Trust Issues

You may hear people jokingly say "I got trust issues". Normally when I say it people never really take it serious until a incident happens. Any of you who struggle with trust may know the feeling of always being anxious. Or always feeling like somebody is trying to hurt you. Our natural instinct is to protect ourselves.

Then you have those people who are in denial. They don't believe they have trust issues but they can never fully give a person their all, or in fear of being taken advantage of. Here are some serious signs of trust issues.

1. You always assume someone is out to hurt you, or get you. No matter what they do. You have negative thoughts in your mind about them. Even without them actually betraying you.
2. You are overly protective. Every good thing in your life, you self sabotage it, out of fear of getting hurt.
3. You distance yourself from getting to know people. The easiest way you avoid getting hurt is staying to yourself.
4. You don't easily forgive. Once a person crosses you, they are done for life. Even if you are unsure you still cut them off just to make sure.
5. You look for the bad. People with trust issues always seem to look for the bad before it begins. It's a way to stop the bad from happening before it begins.

People who don't struggle with trust never fully can understand a person with trust issues. You can feel sometimes hurt by being judged or misunderstood for your actions. Betrayal is a life damaging thing, especially when its done by a spouse, friend or family member. That deep hurt follows you and never seems to leave. Your mission is to never allow anyone to hurt you again. Its like constantly walking around with a bullet proof vest on your heart.

My trust issues run deep going back to my child hood. Having everyone around me constantly lie to me. Then it lead into toxic relationships. Where  men lied so much, then tried to cover the lies up. I would fall for the lies all over again. I remember spending 4 years with a guy who lied so much about his cheating. I was so dumb I would actually believe that those girls who wrote me saying "he my man" were actually lying and trying to break us up...

I recall on our 4th year this one particular girl came into the picture.

You can read more about this situation here: karma-is-btch .

I kept asking him was he messing with her. He denied it. I remember crying to him and he literally looked me in my eyes and said she was lying. I remember I told the girl send me proof, because I don't believe you. I woke up with a message from her. She sent me a picture of her sitting on his lap at his sister house in her living room. Yes y'all, a picture of them together.

I called him right after going the hell off. I remember balling in tears, and he still was denying it. His entire family had even lied to me when I would ask them. These people smiled in my face but knew all along. They would call me "sis". That man took all the trust I had when we broke up. Each guy I dated I would investigate them just to protect myself before catching feelings. Soon as I found something questionable I would end it. Then I went though a stage not even dating for a while. It was my way of trying to avoid possible getting hurt again. All the signs of, TRUST ISSUES!

People who have trust issues normally ruin good opportunities out of fear. Getting over this is not easy. I still struggle with it, but I am learning that you have to find someone worthy and can prove that everyone is not the same. To conquer those trust issues you will need a strong support system. Trust means putting confidence into someone or something. Also building self esteem in yourself can help overcome this. Most of all having confidence in yourself. Take all those bad situations and trust your instincts. We know the signs now, let's make better decisions on who we allow in our life. I'm not saying we will never possibly get hurt again,just be fearless and take a risk in order to find out.

Wasted Times

The biggest regret I have is wasting my youth years with guys who made it clear they didn't love me or want me. I'm sure many of us wish we could get that time back. 

Lets take the Petty Queen Mariah Carey who won her lawsuit against her ex billionaire fiance James Packer. He had to pay her a  “inconvenience fee” for pretty much wasting her time.  If you could sue a ex for playing with your feelings and leading you on, would you?

I do believe that every bad or good situation is a lesson. What sucks is finally meeting your soul mate and wishing you would have met them sooner. Feeling like damn I could of gave all this love to the right man. Maybe the universe wasn't ready for you and that guy to meet. Looking back on your past it sure does feel like a big waste of time you could of spent with the right guy. Truthfully I feel like that now. The great part is finding someone who appreciates all the things someone else didn't.

You can't let life past you by waiting on someone to get right. You will miss out on the right one chasing that wrong one.  Check out some ways to tell you're wasting your time.

. No effort: If  a guy puts no effort into seeing you, to be with you or making things better in the relationship he doesn't care. If you have to constantly tell him why you are unhappy and he doesn't try to make things better, just leave. You have wasted your time enough. 

. Commitment: I had to teach myself if he really wanted you, he would make you his girlfriend or wife. A guy who can't figure out If he wants a relationship with you after 3 months of dating is only stringing you along. He will literally keep it that way if you don't boss up and walk away. Don't spend a year with someone who can't figure out if they want you like I did. It will leave you heartbroken for no reason. That's not rushing that's call realizing bull shit.

