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Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Man Down: " Protecting Yourself From Predators As A Woman


Being a woman has it's perks. If your car breaks down on the side of the road people will always run to your rescue. Or how about free before 11 at the club for ladies. Being a woman is awesome and it does has it's disadvantages. I watch a lot of crime shows. Women are always the target. From robbery, kidnapping, rape, to domestic violence. There are men who take advantage of women because they're bigger and stronger. I can not tell you how recently I have came across a woman robbed and sexually assaulted by a stranger this year alone. Its scary as hell being a woman and knowing you're the prey for a lot of sick, disturbed individuals. Sadly we can't stop every bad person but we can help protect ourselves and be more aware. I don't want you to be scared but I want you to be aware and alert. I am going to give you all a few things to look out for as women to help protect yourself. It breaks my heart when I see a young women assaulted or violated. I am a mom myself to a daughter. I want us all to be safe. Let's start with the number one thing.

. DON'T ACCEPT ALL DRINKS

Sometimes when a guy offers you a drink it doesn't always mean he's being a gentleman. Never accept a drink from a guy if you didn't actually see him make it. There are guys who will slip a date rape drug into your alcohol beverage to get you knocked out so they can take advantage of you sexually. Most women admit they got very dizzy and lightheaded suddenly and when they woke up didn't remember a thing. Always smell your drink and look clearly at it. Be careful to not leave your drink sitting around too. Some of the most common date rape drugs are roofies, gamma, liquid ecstasy, and special k all street terms. Be careful also outside of clubs. Just because he has a bottle at his house doesn't mean it's still safe to drink. Smell, look, and trust your gut. If he's very pushy for you to drink it, RUN BITCH!

 This is a common way women are violated. If you feel this has happen to you or someone you know, contact your local authorities and contact 1-800-656-HOPE. 

. Watch Your Surroundings 

Sometimes those midnight Wal-Mart runs sounds like a good idea. Nobody is there that late. I remember seeing a episode of See No Evil on investigation network of a teen doing late night shopping. A strange man followed her around the store, and attacked her at her car. He approached her with a gun, kidnapped her, raped her, and killed her. I cried like a baby. It could of been me or you. Girls please watch your surroundings especially when you are alone. I don't want you to be paranoid ,but be aware. If you live alone pay attention to the cars following you. If a person follows you for miles call a friend to have someone on the phone with you. Also if you leave early or come home late, check your surroundings before getting out the car. Always have your keys and phone in hand. It sounds like a lot, but if your key is in your hand it's a life safer if a person is coming at you. 

. Don't Date Anyone

Sometimes a guy may slide in your DM. He seems great, he's cute from his pictures too. Remember , you don't know him. Get to know him very well before agreeing to a date. If you do decide to go out with him make sure it's a public place. 
I don't suggest that but at least inform a friend where you're going, and who you are going with. Truthfully I wouldn't even suggest he picks you up. He can meet you there. It has become common for women to meet up with predators they meet online. I like to see if we have mutual friends, that way you can do a quick reference check.  Don't be thirsty for a date and risk your life. 

. Watch Your Hands & Mouth

There are some crazy ass men out there. Girls be careful how you talk to men. The cursing , and hand in face will set off a already violent man quickly. Some guys are full of rage, it only takes you poking the bear before he unleashes. Please don't get yourself in a violent situation with a physcopath .A quick hit upside his head from you may make him hurt you in a way you might not recover from. Look for signs in abusive men. Crazy people can only hide their crazy for so long. His outburst and how he treats other's will tell you allot. If you see signs of crazy, Run Bitch! Fighting back is for the boxing ring, don't risk your life trying to be Wonder Woman.

Revenge Porn

If I see one more explicit picture or video online of revenge porn I may scream. If you don't know what revenge porn is, its basically posting  explicit pictures or videos of someone without consent. Trust me I know how easy it is to believe the hype when he says he will delete it. I can almost bet you $50.00 he is lying. Don't let these guys record you having sex. You can't even trust boyfriends these days. There are actual websites out there where men expose ex girlfriends by posting their nudes or sex tapes. If you are having sex and you see a flash just get up and start swinging. I know what I said before just in this case get the camera and run. 😂💯
It has happen to me, I had to jump up quick. They sneaky. Don't let them take advantage of you. Your reputation and dignity is what makes you a woman. 

. FOLLOW YOUR GUT

 Don't let your woman's intuition go to waste. Your brain is there for a reason. If it doesn't sound right, or feel right, it must not be right. If you're somewhere with a guy and the vibes feel weird, get out.  Its hard to describe the feeling but it's a quick instinct of danger.