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Showing posts with label girl. Show all posts
Showing posts with label girl. Show all posts

Saturday, October 7, 2017

Charisma "What's Good Sis? "

There are some of us who have a personality that just attracts people. I always say being real is what makes a person authentic and unique. When you just let your hair down and be yourself that will attract so many opportunities and of course "MEN".

I understand that some men are attracted to a fat ass and that's all.  So those raisin brains aka small minded men don't count in this conversation.  Let me spill the tea. Truthfully girls,  the reason a lot of you aren't getting any play from men is not because of your looks,  but because you're just boring,  dull and lack sauce.


A lot of women think they are to good to even start a conversation with a man by saying hello.  It's that stuck up attitude that is driving men away.
I had a conversation with a guy I know. He opened up to me that he likes women who are funny, has personality, and spunk.  He struggled dating because chicks he met were so bad on the outside, but couldn't hold a conversation like glue holds eyelashes. But he met his wife and she was just so down to earth they were inseparable.  Her looks were a bonus.

Having charisma is a gift in itself. Being able to charm, influence, and attract people is just something you got,  or you don't. It's not something you buy on ebay. Confidence plays a big part in it. Knowing who you are, and actually liking those things about yourself makes you secure in your self. How you walk, talk, and interact with men will will play a big part in that.

Also your stand-off attitude makes men not even want to approach you.  If you see a guy smile at you, a nice quick smile back won't kill you.  That's just a guys way of saying hello from a distance. A lot of girls think that every guy who speaks is trying to holla.

Calm down sis.........

So working on communication skills and confidence helps with shyness.  Trust me I am the girl who attracts men just from my personality. Men I have dated have always said how great my personality is.  I am just always myself. Whether they think I'm weird, talkative, you can't knock realness. Also dating, and talking to men is the only way to help that.  Bad attitude will keep your ass lonely sis.  So simmer down,  humble yourself and let your guard down.  

Thursday, September 28, 2017

Birthday Behavior

Woke up blessed and one year older.  Today is my 26th birthday.  I spent my day at work but I plan on turning up this weekend. My mom asked me "how does it feel to be 1 year older?" For some reason that was such a hard question. I feel more of a ambition to accomplish my goals.  My goals are turning this blog site into a household brand.  I am currently working on starting my podcast soon.  One fun fact about me is I am very indecisive. So I am currently at the point of my voice overs,  and audio. It will be fresh, raw, and realness. So stay tuned.


Any ways.  I am blessed to be able to do what I love and that's be right here sharing great articles. I am blessed to be a mom.  I have a 4 year old daughter who I try to keep away from Kayla Got The 411 stuff.  But she is what gives me motivation when I feel down or discouraged.

With birthdays I like to reflect on where I am,  where I want to be,  and how I will get there.  It's a way for me to see my improvement and see my weakness. 


One thing I can proudly say is I know who I am as a woman.  It takes experiences and life lessons for you to understand who you are as a woman. 

That means understanding your body,  your emotions, strengths, flaws and over all what makes you who you are.  A lot of girls think they know themselves, but you don't know who you are until you can stand in the mirror naked and be proud of that woman you see. 


Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Kayla Got The 411: #GirlPower

Story Time:

I was at work and this lady was 15 minutes late for a interview. I come in from break and she's by my desk.  I said " hey have you been helped?" She let me know she was here for a interview in accounting. She said "they're doing work on Interstate 285 so traffic was hell,  coming from Stone Mountain".

So I called over and the person who interviewed her has a, reputation of being a "strict" 

She said "Did that lady just get here?"

I paused and just instantly lied.

 "It looks like she's been waiting in the lobby, I came in and saw her just sitting. I just came back from break no one has helped her,  but I will send her over".

The girl said "OMG thank you".  I said it's ok good luck on your interview.

30 minutes later she came and found me and hugged me.  She said, "girl thank you for having my back. I got the job,  I start Monday".  I told her we black women gotta look out for one another. Just women in generally.  I'm happy you got it.  She was so happy. She said sadly most women especially black women don't stick up or help one another as much.  I told her no problem I have been there and I understand.  She said lunch on me lol.

It truly warmed my heart.  I didn't do it for a reward.  I know when you travel for a interview anything can happen to cause you to be late. Things happen.  Seeing her happy made me happy.  I truly believe if I told her interviewer she was late and just arrived it would of ruined her chances.

So girls let's look out for one another.  One compliment or kind gesture can do alot for another woman.  Girl power. 

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Pretty Hurts?




