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Thursday, December 21, 2017

NeveR ThE RighT TimE



Do you think it's true that everyone has a soulmate?  You know that person no matter what path you both take in life, the feelings always stay.  The person who knew you,  understood you,  and made you feel complete. 

But


It just wasn't the right time. You love them,  they love you but right then at that moment it just wasn't the right time for you two to be together.

You both or one of you could not be particularly ready to settle down.  You know that this person is the one for you but it just won't work out. Maybe both of you want different things in life.

The most devastating feeling is to have to love someone from a distance. Knowing you can't be together when all you want is them.  I believe the pain comes heavy having to watch them move on.  Never the right time is it?


People sometimes meet at the wrong time in life.  You may be in college or working on your career goals and they have their own thing going. Or you may be in a whole relationship with someone else and here he comes.  Messing up what you thought, was a good thing.

It's easy to say well if you love the person go be with them.  Easier said than done.
But real life shit happens.  Love has detours.  Sometimes you can get through it,  but sometimes you have to go another path. Get it!

I walked away from someone who made me the happiness I ever been with a man.  His presence, his personality, his heart, I loved.  But his future and my future didn't mix.  I'm a good girl.  I want to go the narrow path in life, become a mogul of my brand. Build success the right way.  He is the opposite, he wanted to have success and money no matter the consequences.  I didn't want that, and he didn't want to change who he was. Love is amazing, but sometimes your soul mate enters your life at the wrong time.  Maybe if I met him years later when he was mature and thinking different the puzzle would fit.

Never the Right Time?
Or Not The Right One.



Never The Right Time

Never The Right Time, an album by Janine on Spotify



Make sure to check out past episodes of my podcast.  😗


Thursday, November 30, 2017

STRAIGHT OUTTA PATIENCE: "With His Family"


Happy holidays to you all. I hope you have been keeping up with my podcast episodes. This 4th episode is perfect timing for the holidays.  You may be meeting your guys family for the first time, or spending the holidays with him and his family. Dealing with your man's family can either be amazing or a train wreck.

Sometimes you're just straight out of patience dealing with his family. Trust me I have experienced my share. You know you have had enough when you find yourself in the bedroom away from his family because you are minutes away from letting somebody have it.

Look I know you want to make a good impression. It is important to your man that you as his girlfriend or fiance get along with his family. No matter what they throw your way. Trust not every family member will be a pain, but you may have one that is really pushing it and asking to get slapped.
Men are sometimes blind to the disrespect their family members do. They feel like it's just their way of messing with you, and drilling you. But he needs to understand...this is not damn boot camp. You are his woman, they have to accept that you are his woman. Their favorite line is " DO NT BE SO OFFENSIVE, YOU JUST HAVE TO GET TO KNOW THEM"

See those smart comments, and interrogations can hit a nerve, especially if you're the new girlfriend.  Shade is shade. Joking is one thing, but if you feel shade, block it.
When your guy brings you around his family it can either go two ways. Either the last chick he was dating was so awful they are delighted to have you in his life. 

Or

They loved his ex so much they think you are just a waste of his time and a waste of their time and they want no parts of you girl.

Beware if he has sisters. I always felt brothers were easier to deal with. Men don't get into their brothers love life much, unless they feel like you're a gold digger. Majority of the time the sisters are known to give their brothers girlfriends a hard time.
If you feel like the smart remarks and other things you are dealing with his family are becoming a bit much talk to your man. Remember this is his family. Most men are in denial about their damn family and the uncomfortable vibes the girlfriends go though. So tell him how you feel but watch your words.  Saying the wrong thing could jeopardize your relationship. If he ignores you it's your decision to deal with the disrespect or walk away. Thinking that marriage or baby will help them accept you doesn't always work. Be cool, breath, walk away if a family member tries you. You don't want to be next year's holiday topic when he brings his new girlfriend. 

Friday, November 3, 2017

Who's Relationship Goals? 🤷‍♀️


Will be posted November 5, 2017

Don't speak for me or others when you say #Relationshipgoals. I'm down for inspiring and motivating the single ones to have a relationship, but let's keep it real.  Those hashtag Relationship Goals memes aren't for everyone.  So who's relationship goals? 

As a millennial myself born in 1991 let me be the first to say majority of us don't have any idea what relationship goals are unless you grew up fortunate to see your parents show you by example. But lots of my generation are basing it off of social media and the reality shows.  It' has portrayed a picture that they are so perfect. Then things hit the fan and the Breaking News is, "He & She Are Divorcing After 72 Days". 


The fame,  the money is what people consider relationship goals. You do know people with money and fame have issues too? 

Example...  Singer Tamar Braxton & Manager Husband Vince Herbert from the reality show Braxton Family Values are calling it quits after a 9 year marriage. 