. Silence about the future: I have noticed this a lot lately. Men who don't want a future with you avoid those topics. 

 5 years in a relationship and he is still avoiding the marriage conversation.. just leave.

 Sometimes Friends Sometimes Lovers: This one is a major one. Guys who want boyfriend treatment but like to prefer to you as the homie. Girl just pause reading this and block whoever he is.  He doesn't want you to have sex with anyone else, he wants to meet the family, have sex whenever followed by a home cooked meal...but you his homie. 

"What Does A Woman Want"

Have you ever saw a confused puzzled look on your man face? Followed by the question"What's Wrong With You". He looks so dumb doesn't he? He may have stayed out all night and didn't answer one call. So the next morning when you're giving him the cold shoulder he doesn't know what's wrong. Or you may be having dinner but he spends the entire time on his phone. When you have become annoyed by it ,he actually has the audacity to ask, what's wrong with you? Oh trust me I understand.
Women are not hard to understand, but men have a hard time understanding us . What does a woman want? If they actually payed attention to women they would understand. Let me get to the point and break it down.

The difference between a woman and a girl is a girl wants all your attention. She doesn't care that you work and have responsibilities. A woman wants to feel that you do notice her. She is busy too, but acknowledging that you thought about her throughout the day is enough for her. Women want a man to focus on her when you're spending quality time together. If  social media is more important during quality time, she could of stayed home. 

When your woman does something good all she wants is a "good job babe". She doesn't need validation don't get it twisted. She wants her man to recognize she is out here making moves and doing great things. 

Talk! Tell her how you feel and why you feel the way you do. Ignoring her is the quickest way to get under her skin. If she did something that bothers you or hurt you just tell her. Women have no problem telling you why we are mad.. This thing where men are suppose to shut up is a old age thing our grandparents use to do. 

Put some respect on our feelings, our time, and our commitment to you. Respect is not only about talking to her in a respectful manner. Respect means not embarrassing her because you want to entertain other women. Respect her feelings and how she may feel. 

This is a big one. Do you want her or do you not. Its that simple. Commit to her. Drop your others and commit to her and only her. Telling the world who she is so that its really real. Take the relationship serious. If you're not ready to commit ,we would rather you leave us the hell alone. No time for games. 

Men don't listen. You can send a 4 page letter on why you're feeling how you're feeling, and he responds with "What"?

If they listened and was fair in understanding you, their life would be much easier. If a woman tells her man "I miss you, I wish I could see you", understand she actually miss you so do something about it. 

Take charge. No woman wants to wear the skirt and suit in a relationship.  Plan things for her and let her know. Women love when a man makes plans without getting her approval first. 

"The Dating Game"

Welcome to the dating game. Where you put your faith and trust into a guy hoping you hit the jackpot and that he turns out to be the man of your dreams. Then you realize you put all your trust , energy and faith into him, only to strike out and he's not the one. Yes sis, that is the dating game. You lose some but the goal is to win. 

I look at my dating experience as a game. Between me and you I hated games all my life. Boards games, card games, sport games, and games played with my heart. Don't play me , play lotto! 

See you meet a guy, then you waste your time getting to know him by telling him all the amazing things about yourself. Also while listening to all the lies and bull shit he tells you about himself. Just when you really think you got a good one, he turns out to be trash. Conversations start to fade. Now you have to dispose him and keep it moving. Let's hope you don't get dickmerized in the process. Then you move on and do it again, and again. Playing the game until you finally win. 

Sucks but its part of the dating process. You literally have to kiss a million frogs until you meet your King. I can easily say don't get in your feelings but who am I kidding. Accidentally falling for someone happens so often. Mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the good and the bad. Go into every dating situation knowing this could work out and this could be a disaster. What do you really have to lose? Don't be scared to date thinking you are bound to get your feelings hurt. By doing that you already have set yourself up to fail. 

If you haven't realized men lie just for the hell of it. I find it very creepy. It be the stupidest unnecessary lies too. Remember to always do your own little investigation. That's the best way to avoid egg on your face. I had a date with a guy one time. I had a funny feeling in my spirit. I found out he told me a fake name. After I discovered his real name I ran a background check on him. 

"Oh Yes I Did"

He had a criminal record longer than Ariana Grande pony tail. It included assault, assault, assault. You get the point! The same way employers call references you do the same. It's all fun and games but remember this is your life so don't gamble everything on a man. 