Being pretty is a privilege and curse. Being pretty means to most men she's a catch. They see you and think, "shes the one." What can we offer men besides being pretty?  Can you cook?  Can you keep your house clean?  What type of goals do you see for yourself in the next 5 years?  Do you have higher education?  What's your skill? What do you do for your community? See if you can't answer those type of questions, you need to work on you. Being pretty will get him,  but will it keep him?




Pretty face,  big boobs,  thick thighs is what men want?  But I can almost bet allot of these men would go crazy if we all were just pretty and that was it. She couldn't cook a pack of noodles.  Her house was filthy,  only if she has a crib.  Sex so good, goes for hours and hours, but she doesn't work only lays on her a$$. Sounds like a one in a million.


                          Sarcasm..... 

You don't want to be a pretty girl with nothing going for herself.  Be the pretty girl with brains.  The pretty girl with ambition,  the pretty girl with hustle,  the pretty girl who's a boss.  Being pretty doesn't have to hurt.  Being pretty should just be a bonus to other awesome things you bring to the table.


Thanks... also if you are looking for me on Instagram. My account @kaylagotthe411blog was disabled due to the hack or just haters.  I have been reaching out to instagram daily. Current back up is just @kaylagotthe411

    

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Protecting Your Valuables(The Truth About Feminine Products

I first started my menstrual at age 9. I remember not having a clue what to expect but my mom gave me a pad to put on my underwear.  I can't recall how many times I put a pad on wrong and messed up a pair of jeans. Then once my monthly cycle ended I was given a douche to refresh and supposedly clean my vagina from odors.  Not knowing what I know now,  I have been harming my body for so long.


As women it is very important we keep our body's safe and protected. Our body is a valuable jewel. You guard it with your life literally. Our vagina is precious.  We use our vaginas for many things which why it is very important we know what the hell we are putting near that area.
I came across a breakfast club interview where comedian Tiffany Haddish (Click To Hear Her Story) talked about when she was a young girl and used a tampon because she had no pads.  She talked about having to go to the hospital due to TSS shock.  Some of her symptoms were  high fever, low blood pressure, chills, dizziness, and light headed. I thought to myself "What the hell is that?"






According to WebMD one of the causes of TSS shock is the use of using tampons brands that use harmful chemicals. Trust,  they know that they are harmful but what profit would they make by telling women. They release poisonous substances from an overgrowth of bacteria named Staphylococcus aureus, or staph, which is commonly found in many women's bodies. The cotton we put inside us or from the pads are dyed,  and absorbed with very dangerous chemicals. Mucosa membranes line wall is  1/3 of our  vagina that protects us from bacteria but absorbs chemicals very very well. So that means those chemicals are getting into our bloodstream. The materials used in some tampon brands are using extreme pesticides and chemicals.  When I hear pesticide I think of poison. Procymidon and piperonyl butoxide are the most common. To some it may not be a big deal.  But when it is affecting our bodies it is important.  Some safer brands are Natracare, Diva Cup, Seventh Generation Chlorine Free Organic Cotton Tampons. We need our products.  But let's actually educate ourselves on what we are spending our money on.  



Douching is something I am guilty of doing for years before I knew more about the bad it was doing.  Growing up some use it after your menstrual to keep it clean and fresh.  Some even use it to help prevent sexual diseases.  Which is very confusing to me.  

The only thing to help that is safe sex.  But doctors studies show all that is a lie.  It can cause pregnancy complications and infections.  It is suppose to be a mixture of water and vinegar to help clean us out, which they contain antiseptics and fragrances. Douching can through off our natural balance. It can cause harmful infections including yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis and pelvic inflammatory disease. The safest way to clean our vagina's is using mild soaps, non fragrance sprays, and powders. Baby powders are very dangerous as well. Studies show most women who commonly use it below are more likely to get ovarian cancer. Also ladies. This may be something that sounds tempting on a hot sweaty day but baby powder is not something we should want to use below.

Girls I hope you enjoyed this post and most importantly take it serious. Our body is valuable it belongs to us. So lets protect our girl parts. For an questions please see links above. Also check out my previous post. Keeping your vagina purtty.







Tuesday, July 25, 2017

20 Something's (When Life Gets Real)


Singer SZA had a song off her debut album CTRL called 20 some thing's. There is a line where she sings "Honesty hurts when you're gettin' older" which really got me to thinking. I will be turning 26 years old in September. My 20s have been a life assessment for me.  I moved out at 18 to attend college and life really hit home for me. I had a daughter at age 21 who I have to provide for and protect. In our 20 some thing's, you will learn what being a true adult means.  When we were kids we wished upon a star to become a grown up.  Now we wish we could go back in time when we didn't have bills,  taxes, and people breaking our hearts with no empathy what so ever. Those fairy tale books we read as kids,  thinking life was one big magical place, Ha,  not so much anymore.  Life is savage. Sza also sings "Hopin' my 20 somethings won't end Hopin' to keep the rest of my friends Prayin' the 20 somethings don't kill me.  Do you also remember when you were in your teens you thought that crew of yours would be with you for a lifetime.. Now looking back you ask yourself how many of those friends are still your friends? You are either the friend who couldn't keep up,  or you are the friend who grown,  and matured and had to let the past go.