They were known as the power couple because they had TV shows,  money, artists he was managing like "Lady Gaga" and clothing lines. They seemed like the better modern day Ike & Tina without the beatings. Everyone knew them as that couple that did and went everywhere together. Just weeks before it was announced Tamar filed, they were seen loving it up as if they were going stronger than ever.  After a alledged abuse 911 call last year and rumor controlling ways he had over her. #RelationshipGoals turned out to be struggling. 
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Mary J Blige and ex husband Kendu Isaacs divorced after 12, years of marriage. Kendu was caught cheating and is currently receiving a big spousal support check after it all.  He was known as the good guy who got Mary clean and career back on track.  We looked at them as that couple still going strong. Everyone thought they were perfect.  But turns out Mary didn't think so.  She told Angie Martinez in a interview from March, 


"You start to realize that this man doesn’t want you and he’s just gone all the time and you’re by yourself in the relationship,” said Blige. “When you realize you’re by yourself and you’re just suffering through it, now it’s time to do some investigating"

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Trust me I know it isn't always a good idea to look at others relationships as goals. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with looking to other couples as inspiration and for advice.  Come on,  you have to be realistic. Cardi B & rapper Offset from rap group Migos are engaged after a few months of dating. Cardi B left a long relationship for her incarcerated ex. Lets give them more time to build their relationship before referring to them as relationship goals and not admire money,  making it rain, and icy jewelry. 




A couple of mines who I adore so much and their love story are Actor & Actress Cory Hardrict and Tia Mowry Hardrict. Both were featured on OWN new hit show "Black Love".  



This couple met when she was already a established actress from the hit sitcom "Sister Sister" and Cory was a struggling actor also working odd jobs trying to better himself in California. After giving him a ride along with her sister Tamera from a movie set they remained friends. She saw the kindness and ambition in him. 17 years they have been together married since 2008 with 1 son name Cree.  They admit it isn't easy, but it's real and they are each others support systems and best friends. Cory has gone on to star in American Sniper,  All Eyez On Me and lots more.

So ask yourself what does the couple have that will hold a stable, long, healthy relationship before you hashtag #Relationshipgoals.


Sunday, July 9, 2017

Karma Is A B*tch


Have you ever heard the saying  "Karma's A B*tch before? What comes around goes around. That is a saying people use to others that means what negativity you put out will come back to you.  Now I am no scientists or psychology major at all.  I do believe Karma is possible just from my own experiences and watching others. A great example would be stealing money from someone only to lose it right after.  That is karma.  You steal from someone and then after someone steals from you.  Karma is strong and normally it will catch up to you. 


There are a lot of lucky people out there.  I believe if you do good,  good things will come to you.  Living a positive life is a choice and some people feel like they never have good karma even when they do good things.  Karma works fast some times and sometimes it works slow.  But future happiness is all about the good you put in the universe. Alot of countries gave their own definition of Karma and what it stands for.  The main thing we all can agree with on Karma is when it hits you,  it hits you hard.

There are women who sleep with married men or taken men with no care in the world or remorse. They think it's a game  and it's funny.  Karma Is A Big B*tch Then Most.  So always remember you loose them how you get them.


"I remember a few years ago I was in a 4 year relationship age 17-20. I remember basically finding out he was cheating on me and he didn't care I found out and the girl he cheated with did not neither. I was pregnant at the time and I had a miserable pregnancy. I cried many nights,  I was depressed. I had basically been lied to and betrayed and harassed on my phone by the girl he cheated with weekly.  Being pregnant you can't defend yourself much. I kept alot of it to myself and didn't tell friends or family.  Funny she thought she was popping because she supposedly took my man.  I can recall her saying "He Love Me Bitch". But 2 years after that breakup I got a message on Face book which I have to this day of her apologizing for what she did and how everything he put me through,  he is now putting her through. "



I don't wish harm to anyone and ladies you should not neither.  But remember to pray,  stay positive and let Karma take care your battles. I understand too that Karma takes to long sometimes lol.  You may want to seek revenge on the people who did you wrong yourself. But trust me girls,  Negative,  evil people always get a taste of their own medicine. Stay beautiful,  stay strong and keep it pushing. 

Check Out My Girls Talk London  Article Below As Well

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

What A Girl Wants




What a girl wants? That's like a million dollar question for men. One they can't get right. Men over think themselves trying to figure us out. I will point out some of the major things we women want from our man. It really is bothering me how unhappy allot of women are. Men have to realize the number one thing a woman wants is to be Happy. 

