Upgrade Your Standards!

Baby let me upgrade you? No I think we as women should upgrade our standards. Life is all about growth. So grow your taste in men as well. Now for young girls in their teens may not understand what upgrading your standards are. For one they are still living with their parents watching Disney and eating hot Cheetos as lunch. When you are 16 you are lucky to even date a guy who has his driver license. You aren't 16 any more babe. Those standards you had for yourself at 16 should not be the same when you are 25 and up. You are a grown ass woman now. Bills, responsibilities and things going in life. You have upgraded in life so the men you date should not be any different.

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• A man who has a job is very important. He should have some source of income. Unless he was born rich he needs to be able to file his taxes at the end of the year. The main reason we need a man who has a career is because it is not our job to take care grown men. Dating a rich man is not realistic but he needs to be independent. He should be able to pay his own bills, and have his own gas money, That's if he has a car. 

• It is understandable that everyone can't afford a car, but you are not a Uber. You can not always be his Lyft when he is in need of a ride. If he doesn't have a car he should be hopefully looking for one, unless he can afford to pay for a driver. Trust me, those date nights when you're the designated driver who has to get in your vehicle, and use our gas to pick him up, will become tiring. My mom once told me years ago, if there is a emergency and you need help in the middle of the night, he should be able to get in his car to come help you. The bus doesn't run after midnight.

• Then you have the "Couch Crasher." If he is always sleeping at his fellas house, or his family members homes, that is a serious downgrade, He needs to have his own place that he can call home. Once he gets comfortable with you, he will be bringing a suitcase full of his items to your house and he will never leave. Ha! (That was hilarious) As grown women we don't have time for kiddie games. Dinner at his house and dinner at your house is how its suppose to be. Or consider privacy. Room mates are cool, for the moment, not a lifetime.

• You are a woman, so as women those little boy antics are for little girls. If a man wants to get to know us, or meet up he should be inviting us for coffee or a date. Netflix and chill is cool if that's all you want from him. In the dating world the impression you give him is what he is going to have. You can't meet him and invite him over to have sex, but a week later you tell him he needs to take you on a date. Excuse me b****? That is going to be his response if he's a savage. We should be wanting a man with goals, and respect for himself and us as women, He knows what he wants and won't waste our time. Upgrade your standards is so important. We have to know our worth and stop settling. It is okay to tell him "You're Are Not For Me."  Grown men are already on that type of mentality . You are not a gold digger for upgrading your standards. You are a woman who wants to be treated like a grown woman and not a little girl. 

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Girl Talk London Feature: Are Sidechicks Winning In 2017?

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I had the privlage to write a article for Girl Talk London which was created by Vanessa Sanyauke the Founder and CEO of Girls Talk London who is a speaker, presenter and writer who is based out of London.  Also host of Girls Talk, an online panel talk show for women.I recently did a post on are side chicks winning, and wanted to go more into detail explaining the cons of being a sidechick. Head over to their website and check it out. Subscribe to their website as well. 

HATE THAT YOU LOVE HIM

Love is truly like a drug. To fall in love is a amazing feeling. To get butterflies just by receiving a text from your man. But the most common thing is to love and hate someone at the same time. You hate that you can't stop loving them. It feels so good but feels so wrong. You may have told him you hate him so much, don't call you anymore, and to play in traffic. Or maybe that's just me lol. Still the thought of them leaving your life would be heart breaking. Girl nothing is wrong with you. As women we are just crazy as hell.

I hate that I love you is a real feeling. You hate that person for the hurt that they caused you. However laying in bed at night not having them kills you. You want them but then again you don't want to ever see them again. Listen you are not crazy. True love just doesn't die. You can curse him out, yell, send him mean texts, yet when he actually leaves you alone, your world crashes.

As women we are slightly indecisive. We say we don't want him, but get mad when he moves on. As women you are allowed to change your mind. Be mindful he may be tired of it and actually not come back. Do you like being with him more than being apart from him? Make a decision if you want to work it out. Do you hate the flaws in the relationship more than the great times? Fight for what you want. Life is short, if its meant to be it will be. Yes you hate his childish ways, selfishness or etc, but love the nice things he do for you, and always there when you need him. Think about it, and figure it out. Listen to my favorite song to help you think about it. 