Check out my latest podcast episode 12 "The Dating Game"

Unstable

If you're a subscriber you will know Janine is a R&B singer who's lyrics I have used as topics. She has a line in her song called Unstable. She sings:

"But loving you is chaos

But the fire is incredible"

You may be in a volatile relationship where it's always arguing and just unhappiness. He doesn't understand you, he doesn't care or it may feel like he doesn't even try. The fire is in the love and passion, but truly you know that situation is chaos. How do you handle that? Leave!

Being in that type of relationship or situation is not mentally and emotionally good for your spirit, soul and heart. You need balance. The break ups, and back and forth will drain you sis. He loves you,  he loves you not. Those sudden changes of moods is not good. The feeling of joy and the disappointment is enough to spiritually suck you dry. There are steady situations for you. You just have to decide you want better. 

We all want to be with the one we love. It's only natural to want to spend your life with that person. Is it worth you destroying yourself just to tolerate a inconsistent situation? Men come and go. Cry about it and just be done with it. Janine has another line in her song where she sings :

"You bring me to the top

To throw me down to zero"

They tell you they love you,  but hurt you. You're at the top, and the feeling of disappointment feels like winning a race only to be told after the fact that  everything you did to win you still lose.

A friend once told me "You're not in love. You think you love him because you haven't been brave enough to let that go. This back and fourth thing is rocky. Why can't you let him go and be with someone who brings peace and harmony in your life. "

Check out Janine single "Unstable". She's one of my favorite artists.

Workplace Hook Ups ( Do you agree?)

Can you be a naughty girl and be about your business? Let's face it, work has become the newest way of meeting guys besides Instagram. You work between 8-12 hours a day seeing the same people. Attraction is strong, if they see something they like they will pursue.
I have always worked in a office setting. Personally I'm lazy as hell and I prefer to sit down in the air conditioning. I have noticed over the years that in most office environments somebody is hooking up. I don't technically mean hooking up but you get the point.

In 2018 it is very common to have companies have a NO DATING IN THE WORKPLACE POLICY.  An office relationship can lead to charges of sexual harassment if things ended badly. Don't think because you're a woman a man couldn't be petty like that. Remember men get scorned too. Truthfully between us, allot of men can't handle hookups and being ignored.  It also could cause outside drama brought into the workplace if someone is married. Just 2 weeks ago the company I work for was put on lock down. Apparently someone was having a affair with another employee and his wife found out and came ready to whoop ass..

Workplace romance has it's pros and cons. I have met couples who've  met at the job and are married, still working together. Then I have met people who have tried dating people only for things to end and turn bad. Look I understand you may see someone you want, don't let me stop you, but let me help you in determining if  that's the right decision. Let's begin with cons. 

1. People are nosey. Let's face it the biggest flaw amongst people is them  not minding their own business. You don't want everyone in the office knowing your business.  The last thing you want is co workers knowing who you're  hooking up with after work. 
2. Violating company policy. Its been a while since I have seen a company NOT have rules on workplace romance. There have been cases where people were fired for not following the rules. Do you really want to lose income and processional reputations just to date someone. 
3. Drama could quickly abrupt at your job if the relationship ends bad. The tension in the office will be sharp as a knife. Don't bring bullshit to your place of work because it will stink up the place. There is a luxury of ending a relationship and never having to see them again. But in the workplace you still have to see them..
4. Distraction. Having them at your job could be a distraction.  Them constantly emailing you, or stopping by your desk could get in the way of your job. Plus the nervousness of your managers finding out can becoming nerve bottling. 

1. Having someone who understands a long day of hard work. The pros would be having someone to discuss work with. They may van even help you get better and your job. To keep it real, if you are dealing with the right person it could help advance your career. It could be a great opportunity for you. Love and promotion.
2. If you are dating someone at your job, why wonder what they are doing when you have front row seats. If you find yourself in a workplace romance you can keep a eye on your man better since he's in the same building. 
3. If you are having car problems you have someone to ride with. 

4. You get to see them every day if you are that clingy type that doesn't mind that. 

5. Work becomes fun. Going to working seeing someone you like can give you butterflies. Could become a little naughty scandal if you two are intimate. 

I would suggest not dealing with anyone at your job especially in same department.  If you can't help your self don't tell anyone. Remember work is work. Just because you have work buddies doesn't mean they will be loyal.

How To Avoid Getting Sprung ( Dickmerized)

Have you ever had a guy put it down so well whether it was sexually or his personality that you found your self checking his social media daily? Or looking at your phone wondering if he is going to call?