Our 20 somethings are a test run, 10 years long for us to fu*k up,  make mistakes,  learn from them and better ourselves. No 20 something year old knows everything. Look honey,  you may think you do,  but you don't.  All the crap I have experience at age 25 I still have more to experience and learn from. You have to live a little to understand the big picture of this thing called life.  In a perfect world some 20 year olds have found their true love,  married and have succeeded in their career.  The rest of us are working towards making a statement in life for ourselves. Trying to figure out exactly what the hell we even want to do and how to do it.  The struggle is real. Working odd jobs,  or working at a job that may bring in good money but it's torture having to go to a job you truly don't give a fu*k about  Truthfully,  so many of us 20 something year olds have managed to snag great jobs but hate doing it.  This is the time for us to work towards our goals. Fast cash,  but not cool helping a billionaire make more billions.  You won't accomplish anything if you don't put effort into it.  It is not hard to become discourage in our 20s.  Let's keep it real,  alot of us lack ambition.  We feel something should be given to us and the world should know and see our talent.  But Reality Replies Back.....



Dating is a struggle in our 20s. No one takes love serious anymore.  Side chicks and side dudes are being glorified. People are having kids outside marriage or have no thought of building a family and having a solid foundation.  Men don't court women anymore because we offer all our goods up for free without making him earn us.  There is no respect in dating anymore.  So if we as young women in our 20s don't respect ourselves,  our morals,  our body or have standards, how can we expect a man to respect us?  We should date as much as possible.  How can you know your type if you haven't actually took time to date.  Get to know men all while getting to know who you are.  Big difference in dating,  and thotting. 


Still we are going to be alright.  We have made it this far.  Things will get tough,  you may cry and feel like your life is so hard and stressful you hate life.  But come back and read this post.  Every time you make a mistake learn from it.  Ask yourself,  "Why is this happening to me". Also let love find you during these years. The best love comes unexpected.  Marriage is not going anywhere.. Get to know exactly who you are before committing to someone else's life.  Remember marriage is a partnership,  their baggage and struggles becomes yours added to what you already had.  Accomplish things in life, Go to college,  travel,  start a career of your own. This is our starting line,  let's give ourselves a head start to the finishing line. 






Sunday, May 7, 2017

Keeping Your Vagina Purty




I like to think of a woman's vagina as a purse. Our purse holds lots of valuable things inside, and so does our vagina. As young girls either you had a mom who taught you how to keep yours up. Or you had to learn throughout life on your own. As women besides our period, the one thing that unites us is our vagina. We have to keep it clean, safe, tight, and purty. Check out some ways to help keep yours on fleek. 

1. The V-Steam


I had the chance to get the V-steam for my birthday with my bestie. Before I get all technical let me give you my definition of it. It is a bowl of water filled with herbs you sit on. While sitting on it you can feel the steam releasing the herbs into your vagina. Oh the shit is hot! Now I will mention I had went out the night before and I had a killer hangover that entire day after. But it was a hour long but it was for some reason so hot I almost said F it. πŸ˜‚After my vagina did feel different, it felt fresh, and tighter.


It's also known as a vaginal steam bath. You're naked or wearing a poncho cover up that feels like you can't breathe to increase the steam's effect which I had on. Koreans say it fights infections, reduces stress, eases PMS, and even increases fertility and tightens your vagina.


2. Cotton Underwear 


Doctors suggest that cotton panties are much healthier for our vagina's. They are soft and keep our vagina's safe from bacteria. When it is hot or you are at the gym it is suggested to wear thongs, only because cotton panties can get sweaty. Thongs are cute and a quick go to. But did you know thongs are a easy way for bacteria to go from your butt to your vagina, which can cause urinary trac infections. Yikes. 

3. Watch What You Eat!


Taste like sugar? Pineapples are not only good, sweet, and healthy but they do wonders for your vagina. I remember I was at work at my desk eating pineapples. This woman Tina came up to me and said " you know pineapples keep you sweet". I said,"huh"? She said google it and you will see. πŸ˜‚ Yes what you eat affects your vagina. Pineapples, applesyogurt, red grapescranberry juicelots of water, mint, watermelon,strawberries are suggested to help. 