Are Side Chicks Winning? (MUST READ)

Lately side chicks are a new trend for men, besides rompers lol. It's a big topic in the media but also a big topic in the communities. From fight videos trending of the main chick fighting with the side chick. Side chicks are bragging about being a side chick. It's like they have their own society. 

Remember there use to be a time when Mistresses were ashamed to admit they were dealing with a taken man. They knew they were a slut but if anyone knew it too it was a embarrassment. Think of the biggest side chick scandal.  

Monica Lewinsky admitted she had sexual encounters with President Bill Clinton on 9 occasions and even admitted Hillary Clinton was at the white house during some of those moments. To actually admit, yes I knew he was married, and yes it was under the same roof as the wife.

But today in 2017 men want themselves a side chick. Rapper Lil Boosie had the nerves to say “Now I do be respecting the women who go back to they men. I like that. See the girl who went back to they man. Waka Flocka old lady. See I respect that. All these people leaving and doing all of this and she go back to her man. Cause she know it’s bigger than that man. It’s a home; it’s a family. I respect women who take they men back after they cheat,” said Boosie.

Men find that inspirational to cheat with a side piece and come home and have a home cooked meal by their main chick at home. Who is normally the one who holds them down, makes sacrifices and all. Also to even think that his main girl should be okay with it because she is supposedly his number 1. Really?

So it goes back to my question. Are side chicks winning? They get gifts, money, trips and less drama because they are not his number 1. He gets what he wants from her and she gets what she wants from him. 

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Truth is, being a voluntarily side chick is not winning. By voluntarily meaning you know he has a woman but you don't care. Lets keep it real sometimes you can be a side chick and not even be aware you are one, because men can lie so well. Side chicks you are losing, To allow yourself to be number 2 in anything, and accept that , babe you can never win. To lay down with a man knowing he has a woman that says a lot about that person. You lose them how you attract them. Side chicks find any excuse to clarify why they do what they do. "Oh they not together LIKE THAT" or SHES NEVER AROUND' or "HE DON'T LOVE HER ANYMORE."But why even involve yourself in that? So no side chicks aren't winning in my opinion. Because you will always be known as the woman who allows anything. Lastly side chicks always end up having to deal with another side chick. 

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Step Your Cookies Up!!!

I know this post is misleading. "Step your cookies up before they crumble, was a line from Nicki Minaj Mix tape. I know some tolerate situations out of love. But you cannot allow a man to get by, get by and get by. If he needs to step his sh*t up, tell him. Keep reading.......

Allot of men need to be told "step your shit up".  There is nothing wrong ladies with telling your man to step it up and be a man, and do better. If he is someone you love and see a future with he needs to get it together. If he doesn't, you have to see the worth in yourself and let him go.

There are men who want to still party every weekend, or don't want to work, or be a better man for you. Do you really want to have to tell him daily he needs to get it together? How annoying is that? We as women can only support and love a man so much before we crumble trying to save his ass. I always say it is a parents job to build confidence and self love within a child. Because you may end up with a grown ass man who needs to be taken care of.

Support your man, but don't let your life crumble trying to save his life. 💯

Make Up Sex ? Or I Miss You Sex?

Arguments happen in relationships. It is totally normal for you and your significant other to have fights. The subject of make up sex or I miss you sex was a topic between co workers and I today. It was very interesting hearing others opinions on this topic. Before I jump into this topic take my quiz now below. Then keep reading.

Make Up Sex Or I Miss You Sex?

Make up sex, having a big blow up then making up with sex is the best I can't decide! Sex is just amazing period.

Yasss, I miss you sex. The feeling of anticipation of seeing them. Other Please Specify:

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Make up sex is so passionate. After breaking up, and reuniting its a way to take out your sexual frustrations on each other. Whether its a big argument you and your man had or even break up, sometimes makeup sex can squash the beef. Have you ever been so mad at your man, then you two have rough passionate sex and all of a sudden you aren't mad anymore? You two just made up. But don't depend on makeup sex to fix problems in your relationship. Make sure you later talk about what and why both of you were upset anyways. I noticed in a previous relationship the makeup sex distracted me on major things that needed to be addressed. So enjoy it, do your thing girl but don't let it distract you.

I miss you sex is my favorite. I miss you sex is very emotional, and meaningful. You may have broken up, and months or years went by and you have always missed the other person. I look at I miss you sex as a way of showing your man how you truly feel. It feels like a spark all over your body because you had been waiting for them and yearning their touch. I miss you sex could also be a eye opener of what you thought you missed, but realize you really don't.