Girl, you may be sprung or shall I like to say "Dickmerized". So good it has you doing dumb, not so smart stuff.  Those are the worst type of feelings to catch for someone. His sex is so good you are blinded by his flaws. Lusting over him but in reality he ain't worth it.

There's a girl right now with a broke, non working man in her house, driving her car, eating her food but putting good sex on her. She is dickmerized.

Good sex can be hard to find, but it's not worth your pride and dignity.  Don't get blinded and ignore the red flags. Putting up with cheating because the sex is good? Snap out of it!

How To Avoid Getting Sprung
 ( Dickmerized)?

How about not putting out. Don't give a guy any sexual attention until he can prove his worth to you. Not having sex is the easiest way not to get sprung over a guy. Also don't see him too often.  Spending time with a guy every day, or all day is a quick way to catch feelings. Talk a few times throughout the week. You can still get to know him instead of getting attached to him. Lastly date. If you're not use to male attention it's easy to get too attached to the wrong guy.
Have fun be safe, don't catch feelings for the wrong guy. Don't let him get you dickmerized. Do what Rihanna does,  have fun don't bring them home.

Are You Willing To Give Sugar For A Sugar Daddy (Must Read) 👀

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Would You Be A Sugar Baby For A Sugar Daddy?

Yes, spoil me!

I already am 😉

No way, I value myself.

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When I say sugar daddy I don't mean the candy sis I mean that old man who's probably old enough to be your dad.  If you're really messy,  he may be old enough to be your granddad. A sugar daddy is pretty much a older man who lavishes someone younger with gifts,  and money only if she does something strange for a little piece of change. Not all the time but majority.

 I an not a sugar baby.  Personally Ive  had a few old men try to recruit me. If we really gone keep it real,  I have thought about it especially during my college days. I even made a account on one of those websites, one in particular SeekingArrangement.com

I SURE DID GURLLL.  When I got a message from one of my teachers from middle school trying to recruit me,  I knew it was time to deactivate.  

What I realized for me personally I am not fake enough to act interested in a sugardaddy. Plus most sugar daddies love submissive women. If you're opinionated, bossy, and demanding he can't tolalerate you. He doesn't want a baby who's gone talk back. Most sugar babies don't find their sugar daddies attractive, they find his pockets more attractive. A lot of them play along to get what they need from him. They don't love your old ass. 

Truthfully I don't look down on girls who have sugar daddies. I'm open and understand why they choose to do so. Even if I personally would not. In my eyes I look at it as desperate times call for desperate measures.  She must really be going through a hard time to tolerate it. 

Most studies show that college women between ages 18-25 are normally the sugar baby age group.  Think about it?  You're in college, on your own trying to pay for books,  and tuition. From experience college is hard and a lot of life responsibilities come with it. Chipotle cashier or sugar baby?  Some sugar daddies just want the attention and company of a young woman.  Then the other majority wants pleasure. The girls look at it as easy money and gifts. All they have to do is please him.  Sometimes it's also a low self esteem thing.  Feeling as if they are not good enough and wanted, but this older man comes along to give them better.  Let's not act as if the men don't do it for their own insecure reasons.  Using money, and gifts to bribe beautiful young women into being with you. 

Most chicks I know who have sugar daddies never fully admit to being sexual active with him.  They always say he's just nice like that. In my mind I'm thinking.... 

Not many men no matter how old and desperate they are will spend money and buy gifts and lavish vacations and get nothing out the deal.  It's like a business deal.  You do for me, I do for you. Men have been doing it for years, and women are now doing it to men.  Telling people you have a sugar daddy is also embarrassing. That's something I feel you need to keep to yourself. Just make sure someone knows who he is just in case he's a insane person and your life is in danger. Truthfully most sugar daddies have a wife and kids hidden off somewhere in the suburbs, so sis your secret is good with him.  But I have heard of these situations turning out bad. 

I watched this documentary on the life of sugar babies and dealing with sugar daddies before writing this.  . 

 In 2014 there was a kick-start program for a documentary called Daddies Who Date Babies. (sounds creepy right).  But it must have never been created. I came across a tumbler page  for it of people telling their stories and how dangerous it can also be. 

 http://daddiesdatebabies.tumblr.com 

 I quote one story from a commenter. 

Just remember to be careful. Your life is your choice.  I don't condone being someones sugar baby but I don't judge people on it.  I want all us girls to work hard, be independent.  Reality is real life happens and some have to survive.  Please be careful.  Remember that leading men on can be dangerous. If they are buying you gifts, taking you on dates ask yourself what will they want from you?  Be smart,  be safe .

