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Thursday, November 30, 2017

STRAIGHT OUTTA PATIENCE: "With His Family"


Happy holidays to you all. I hope you have been keeping up with my podcast episodes. This 4th episode is perfect timing for the holidays.  You may be meeting your guys family for the first time, or spending the holidays with him and his family. Dealing with your man's family can either be amazing or a train wreck.

Sometimes you're just straight out of patience dealing with his family. Trust me I have experienced my share. You know you have had enough when you find yourself in the bedroom away from his family because you are minutes away from letting somebody have it.

Look I know you want to make a good impression. It is important to your man that you as his girlfriend or fiance get along with his family. No matter what they throw your way. Trust not every family member will be a pain, but you may have one that is really pushing it and asking to get slapped.
Men are sometimes blind to the disrespect their family members do. They feel like it's just their way of messing with you, and drilling you. But he needs to understand...this is not damn boot camp. You are his woman, they have to accept that you are his woman. Their favorite line is " DO NT BE SO OFFENSIVE, YOU JUST HAVE TO GET TO KNOW THEM"

See those smart comments, and interrogations can hit a nerve, especially if you're the new girlfriend.  Shade is shade. Joking is one thing, but if you feel shade, block it.
When your guy brings you around his family it can either go two ways. Either the last chick he was dating was so awful they are delighted to have you in his life. 

Or

They loved his ex so much they think you are just a waste of his time and a waste of their time and they want no parts of you girl.

Beware if he has sisters. I always felt brothers were easier to deal with. Men don't get into their brothers love life much, unless they feel like you're a gold digger. Majority of the time the sisters are known to give their brothers girlfriends a hard time.
If you feel like the smart remarks and other things you are dealing with his family are becoming a bit much talk to your man. Remember this is his family. Most men are in denial about their damn family and the uncomfortable vibes the girlfriends go though. So tell him how you feel but watch your words.  Saying the wrong thing could jeopardize your relationship. If he ignores you it's your decision to deal with the disrespect or walk away. Thinking that marriage or baby will help them accept you doesn't always work. Be cool, breath, walk away if a family member tries you. You don't want to be next year's holiday topic when he brings his new girlfriend. 

Wednesday, November 29, 2017

*UPDATED* 22 year old Tyrika Terrell- Gunned Down At Work By Ex Boyfriend

Please Share Her Story 

"Update on story"
December 2, 2017

Her ex was taken into custody after he started a fire and shot himself during a two hour long standoff with police.
Police found Quantez at a family members house on Friday, four days
He also shot himself and tried to start a house fire before swat came in.  Also new discovery,  Tyrika called police to warn them Quantez had been threating to kill her a week before and was stalking her at work.  Again the police failed another one of our girls.  R. I. P angel he is caught you will get justice. 




22 year old Tyrika Terrell was shot and killed by her ex boyfriend and child's father at her job.  Tyrika worked at the post office for 3 weeks in Decatur Georgia,  when her ex stalked her job at the near by coin laundry before gunning her down at her job. Witnesses say the gate was not secure and he came right in without a problem entering.  Tyrika mother was waiting to pick her up when the gun shots were heard.  Neighbors say he was a violent guy and had a temper.

Please keep Tyrika family in your prayers but most importantly her child who is now motherless. Girls please get out the first sign of abuse or violence.

This is real shit.  Your life matters. These men will never change. You are precious and don't ever allow a man to hurt you.  If you can't fight back, reach out for help until someones listens and helps. If you know someone who is with a abusive person please helo.  Don't wait until a tragedy like this hapoens

 So far the shooter is still out there.
 Tyre is 5 feet 8 inches tall and weighing about 160 pounds. He was last seen running towards Wesley Chapel Road. Police consider him armed and extremely dangerous.