Either way always make sure you use protection when having sexual intercourse. Sex is a amazing experience to share with your partner, but always practice safe sex. Hope you enjoy my poll. Share with friends.

Not The Right Time

You know that saying, "If its meant to be, it will be". Its 100% true. If you love someone, and they love you it will come together. If it doesn't it just means they weren't the one. If people love you they will fight for you. The main thing women ask for is their man to fight for them. Prove you love her, and want her. Chasing and fighting for someones heart is two different things.

Breakups can be easy, or hard. If its easy, that shows you they were not that special to you anyways. But if months, and years go by and no matter and you still wonder how they are doing, or are okay that tells you allot. But one thing I can say ladies. A mans role is to lead, protect, provide. The most you can do is tell him how you feel. The rest is up to him. If its worth it, it will be. If it isn't wait for love again. A love that sticks like super glue, and doesn't come apart. ❤

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Rapper T.I & Tiny & Alledged Sidechick

⏯ PRESS PLAY 😳

I swear. This T.I & Tiny @majorgirl & "allegedly"  side chick @realberniceburgos shit is a mess. She done posted this snap 23 hrs ago taunting Tiny, Rapper T.I wife. ☣☣☣☣Public service annoucement. If you gone be a sidechick. Have some (SIDECHICK ETIQUETTE) 😂😂 Be polite about it

This woman Bernice is a model. She is very beautiful. It is believed she is rapper T.I sidechick. She has denied it but Tiny has pretty much confirmed it by telling her ass off. I mean. Why wont they both stop dealing with him. Wouldnt that be smart.

Im Just Saying You Can Do Better

Do you ever look back on past relationships and think, "Damn I could of did better"? You just know you deserve so much more and better. I can not count how many women go through this when dealing with a guy she no longer wants

Sometimes we stay because we don't know exactly how and what to say. You can't just say " I can do better than you." Or maybe you can.

Its your heart, you have to look out for yourself. Truth is, no one will have your best interest more than yourself.

Oh so you aren't happy? Leave that relationship. Nothing irks me more than a motherfucker staying in a relationship they are not happy in. Release yourself. Yes they may be mad, but oh well as long as you are happy.

Your partners sex isn't great? Leave. If you are going to spend your entire life with a person, make sure their sex is A1.

No goals, no ambition. If you feel like they are not doing anything with their life you have to move on to better. Be with a person you can grow with. Not a person who takes you backwards. You are suppose to grow. Don't let no more hold you back. Its okay to think you can do better. You know what you want, so go for it.

What A Girl Wants

What a girl wants? That's like a million dollar question for men. One they can't get right. Men over think themselves trying to figure us out. I will point out some of the major things we women want from our man. It really is bothering me how unhappy allot of women are. Men have to realize the number one thing a woman wants is to be Happy. 

Being in a relationship you aren't happy in is miserable. Love is important but happiness is a big part of love. A girl wants to smile every time she sees her man. A girl wants to get chills every time her man touches her, and not get annoyed and angry every time he comes around. If a woman is not happy a real man should do his best to find out why and fix things. If he does all he can and she still isn't happy at least he can say he gave it his all.

Society has painted the picture where a man should protect and provide for his woman. In 2017 women are bosses and doing for themselves. But that doesn't mean she wants a man with no car who she has to drive around. Or a man who cant keep a job. If she loses her job or become sick a woman wants to feel like her man will have her back. Stability in a man should be a goal when dating men. Allot of women sadly don't have this. Trust me every woman wants a man with his shit together.

Respect goes back to "treat me how you want to be treated". Men are really getting disrespectful. Anything that will hurt her or embarrass her is disrespectful. A woman's pride and self esteem could be torn ed down by the disrespect of a man. When it comes to respecting a woman that means talking to her like a lady. Putting her feelings in consideration. Lastly always putting her 1st. Never have another chick laughing at your girl because you in the streets as if you're single.

A girl wants a man who studies her body. Pleasing your woman sexually is key in a relationship. Women just want their man to please them, and treat their bodies like its theirs. 

Nothing is sexier than a man who has life goals. Who wants a bum ass guy with no goals, no life plans or future. A woman seeing her man try to accomplish his goals or become better is inspiring.