4. Yearly Woman's Exam


If you are sexual active getting a yearly exam is key for your vagina. The same way you take your car to the shop, take yourself to the doctor yearly for the pelvic exam or when needed if you smell a off smell. Lets be real as adults our vagina wont smell like peaches and cream 24/7. The pap is something common. 

Your doctor will perform the speculum exam. A device called a speculum will be inserted into the vagina. The speculum is opened to widen the vagina so that the vagina and cervix can be seen by your doctor then your doctor will use a plastic spatula and small brush to take a sample of cells from the cervix and a sample of fluid from vagina to test for infection.


5. Trim Her Up



Having a bush down their is not sanitary. Whether you like bald eagle or a nice trim it's a must you get your vagina looking right. Trimming is always  a good idea. You can use safe baby scissors to neatly trim your puberty hair. Shaving creams with aloe vera and less chemicals is always key to use. Always shave in the direction hair is growing. Once done use a non antibacterial soap to scrub it up clean. Doing this weekly should keep her cute, purty and clean.

6. Kegels Please!


Kegels are a known factor for keeping the vagina tight and right. It takes practice to actually know which is your pelvic muscle. You have to stop urination in midstream. Once you figure it out you can do them any position and any place. No one will know. 

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Monday, April 3, 2017

Im Just Saying You Can Do Better


Do you ever look back on past relationships and think, "Damn I could of did better"? You just know you deserve so much more and better. I can not count how many women go through this when dealing with a guy she no longer wants

Sometimes we stay because we don't know exactly how and what to say. You can't just say " I can do better than you." Or maybe you can.

Its your heart, you have to look out for yourself. Truth is, no one will have your best interest more than yourself.

Oh so you aren't happy? Leave that relationship. Nothing irks me more than a motherfucker staying in a relationship they are not happy in. Release yourself. Yes they may be mad, but oh well as long as you are happy.

Your partners sex isn't great? Leave. If you are going to spend your entire life with a person, make sure their sex is A1.

No goals, no ambition. If you feel like they are not doing anything with their life you have to move on to better. Be with a person you can grow with. Not a person who takes you backwards. You are suppose to grow. Don't let no more hold you back. Its okay to think you can do better. You know what you want, so go for it.

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Get Clear Skin At Home


Whats worst than acne or a random pimple. You spend hundreds yearly buying products to help but only harm your face. See I always get random pimples above my lip around that time of the month. Its so annoying. I freak out and pick at it. I had to stop. I founds the best know home remedies for us ladies below. Check them out. 
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Lemon Juice

I found out about this one from @hudabeauty on instagram. All you need is a fresh lemon. Yes lemon. Squeeze the lemon juice in your hand and apply to your face and neck. Let it stay on for 10-15 mins and then wash off. Cool right. Do this daily. The lemon has citric acid that exfoliate the skin, a huge step in treating acne.
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                           Daily Detox 

You can create your own detox water at home. Easy, and cheap. You will need, 2 liters of water
(i prefer a fresh gallon from the store) 1 cucumber. 1 lemon. A handful of mint leaves. A pitcher and you got a daily detox drink to help get clear skin. See the cucumber is mostly water, but contains ascorbic acid which is good old vitamin C and caffeic acid that both help soothe the skin and irritations. The mint soothes the skin, and helps cure infections, itchy skin, and help reduce pimples. 
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 Raw Honey



Honey is kind of expensive these days but I keep it for my teas. But it is a great remedy on clear skin. Use two tablespoons jojoba oil or coconut oil with two tablespoons of the honey for a mixture. Apply to your skin, let dry and rinse off. According to sheknows.com 

  • Acne: Honey is naturally antibacterial, so it's great for acne treatment and prevention.
  • Aging: Full of antioxidants, it is great for slowing down aging.
  • Complexion boost: It is extremely moisturizing and soothing, so it helps create a glow.
  • Pores: Honey is clarifying because it opens up pores making them easy to unclog.
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                             Baking Soda



Mixing baking soda with water or lemon juice will create a paste for a weekly skin care remedy. Baking soda exfoliates the skin that helps remove dead cells. It also balances the pH level of our skin.
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              Apple Cidar Vinegar




Apple cidar helps with wrinkles, balance, and antifungal and antiviral substance that can help bacteria and pimples from forming. When you use it, make sure its a diluted mixture of 50% water and 50% apple cider vinegar and be sure because it can burn. When applying it to your skin as a facial toner once a day use a cotton ball.


Saturday, January 14, 2017

Which Pony Tail Style Is You ?


Which Style Is You Rocking With? 
1.@badgalriri 
2.@arianagrande 
3.@iamnaomicampbell 
4.@beyonce 
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