Her family has started a go find page.  She was a young mother and has a child who has now lost a mother.

https://www.gofundme.com/tyrika-terrell-memorial-fund



Read more

http://amp.fox5atlanta.com/news/police-postal-worker-shot-killed-in-dekalb-county

Sunday, November 19, 2017

Kayla Got The 411 Podcast: Episode 3- "Fake Friends"


Episode 2 🎙
"F*ck A Fake Friend Where Are Your Real Friends?"
Whats the 411? @NickiMinaj Broke The Internet With Paper Magazine "MINAJ À TROIS" cover. @MeekMill sentenced 2-4 years for probation violation. Fair or Wrong?
Girl talk discussion this week... F*ck A Fake Friend Where Are Your Real Friends. Don't get bit by thinking someone's who's a fraud is your real friend.
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Sunday, November 5, 2017

Kayla Got The 411 Podcast : Episode 2: "Who's Relationship Goals? "


Whats the 411?
 Actor/Singer Tyrese social media meltdown. Cardi B & Offset engaged.
Justin & Selena rekindling that old flame.
Girl talk discussion this week...
"Who's Relationship Goals?

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Friday, November 3, 2017

Who's Relationship Goals? 🤷‍♀️


Will be posted November 5, 2017

Don't speak for me or others when you say #Relationshipgoals. I'm down for inspiring and motivating the single ones to have a relationship, but let's keep it real.  Those hashtag Relationship Goals memes aren't for everyone.  So who's relationship goals? 

As a millennial myself born in 1991 let me be the first to say majority of us don't have any idea what relationship goals are unless you grew up fortunate to see your parents show you by example. But lots of my generation are basing it off of social media and the reality shows.  It' has portrayed a picture that they are so perfect. Then things hit the fan and the Breaking News is, "He & She Are Divorcing After 72 Days". 


The fame,  the money is what people consider relationship goals. You do know people with money and fame have issues too? 

Example...  Singer Tamar Braxton & Manager Husband Vince Herbert from the reality show Braxton Family Values are calling it quits after a 9 year marriage. 

They were known as the power couple because they had TV shows,  money, artists he was managing like "Lady Gaga" and clothing lines. They seemed like the better modern day Ike & Tina without the beatings. Everyone knew them as that couple that did and went everywhere together. Just weeks before it was announced Tamar filed, they were seen loving it up as if they were going stronger than ever.  After a alledged abuse 911 call last year and rumor controlling ways he had over her. #RelationshipGoals turned out to be struggling. 
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Mary J Blige and ex husband Kendu Isaacs divorced after 12, years of marriage. Kendu was caught cheating and is currently receiving a big spousal support check after it all.  He was known as the good guy who got Mary clean and career back on track.  We looked at them as that couple still going strong. Everyone thought they were perfect.  But turns out Mary didn't think so.  She told Angie Martinez in a interview from March, 


"You start to realize that this man doesn’t want you and he’s just gone all the time and you’re by yourself in the relationship,” said Blige. “When you realize you’re by yourself and you’re just suffering through it, now it’s time to do some investigating"

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Trust me I know it isn't always a good idea to look at others relationships as goals. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with looking to other couples as inspiration and for advice.  Come on,  you have to be realistic. Cardi B & rapper Offset from rap group Migos are engaged after a few months of dating. Cardi B left a long relationship for her incarcerated ex. Lets give them more time to build their relationship before referring to them as relationship goals and not admire money,  making it rain, and icy jewelry. 




A couple of mines who I adore so much and their love story are Actor & Actress Cory Hardrict and Tia Mowry Hardrict. Both were featured on OWN new hit show "Black Love".  



This couple met when she was already a established actress from the hit sitcom "Sister Sister" and Cory was a struggling actor also working odd jobs trying to better himself in California. After giving him a ride along with her sister Tamera from a movie set they remained friends. She saw the kindness and ambition in him. 17 years they have been together married since 2008 with 1 son name Cree.  They admit it isn't easy, but it's real and they are each others support systems and best friends. Cory has gone on to star in American Sniper,  All Eyez On Me and lots more.

So ask yourself what does the couple have that will hold a stable, long, healthy relationship before you hashtag #Relationshipgoals.