Women want to hear it from her man and not someone else.  Honesty is what women crave. Nothing hurts women more than a lie. Be honest with her is all we want. Truth hurts, hut lies hurt worse.

Us girls never want to feel like he gives 0 fucks about us. Want to feel important to our man. We want to feel like he cares. Whether its returning her calls or texts, asking how our day was. Little things add up to show us we are important.

I don't know not one woman who enjoys being cheated on. Who wants to share their man? I would hope no one. We women just want to be the only woman in our relationship with our guy. Keeping their 🍆 in their pants shouldn't be a difficult wish.

How To Tell Him You Aren't Interested

I'm that girl if I am not interested I won't waste a guys time or mine. I'm blunt straight shooter. So when I turn down guys I may not have done it the right way because they sometimes are offended. You may be like me. Then there's the other type of girls. She doesn't like him what so ever and would rather not tell him. Which this usually leads a guy on. Neither are right. Men have feelings too. Just because you are attractive we should consider his feelings. Here are some ways we can let guys know we aren't interested.

Honesty

The most important thing is being truthful. Let him know you aren't into him the way he's into you. But don't exactly say it like that. Telling him its not him but it's you  is lame, but guess what? The shit works lol. Or if its deeper issues I suggest not going into depth. Unless you two already dated I don't see the need to, but you have to let men know. Any body who leads someone on are super corny in my eyes.

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 Avoid Him

Now let me be clear. Sometimes honesty doesn't always work.. If that's your case you have to get ghost. Don't answer calls or texts, or dms. If it has gotten this far, well girl he must be mighty sprung on you.  I say go out get more active. Get busy so you wont feel bad when you say you are busy. It will mean you truthfully are busy.

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 Don't Be To Friendly

This is one that to many women do. Smiling and grinding in a man's face and you know you have no interest in him. Accepting date offers, gifts and money will cause a man to flip out on you in the end. By accepting those nice gestures you are basically telling him you like him. 

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Play Match Maker

I have done this before. It only will work if you %100  do not want him. I suggest finding somebody who you think may like him. If he had someone who he could kick it with and get to know, maybe he wouldn't sweat you as much. Now if they vibe and get married one day and live happily ever after, don't get jealous.

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 Don't Play The "Like Game"

This is something I had to learn. On Instagram and snap chat we have to be careful. Guys who like 20 post or give us the 😘😍😗 emoji. It means something. Don't do the same if you aren't interested. Trust me. I have gone as far as to being friendly and before I know it I got 🍆 in my inbox. Thank you is the best response. Not "thank you're cute too"

Girlfriend or Sidechick ?

Main chick, side chick are both stupid to me. You would think that every woman wants to be the ONLY chick. Guys show you what you are to them by the way they treat you. With his girlfriend he treats her with respect. He cares about her feelings. He doesn't want to hurt her and lies to protect that. With a side chick he is honest and your feelings aren't something he keeps in mind.

He Is Bluntly Honest

If you are dating a guy who opens up to you hes interested in other women. Well sweetie its obvious hes telling you that because he looks at you like a side chick. So he feels why not tell you. You shouldn't care.

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Not Bluntly Honest

You know you are his girlfriend and his only when he goes out of his way to protect your feelings. He may have a lock on his phone so you won't go in his phone and stroll his contact list to see a ex number. Sounds petty right? But its because your feelings towards him matters.

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Friendly Verbal Interactions

If he says to you that you are his homie, his friend. No kisses, no affection. But you two are actually sexual. He sees you as a friend no connection he's just smashing. He probably has a main woman at home.

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Loving Verbal Interactions

When he asks how's your day. He misses you. He's affectionate towards you. He has feelings for you. Men who love their girlfriend are affectionate to their girl.

He's doesn't open up to you

A guy who makes you his side chick are very secretive with you about where they work, egrre they live hell sometimes their names. He doesn't want you coming by his home. Or calling his job. Normally guys who see you as a sure chick won't follow you on social media. He has another somebody. He doesn't want you crossing paths into his real world.

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He told you everything

Girlfriends get to meet the family, friends, co workers even the pets. You probably have a key to his place and has his work number. 

Date Night, Who Pays, He Or She?

 This discussion has been trending lately on the radio, blog post and etc. Who is responsible for paying on a date? Some people feel a man should always pay and some people feel a woman should sometimes pay.

