. Nothing hurts women more than a lie. Be honest with her is all we want. Truth hurts, hut lies hurt worse.

Us girls never want to feel like he gives 0 fucks about us. Want to feel important to our man. We want to feel like he cares. Whether its returning her calls or texts, asking how our day was. Little things add up to show us we are important.

I don't know not one woman who enjoys being cheated on. Who wants to share their man? I would hope no one. We women just want to be the only woman in our relationship with our guy. Keeping their 🍆 in their pants shouldn't be a difficult wish.

How To Tell Him You Aren't Interested

I'm that girl if I am not interested I won't waste a guys time or mine. I'm blunt straight shooter. So when I turn down guys I may not have done it the right way because they sometimes are offended. You may be like me. Then there's the other type of girls. She doesn't like him what so ever and would rather not tell him. Which this usually leads a guy on. Neither are right. Men have feelings too. Just because you are attractive we should consider his feelings. Here are some ways we can let guys know we aren't interested.

Honesty

The most important thing is being truthful. Let him know you aren't into him the way he's into you. But don't exactly say it like that. Telling him its not him but it's you  is lame, but guess what? The shit works lol. Or if its deeper issues I suggest not going into depth. Unless you two already dated I don't see the need to, but you have to let men know. Any body who leads someone on are super corny in my eyes.

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 Avoid Him

Now let me be clear. Sometimes honesty doesn't always work.. If that's your case you have to get ghost. Don't answer calls or texts, or dms. If it has gotten this far, well girl he must be mighty sprung on you.  I say go out get more active. Get busy so you wont feel bad when you say you are busy. It will mean you truthfully are busy.

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 Don't Be To Friendly

This is one that to many women do. Smiling and grinding in a man's face and you know you have no interest in him. Accepting date offers, gifts and money will cause a man to flip out on you in the end. By accepting those nice gestures you are basically telling him you like him. 

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Play Match Maker

I have done this before. It only will work if you %100  do not want him. I suggest finding somebody who you think may like him. If he had someone who he could kick it with and get to know, maybe he wouldn't sweat you as much. Now if they vibe and get married one day and live happily ever after, don't get jealous.

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 Don't Play The "Like Game"

This is something I had to learn. On Instagram and snap chat we have to be careful. Guys who like 20 post or give us the 😘😍😗 emoji. It means something. Don't do the same if you aren't interested. Trust me. I have gone as far as to being friendly and before I know it I got 🍆 in my inbox. Thank you is the best response. Not "thank you're cute too"