The Hate is Real ( Disabled Instagram )

For the past few months as my website and brand gets more attention I have had multiple reports against me on Instagram. You all know I am not a messy blogger.  I am a, actually writer,, entertainer. I don't know from who,, but I figure haters. Yes it is not my only platform but it is a major key.  My Instagram was disabled last night.  I am working hard to get it back. Until then I am here Facebook, on twitter,  Pinterest and www.kaylagotthe411.com . I refuse to start a new account for doing nothing but be great and original

#PrayForHouston

Houston you are in my prayers!!

If you are under a rock the state of Texas is having a hard time right now,  especially Houston TX with Hurricane Harvey.  Kevin Hart has called out a few celebrity friends Beyonce,  Drake,  Chris Rock, Steve Harvey and many more along with everyone else to help out and donate.

https://cdn.crowdrise.com/o/en/team/kevinhart?utm_source=KHSocial&utm_medium=partner&utm_campaign=KevinHart

Hurricane Harvey is still puring rainfall in.  The city is under water as I write and seeing the pictures is heartbreaking. With 50 inches of rain already,  it is predicted the city could see up to 25 more by Saturday. Currently the death told is estimated at 7. If you can, please donate. Little helps alot as well. Below are ways you can donate to help a family in need.  Keep them in your prayers.

southtexasblood.org

harvey-food-banks

https://adrn.org/disaster-relief/hurricaneharvey/

http://hopefamilythrift.org

http://www.redcross.org

New Music Friday's! Taylor Swift, Fergie, Katy Perry

So yesterday Katy Perry dropped ger video to her single Swish Swish ft Nicki Minaj.  The video is whacky but in a funny comedy type of way.

With now over 15 million views  Katy is the number 1 YouTube video.

Earlier in the week I heard Fergie was coming back which I love . Of course queen Nicki Minaj is featured on this track as well "You Already Know. " The beat is so dope,  and Fergie vocals slay.  Nicki rode the beat like a cruise ship.

What makes more sense than Taylor Swift making a comeback on the week rival Katy Perry drops her new music video for her diss to Taylor and Fergie makes a comeback.... None. Taylor has debuted a lyric video to her song "Look What You Made Me Do. With the split from Calvin Harris,  and Kim Kardashian calling her out it fits. This single so far has mixed reviews.  It is one of her darker songs. I'm interested to see the tone for the following single.

Who's Man?

What does it feel like having to constantly worry about other women taking your man?  Having to watch your man move on with the woman who possibly interfered in your relationship. As a woman who never experienced that can you imagine that feeling?  The humiliation, and feeling like  "Damn What's Wrong With Me?" But there's nothing wrong with you, something is wrong with him. Yes it is understandable that people fall out of love.  Let's keep it real,  some women are forced out of there relationship because another woman decided your man was a catch instead of a single or divorced man who's available.  What can you do if your man cheats or leaves you to be with another woman?  What you shouldn't do is be out here in these streets fighting over a man.  He's not worth it at all.  If he wants to go,  let karma take care of him.

(READ KARMA IS A BITCH ARTICLE) 

Recently comedian Kevin Hart's wife Eniko Parrish had the nerves to respond to a follower on Instagram as if she was clearing up some things, but what she did was clarify everything ex wife Torrei Hart has been saying.  Kevin allegedly cheated on Torrei with Eniko and they got divorced 6 years ago, but Eniko claims her and Kevin started dating over 8 years ago, which was allegedly the reason for the failed marriage. Now keep reading. 

 Eniko responded to a follower 

“Their marriage was broken way before I came in the picture.. They were separated living in separate homes. I was never a secret." 

Now she took it upon her self to keep responding. She even went on to say Torrei spreads those lies trying to play victim. Now Torrei has been very classy and mature over the years allowing her and Kevin's kids to take family photos with a woman who is not there mother. 

Now what mother you know would allow her kids to take family photos with her ex husband and his new chick?  I'll wait 🕖. So Torrei gathered the other Mrs. Hart quickly by saying, 

“Eniko sweetheart normally I don’t feed in to this, but when you addressed me directly, you forced my hand to respond. We have made successful strides to become a loving co parenting family, but you have now left it open for my character to be questioned. You, Kevin, and I know the truth. 

Yasssss Torrei.  (ROUND OF APPLAUSE) 

Now we can't forget the biggest "Bitch I took your man", moment in Hollywood. Angelina is my girl, but I can never stand for her taking Jennifer Aniston husband Brad Pitt at the time.  Jennifer and Brad got married in 2000. Shortly after Mr & Mrs Smith hit theaters Brad and Jennifer were announcing they were getting divorced.  

http://www.nydailynews.com

Angelina is a shady home wrecker indeed.. She had no sympathy or remorse for taking that lady man lol. Brad admitted he fell in love with Angelina on the set of Mr & Mrs Smith.  

 Angelina and Brad were even spotted on vacation after the split,  and Angelina even got pregnant in 2006, a year after split from Jennifer. 

Brandy Glanville is known from Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.  She may have a bad reputation,  but she did not deserve what LeAnn Rimes did to destroy her family.  LeAnn has been so disrespectful as far as flaunting it. LeAnn not only took her man,  but also seems as if she wanted to take the damn woman kids too.  LeAnn the country singer career has suffered from her being known as a home wrecker. LeAnn's own ex husband spilled the beans.  He actually encouraged her to star in the lifetime movie that lead to her meeting Eddie and both cheating on their spouses. 

Here's Swiss & Alicia Keys.  It seems as if people really have turned a blind eye to what Alicia did.  Producer Swiss Beats was married to R&B star Mashonda .This has been a long messy triangle. I remember years ago Mashonda saying Swiss abandoned her and her son in a house that was falling apart and she couldn't afford it. The strange part is there's no real public timeline of when they actually started dating.  Alicia has said in the past Swiss and Mashonda were well broken up before she came alone.