Before the 90s it was frown upon for a man to allow a woman to pay for a date or drink. 

But apparently this decade more women are footing the bill and buying men drinks at bars. Some women feel like since they can afford it, they will rather pay instead of looking like a gold digger. Then there are men who feel like as a man its insulting and feminine to have a woman pay.

As a woman I feel like a man should always pay for a date when he is trying to pursue you.  If she pays for the tip its acceptable. But for a woman to open her purse to pay for a man she's  only dating, is just not a good look. And if he doesn't have the funds to always pay. Be honest and let her know. I hate a man who is financially not there but pretends he got it like that. Because what will happen you will slip up and get caught up, especially if the card declines.

But once you are dating or building I feel sometimes a woman can pay for the drinks, or the movie. It will show him you are in it for the long run, and you are caring and sincere. But it shouldn't be often just occasionally.

But men who just go out and expect women to pay says a lot about how that man was raised.

Thoughts? Think About It.

5 Signs You Aren't Ready For A Relationship

Some people jump in relationships when they have no business being in one.  The bad part is, they normally don't realize they shouldn't be in a relationship. I know for a fact. Here are 5 signs to help you learn that maybe being in a relationship at the moment isn't a good idea.


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You Still Have Feelings For A Ex

I mean how can you love someone if you still have feelings for someone else. You can't fully give a person your heart if someone else has it. This is the biggest sign you should not get involved with anyone else. For the most important reason is someone getting hurt. This is the most selfish thing you can do.
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You Don't Have A lot Of Free Time

We all can get busy. Maybe you have kids, or you have a career, or you are in school. Don't add a person to your life if you know you have no time for them. Wait until you have some things taken off your plate 1st. The worse thing you need is a mate complaining because they feel lonely. Save yourself and them the drama. Be single and get your life together 1st
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You Have Trust Issues

Sometimes the pain from one relationship can follow you. The hurt, betrayal. Its something you just don't want to bring into a relationship. That person should deserve a far solid chance. You knowing that you can't trust anyone at the moment is a obvious sign you shouldn't be involved with anyone. If you do get into a relationship, its going to sink. Because your trust issues are going to tear and destroy the relationship..
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You Are Desperate For Marriage and Kids

If you know that marriage and kids is all you're really wanting, you shouldn't just jump in a relationship because you want to speed up the process. A relationship takes work and pride. Maybe you're aging and you fear not being able to have kids is your future. You should not get in a relationship.

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You Don't Like To Be Alone

This is the most common issue. So many people hate being alone. They can't even ride a uber alone, go to a big event alone. You being with someone just because you hate being single is a much deeper issue. You have to learn yourself and figure out your life. What will happen, you will end up getting in a relationship with someone, and your life will revolve around them
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Gold Digger Vs Having Standards (Are They Different or the Same?)

I ain't saying she a gold digger... But she ain't messing with no (you know the rest) lol. Well when it comes to dating its hard our here. Men don't want to take women out on dates anymore. They just wanna smash, and go home. Men aren't doing as many romantic things because they feel we women are using them. Being a gold digging bitch, and a woman with standards are two different things. Is it or is it not? Well let's break down what the two are. 

Gold Digger: is a person who looks for a man to be a provider. Love isn't in the question. Shes looking for stability in a man. She has no want to work and build her own. She would rather live off a man, spend his money. Once its gone she's gone. 

Having Standards:  is a person who values her self to not settle for less. She sees her self going places in life and wants someone who has their shit together. She wants a man with his own car, own, home, good job. She just want a to feel comfortable knowing you can provide. 

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-A guy buys gifts and takes her out but she always complains about it not being nice enough, or fancy enough, she is a gold digger. She doesn't care about him, or how his day was. Her concern is 💸🎁. 

-A woman with standards doesn't care where you take her or where you go. As long as you put thought into it, and cares about making a good impression. Meaning taking her out and not complaining about the tab. She doesn't need your money, but she has enough worth about to not tolerate you being cheap.

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-A gold digger normally hangs with other gold diggers. They hang out where the wealthy men are. No intentions of meeting someone with potential to be a boyfriend. But they want to meet someone who care give them a better lifestyle the easy way.

-A woman with standards hangs with women who date successful men with their life together. Yes they want a relationship they want love. But they aren't going to get a bum off the corner. They don't plot to find a rich man, they would like a man with his life in order.

