Tuesday, September 22, 2020

A Letter To My Future Husband


This is a letter to my future husband. I have been through a lot emotionally. I have loved, I have been cheated on, and I have been heartbroken. Love and a family is something I always craved. I didn’t grow up with family values and it’s something I want  with you. Because of me being a hopeless romantic, I have allowed myself to date men in the past who were not worthy of me.So trust issues is something I struggle with, but it does not define me. I have been through a stage where I was looking for love in the wrong places. I realize what I was doing was not good for me and I needed to heal. I took years to myself to find self-love, self-worth, and self respect. By me doing that it allowed me to heal my heart and be able to love again. I am now at a place in my life where I am confident in my skin and my body. I am a confident woman even though I have flaws. So I am not the perfect woman, but I know that I am the perfect woman for you. When we finally meet you and I will have a connection so strong that we will automatically connect with one another. You will never have to question my love and I will never have to question your love. We will accept each other  for who we are and don’t try to change each other to fit something we are not. Just a little about myself. I am a only child.  So sometimes I need time to myself to be alone. Don’t think that it is you because it is not. Sometimes it feels like I am standoffish because it means I am lost in my thoughts because I have spent so many years alone I handle it on my own. I want you to know that my biggest fear is losing who I am in a marriage to you. So please allow me to be me. Support me the way I will support you, trust me the way I will trust you.

 I am a single mother and my daughter means the world to me. If my daughter is not receptive of you we will struggle in our marriage.  My daughter or any other future children will always come first. My daughter will have to be a part of your life the way I am a part of your life. We will look to you to protect us, respect us, and provide for us. Coming into my life when I already have a child will be difficult, but if you love me it will become easy to love the most important person to me. 

Dear future husband I can’t wait until you read this one day. You will probably laugh, and cry. You know me right now so me being dramatic and extra is normal to you lol. I got this idea from a podcaster  and I thought it would be amazing to write a letter to my future husband. I don’t care what the new generation is doing. Everyone doesn’t value love the way I do. I know that you will be very similar to me in love, relationships, and marriage will be something we will always have and value. I have spent many years being single because I value relationships. So I know that this relationship that we have is truly special. Because you have allowed me to be able to trust a man with my heart. I want us to be the type of couples to be friends and lovers. We will laugh. We will cry. We will always be there for one another. Baby just know that no matter what we go through, when I love you I always got you.