 Swiss even had a baby with another random woman in 2008 during marriage to Mashonda then turned around and married Alicia Keys in 2009.

Well years later seems as if Mashonda has let things go and matured way more than I could.  Her ex husband Swiss Beats,  and Alicia Keys were spotted all on vacation together. Where Swiss and Alicia flaunted there love in front of her. 

Allot right?  Truthfully girls I could of kept going from Kylie Jenner,  Tyga,  and Blac Chyna to more. See the truth is women go through this daily.  He's your man,  then another woman decides she wants him. Then the big confusion starts where the question is,  who man is he? You are amazing,  if he doesn't want you,  you may cry,  curse. Trust me,  you will find love again. Let her have him.  Karma is my 1st cousin and she plays no games. 

Protecting Your Valuables(The Truth About Feminine Products

I first started my menstrual at age 9. I remember not having a clue what to expect but my mom gave me a pad to put on my underwear.  I can't recall how many times I put a pad on wrong and messed up a pair of jeans. Then once my monthly cycle ended I was given a douche to refresh and supposedly clean my vagina from odors.  Not knowing what I know now,  I have been harming my body for so long.

As women it is very important we keep our body's safe and protected. Our body is a valuable jewel. You guard it with your life literally. Our vagina is precious.  We use our vaginas for many things which why it is very important we know what the hell we are putting near that area.
I came across a breakfast club interview where comedian Tiffany Haddish (Click To Hear Her Story) talked about when she was a young girl and used a tampon because she had no pads.  She talked about having to go to the hospital due to TSS shock.  Some of her symptoms were  high fever, low blood pressure, chills, dizziness, and light headed. I thought to myself "What the hell is that?"

According to WebMD one of the causes of TSS shock is the use of using tampons brands that use harmful chemicals. Trust,  they know that they are harmful but what profit would they make by telling women. They release poisonous substances from an overgrowth of bacteria named Staphylococcus aureus, or staph, which is commonly found in many women's bodies. The cotton we put inside us or from the pads are dyed,  and absorbed with very dangerous chemicals. Mucosa membranes line wall is  1/3 of our  vagina that protects us from bacteria but absorbs chemicals very very well. So that means those chemicals are getting into our bloodstream. The materials used in some tampon brands are using extreme pesticides and chemicals.  When I hear pesticide I think of poison. Procymidon and piperonyl butoxide are the most common. To some it may not be a big deal.  But when it is affecting our bodies it is important.  Some safer brands are Natracare, Diva Cup, Seventh Generation Chlorine Free Organic Cotton Tampons. We need our products.  But let's actually educate ourselves on what we are spending our money on.  

Douching is something I am guilty of doing for years before I knew more about the bad it was doing.  Growing up some use it after your menstrual to keep it clean and fresh.  Some even use it to help prevent sexual diseases.  Which is very confusing to me.  

The only thing to help that is safe sex.  But doctors studies show all that is a lie.  It can cause pregnancy complications and infections.  It is suppose to be a mixture of water and vinegar to help clean us out, which they contain antiseptics and fragrances. Douching can through off our natural balance. It can cause harmful infections including yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis and pelvic inflammatory disease. The safest way to clean our vagina's is using mild soaps, non fragrance sprays, and powders. Baby powders are very dangerous as well. Studies show most women who commonly use it below are more likely to get ovarian cancer. Also ladies. This may be something that sounds tempting on a hot sweaty day but baby powder is not something we should want to use below.

Girls I hope you enjoyed this post and most importantly take it serious. Our body is valuable it belongs to us. So lets protect our girl parts. For an questions please see links above. Also check out my previous post. Keeping your vagina purtty.

The Dating Struggle

If you haven't lucked up and already found a good man then girl keep reading. The problem isn't finding a man to date,  the struggle is dating men in this generation.  They don't even have the courtesy to ask  you on a date so they can get to know you.  Their ideal of a date is coming over to your crib,  hoping you cook or at least have snacks.  With hopes they can get to know you more by getting inside of you.  

It normally starts off,  "Send me a picture" or "When can I come see you? " You're thinking boy "I just met you".  Alot of women are single because they truthfully don't have the patience for it anymore.  Stop saving numbers in your phone,  because by the end of the year you will have a long list of contacts under names of guys you won't even remember. Why is dating is such a struggle for single girls?  

1. Well first off men don't have respect for women.  There are so many thots out here who set the tone for modern day women.  Men think if she looks that good and she gives it up easy,  then all pretty girls give it up easy.  We have to demand men to respect us.  Stop sex on the first date,  that's even if you are asked on a date 
2. We deserve to be taken out and felt special.  If he really likes you he should put some effort into it.  As a grown as woman that Netflix and chill is not hot and it's a cheap excuse for a man to use your wifi and watch your account,  smash,  and go home.  
3. What's worse than talking to a guy who can't hold a intelligent conversation?  Almost as worst as watching paint dry.  Conversation is the key reason why women leave guys on read, we women want a man to stimulate our mind. 
4. It's hard to find a available man.  Not guys who claim they are available,  men who have no wives or baby mamas hidden.  This is the biggest issue we have.  The 100 lies told to cover 1 lie.  All to avoid being caught up.  Literally these men are for everybody 

The best way to get through the dating struggle is to upgrade our taste in men,  and stop even wasting our time giving any ol body our time and energy.  The way he introduces himself says it all.  So what we may have to weed the bad ones out the bunch.  You gotta kiss a few frogs before you find your prince right?  Ha!  Truth is figure out what you can do different to change your dating experience.  It's not always the men,  sometimes it's just you.  

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