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A gold digger has lots of interest about a mans career and probably would like to see those bank statements. They want to know how much he makes, how much is his car. They are intrigued by a mans financial status.

A woman with standards wants to know he is stable and can provide for himself. Basically she wants a man whose comfortable and not struggling. 

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Understanding A Mans Body Language

Men aren't emotional beings like women are. So it can be so damn difficult to read them and understand what's going on inside those big brains, but just by observing their body language you can tell a lot about them at that moment. 

For one, the Half Smile

Brad Pitt

According to http://www.study-body-language.com/smiling-faces.  It's one of the main features of sarcasm - "an evil" or "smug" smile. You can also say it's a sign of confidence, or feeling of superiority towards whoever the smile is intended for. We all know those guys who look like they are up to something, or lying. They always have a smug smile on their face. Watch out for guys who do this to much ladies. Read more

He talks with his hands

Kayne West

Well he's definitely a good communicator and takes his conversations with you serious. Your guy may get so passionate during a argument and he starts pointing and slapping his hands. For a passionate aggressive guy that is their way of expressing themselves.  

Raising the eyebrows

Robert Patterson

Have you ever noticed a really pretty girl walk by, and some guys in the room eyes light up and eyebrows rise. Men normally raise their eyebrows when they see something they like or amazes them. 

Hands in pockets

Scott Discik

According to know2self.com someone becomes unhappy with his self image he will put his hands in his pockets. He may be wearing a suit he's not use to, or his pants are too big. This guy is not pleased with his appearance, so him putting his hands in his pockets around people is just a sign of vulnerability.

Foot pointing  

David Beckham

If you see a person talking to someone but their foot is pointing towards you, it means they are interested in you and want to approach you. 

Also if he points his foot towards you hes thinking of approaching you in the back of his mind, even if they seem to be engaged with their own group. You can confirm this by the occasional, stealthy look they give you. The person will try to keep you in their line of sight as long as they can and as often as they can.

Kisses on forehead

President Obama

This means he's tender, and loving. He has lots of respect for you. He's also a gentleman and light hearted. But be careful girls, if he does this too often he sees you as a friend, or maybe even like a sister.  Who wants to be in the friend zone? No one.

He leans in close

John Legend

This is a sign he really likes you and wants to be closer to to you. Also a woman who smells good is a big attraction to men. But don't take it serious if he does this a few times. Maybe you have a soft voice and he's having trouble hearing you. 

He Fidgets in His Chair

Have you ever seen those guys who can't stop moving around in their seat? Either he has to pee, or he has bad anxiety and he's very nervous. Sex and body language expert Tracey Cox, also says he may be getting sexually excited and he's trying to hide or calm down a potential erection. But if he does it too often ladies, he maybe be on that stuff. And by stuff I mean drugs. Wiggling around in his seat too much is a sign to exit. 

What His Shoes Say About Him

Some men may think its shallow. But I think checking out a mans shoe is key to understanding who he is. U.S studies have came up with shoe styles and descriptions based on a guys shoes. Its even being reported women judge a mans shoes more then men judge women. I will break it down for you below.

TIMBERLANDS

These boots were once know as worker boots, or hiking boots. Are a more popular trend now. Normally men who wear these a lot won't to come off tough. But probably aren't.

Dessert Boots

He has style and knows what is trendy. These suede boots shows he is a masculine, not flashy but takes his appearance serious.

Driving Mocs 

He has style too wearing these. But may take himself to serious. Usually see these guys in the Star bucks line being difficult with the cashier.

Converse

A big kid inside. Probably doesn't take himself to serious.

Retro Nikes

He doesn't care about being cool, or what people think. He likes what he likes and does what he wants.

Merrells

This guy may still be living with his mom, maybe even getting his clothes picked out.

Loafer Dress Shoes

He takes himself serious in a good way. He is about his business and has gentleman style.

Flipflops

Super laid back, and chill. May be a little to chill in life. 

Jordans

He is the guy who may miss your birthday, your wedding because he is waiting in line for the new Jordan's. Or may have used the rent money up to get new Jordan's. Loves attention, people's opinion about him means a lot.

Socks With Sandals

One word, lazy. Did not take time to look at himself. Not somebody I would count on to meet your parents dressed appropriately.