Being in a relationship you aren't happy in is miserable. Love is important but happiness is a big part of love. A girl wants to smile every time she sees her man. A girl wants to get chills every time her man touches her, and not get annoyed and angry every time he comes around. If a woman is not happy a real man should do his best to find out why and fix things. If he does all he can and she still isn't happy at least he can say he gave it his all.
Society has painted the picture where a man should protect and provide for his woman. In 2017 women are bosses and doing for themselves. But that doesn't mean she wants a man with no car who she has to drive around. Or a man who cant keep a job. If she loses her job or become sick a woman wants to feel like her man will have her back. Stability in a man should be a goal when dating men. Allot of women sadly don't have this. Trust me every woman wants a man with his shit together.

Respect goes back to "treat me how you want to be treated". Men are really getting disrespectful. Anything that will hurt her or embarrass her is disrespectful. A woman's pride and self esteem could be torn ed down by the disrespect of a man. When it comes to respecting a woman that means talking to her like a lady. Putting her feelings in consideration. Lastly always putting her 1st. Never have another chick laughing at your girl because you in the streets as if you're single.

A girl wants a man who studies her body. Pleasing your woman sexually is key in a relationship. Women just want their man to please them, and treat their bodies like its theirs. 

Nothing is sexier than a man who has life goals. Who wants a bum ass guy with no goals, no life plans or future. A woman seeing her man try to accomplish his goals or become better is inspiring.

Women want to hear it from her man and not someone else.  Honesty is what women crave. Nothing hurts women more than a lie. Be honest with her is all we want. Truth hurts, hut lies hurt worse.

Us girls never want to feel like he gives 0 fucks about us. Want to feel important to our man. We want to feel like he cares. Whether its returning her calls or texts, asking how our day was. Little things add up to show us we are important.


I don't know not one woman who enjoys being cheated on. Who wants to share their man? I would hope no one. We women just want to be the only woman in our relationship with our guy. Keeping their 🍆 in their pants shouldn't be a difficult wish.













Saturday, March 11, 2017

Lurking !!!! When Is It Necessary?


Sometimes you find yourself on a persons page, then see someone you know and go to their page, then another and another. Yes darling, you are a lurker. Don't trip it happens to all of us, but lurking isn't such a bad thing. For a woman who is mysterious about her mans activity you may want to lurk. Now I know there are some who believe"WHATS DONE IN THE DARK WILL COME TO LIGHT" Well I believe "If you think it, believe it, and look into it"

I have been cheated on before like allot of other good women. But because of my woman's intuition and smartness I listen to my gut and look into niggas.

Quick story. 

A few months back I was talking to a guy who seemed like he was digging me. He swore he was different not like the rest. God fearing, ambitious, good independent man, I thought. I told my best friend about him she was so happy that damn I may have found a good man. But I said to her "girl something not right". I kept saying it and she thought I was tripping and letting my past mess this up. So I followed my gut. After LURKING, I came across his ex, who I found out he had another woman in their shared home and that was the reason they broke up. After a few mins of lurking each week I came across a girl who was the reason for his last break up and was actually his girlfriend now. Yasss! He sweared he was different, and wouldn't lie, and cared. Church boy act was a front. Let's just say I scared him so bad he went ghost. 

Don't be the crazy chick going through his wallet, but if you think his ass up to something. Lurk and you may find resolution to the truth. Check out these 4 signs you need to take on the role of a detective and look into your partner. There is nothing worse than those women who are married 20 yrs and find out their man was creeping for the last 10 years 💀. People leave clues like mice leave crumbs. Don't stalk the man and catch a charge, but look into it if you think something.











Thursday, January 26, 2017

Womans Intuition


Being a woman is like being a superhero. We got the type of power men just dont have. That is "Womens Intuition". Every woman has it, but if you dont use it for your advantage it has no use. 

I would probably be with my ex who I dated for 4 years if it wasnt for my womans intuition.  5 years ago I had a dream one night he was telling a girl he loved her. I woke up in tears. I called him 6am asking is there someone else. He replied, "NO". After I looked through his facebook friends I came across a girl who was dating him as well. So it saved me and I left that relationship. 

A womans intuition is a gut feeling you get that something is not right and you shouldnt ignore it. It can help us discover the truth, and avoid bad situations. 



Even if your are insecure, that intuition is like a bee at a bbq outside, that wont leave you alone. Evenually you have to do something about it. If you got trust issues trust me I get it. Dont drive him away, give him a chance. But if you think it, look into it. For example, something is off in your relationship investigate first. Dont look like a idiot and jump to conclusions. 

I am the king of facts. I recently met a guy who I thought was really a good guy. But he always called me when he was at work, or in the car. Never when he was at home. My bestie thought I was bugging I followed my intuition and he was full of shit. Lol
Girls please dont think you are crazy following your intuition. Follow your heart, mind, you know yourself better then anymore else.