NeveR ThE RighT TimE

Do you think it's true that everyone has a soulmate?  You know that person no matter what path you both take in life, the feelings always stay.  The person who knew you,  understood you,  and made you feel complete. 

But

It just wasn't the right time. You love them,  they love you but right then at that moment it just wasn't the right time for you two to be together.

You both or one of you could not be particularly ready to settle down.  You know that this person is the one for you but it just won't work out. Maybe both of you want different things in life.

The most devastating feeling is to have to love someone from a distance. Knowing you can't be together when all you want is them.  I believe the pain comes heavy having to watch them move on.  Never the right time is it?

People sometimes meet at the wrong time in life.  You may be in college or working on your career goals and they have their own thing going. Or you may be in a whole relationship with someone else and here he comes.  Messing up what you thought, was a good thing.

It's easy to say well if you love the person go be with them.  Easier said than done.
But real life shit happens.  Love has detours.  Sometimes you can get through it,  but sometimes you have to go another path. Get it!


Never the Right Time?
Or Not The Right One.

Never The Right Time

Never The Right Time, an album by Janine on Spotify

Make sure to check out past episodes of my podcast.  😗

STRAIGHT OUTTA PATIENCE: "With His Family"

Happy holidays to you all. I hope you have been keeping up with my podcast episodes. This 4th episode is perfect timing for the holidays.  You may be meeting your guys family for the first time, or spending the holidays with him and his family. Dealing with your man's family can either be amazing or a train wreck.

Sometimes you're just straight out of patience dealing with his family. Trust me I have experienced my share. You know you have had enough when you find yourself in the bedroom away from his family because you are minutes away from letting somebody have it.

Look I know you want to make a good impression. It is important to your man that you as his girlfriend or fiance get along with his family. No matter what they throw your way. Trust not every family member will be a pain, but you may have one that is really pushing it and asking to get slapped.

Men are sometimes blind to the disrespect their family members do. They feel like it's just their way of messing with you, and drilling you. But he needs to understand...this is not damn boot camp. You are his woman, they have to accept that you are his woman. Their favorite line is " DO NT BE SO OFFENSIVE, YOU JUST HAVE TO GET TO KNOW THEM"

See those smart comments, and interrogations can hit a nerve, especially if you're the new girlfriend.  Shade is shade. Joking is one thing, but if you feel shade, block it.

When your guy brings you around his family it can either go two ways. Either the last chick he was dating was so awful they are delighted to have you in his life. 

Or

They loved his ex so much they think you are just a waste of his time and a waste of their time and they want no parts of you girl.

Beware if he has sisters. I always felt brothers were easier to deal with. Men don't get into their brothers love life much, unless they feel like you're a gold digger. Majority of the time the sisters are known to give their brothers girlfriends a hard time.

If you feel like the smart remarks and other things you are dealing with his family are becoming a bit much talk to your man. Remember this is his family. Most men are in denial about their damn family and the uncomfortable vibes the girlfriends go though. So tell him how you feel but watch your words.  Saying the wrong thing could jeopardize your relationship. If he ignores you it's your decision to deal with the disrespect or walk away. Thinking that marriage or baby will help them accept you doesn't always work. Be cool, breath, walk away if a family member tries you. You don't want to be next year's holiday topic when he brings his new girlfriend. 

Who's Relationship Goals? 🤷‍♀️

Will be posted November 5, 2017

Episode 2: "Who's Relationship Goals ?"

Don't speak for me or others when you say #Relationshipgoals. I'm down for inspiring and motivating the single ones to have a relationship, but let's keep it real.  Those hashtag Relationship Goals memes aren't for everyone.  So who's relationship goals? 

As a millennial myself born in 1991 let me be the first to say majority of us don't have any idea what relationship goals are unless you grew up fortunate to see your parents show you by example. But lots of my generation are basing it off of social media and the reality shows.  It' has portrayed a picture that they are so perfect. Then things hit the fan and the Breaking News is, "He & She Are Divorcing After 72 Days". 

The fame,  the money is what people consider relationship goals. You do know people with money and fame have issues too? 

Example...  Singer Tamar Braxton & Manager Husband Vince Herbert from the reality show Braxton Family Values are calling it quits after a 9 year marriage. 

They were known as the power couple because they had TV shows,  money, artists he was managing like "Lady Gaga" and clothing lines. They seemed like the better modern day Ike & Tina without the beatings. Everyone knew them as that couple that did and went everywhere together. Just weeks before it was announced Tamar filed, they were seen loving it up as if they were going stronger than ever.  After a alledged abuse 911 call last year and rumor controlling ways he had over her. #RelationshipGoals turned out to be struggling. 

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Mary J Blige and ex husband Kendu Isaacs divorced after 12, years of marriage. Kendu was caught cheating and is currently receiving a big spousal support check after it all.  He was known as the good guy who got Mary clean and career back on track.  We looked at them as that couple still going strong. Everyone thought they were perfect.  But turns out Mary didn't think so.  She told Angie Martinez in a interview from March, 

"You start to realize that this man doesn’t want you and he’s just gone all the time and you’re by yourself in the relationship,” said Blige. “When you realize you’re by yourself and you’re just suffering through it, now it’s time to do some investigating"

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Trust me I know it isn't always a good idea to look at others relationships as goals. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with looking to other couples as inspiration and for advice.  Come on,  you have to be realistic. Cardi B & rapper Offset from rap group Migos are engaged after a few months of dating. Cardi B left a long relationship for her incarcerated ex. Lets give them more time to build their relationship before referring to them as relationship goals and not admire money,  making it rain, and icy jewelry. 

A couple of mines who I adore so much and their love story are Actor & Actress Cory Hardrict and Tia Mowry Hardrict. Both were featured on OWN new hit show "Black Love".  

This couple met when she was already a established actress from the hit sitcom "Sister Sister" and Cory was a struggling actor also working odd jobs trying to better himself in California. After giving him a ride along with her sister Tamera from a movie set they remained friends. She saw the kindness and ambition in him. 17 years they have been together married since 2008 with 1 son name Cree.  They admit it isn't easy, but it's real and they are each others support systems and best friends. Cory has gone on to star in American Sniper,  All Eyez On Me and lots more.

So ask yourself what does the couple have that will hold a stable, long, healthy relationship before you hashtag #Relationshipgoals.

Kevin Hart : Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?

Social media is going in on comedian Kevin Hart,  and I'm joining in.  Let me just say Kevin Hart "Good Guy" act has always been suspect to me.  Yes he is talented but putting your wrong doings in your comedy doesn't take away from what you did.  Now if you stumbled across my page on Google,  or link then refresh yourself on a very recent fave post titled Who's Man where I talk about how Kevin Hart cheated on his ex wife with his current wife Eniko "Allegedly. "

Anyways, so Kevin posted this bizarre video of a part 3 to Usher Confessions where he's apologizing for some shit we have no idea about. But he's basically saying it's for his wife and kids, and goes on how he needs to do better.  He also says he will not be giving his money to anyone seeking financial gain.  Take a look at the video and lets keep chatting.

So social media has kind of read between the lines of "HE CHEATED,  SIDE CHICK IS ASKING FOR A CHECK,  HE IS SAVING HIS ASS BY EXPOSING HIMSELF".

So of course his die hard fans who are in denial along with his 2nd wife Eniko ( Catch The Shade) feels no one should assume it's infidelity. Well when you post a apology video not acknowledging what the hell you're apologizing for,  we can assume whatever.

Now this is a question that came to mind.  If you cheat once,  are you always a cheater?
Let me tell you from experience.  I spent 4 years of my teen years with a excessive cheater. He constantly was getting caught up with chicks until he eventually cheated so much I kept forgiving him and just said No More.  People who cheat know what they are doing.  The goal is to not hurt anymore people after you get caught once.  But in my opinion most cheaters are always a cheater.. It's like robbing a bank and getting away with it.  The adrenaline rush of getting away with it is a thrill. Very similar to cheating.  When they cheat and don't get caught no different. If it worked once why not try it again.

However, if their partner will forgive them, why not try it again? That's how many cheaters think. There's also this new thing where people think let me expose it to my partner because it will sound better coming from me.  Soooo,  being honest about your infidelity is a better idea than lying about it.  See how stupid and smart that sounds.

Let's see how this plays out.  Let's wait on the anonymous person to come forward soon.  I'm sure they mad that Kevin took it upon himself to half ass expose himself.

1:59 p.m just saw TMZ got word that someone is exhorting Kevin Hart with some kind of allegedly mini sex tape. This is so bad. I really want to say Karma is a bitch to his new wife Eniko but I choose the door of not petty because she's with child.

TMZ came with it ⬇

http://m.tmz.com/2017/09/17/kevin-hart-sex-tape-video-extortion-woman-cheating/

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