Upgrade Your Standards!

Baby let me upgrade you? No I think we as women should upgrade our standards. Life is all about growth. So grow your taste in men as well. Now for young girls in their teens may not understand what upgrading your standards are. For one they are still living with their parents watching Disney and eating hot Cheetos as lunch. When you are 16 you are lucky to even date a guy who has his driver license. You aren't 16 any more babe. Those standards you had for yourself at 16 should not be the same when you are 25 and up. You are a grown ass woman now. Bills, responsibilities and things going in life. You have upgraded in life so the men you date should not be any different.

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• A man who has a job is very important. He should have some source of income. Unless he was born rich he needs to be able to file his taxes at the end of the year. The main reason we need a man who has a career is because it is not our job to take care grown men. Dating a rich man is not realistic but he needs to be independent. He should be able to pay his own bills, and have his own gas money, That's if he has a car. 

• It is understandable that everyone can't afford a car, but you are not a Uber. You can not always be his Lyft when he is in need of a ride. If he doesn't have a car he should be hopefully looking for one, unless he can afford to pay for a driver. Trust me, those date nights when you're the designated driver who has to get in your vehicle, and use our gas to pick him up, will become tiring. My mom once told me years ago, if there is a emergency and you need help in the middle of the night, he should be able to get in his car to come help you. The bus doesn't run after midnight.

• Then you have the "Couch Crasher." If he is always sleeping at his fellas house, or his family members homes, that is a serious downgrade, He needs to have his own place that he can call home. Once he gets comfortable with you, he will be bringing a suitcase full of his items to your house and he will never leave. Ha! (That was hilarious) As grown women we don't have time for kiddie games. Dinner at his house and dinner at your house is how its suppose to be. Or consider privacy. Room mates are cool, for the moment, not a lifetime.

• You are a woman, so as women those little boy antics are for little girls. If a man wants to get to know us, or meet up he should be inviting us for coffee or a date. Netflix and chill is cool if that's all you want from him. In the dating world the impression you give him is what he is going to have. You can't meet him and invite him over to have sex, but a week later you tell him he needs to take you on a date. Excuse me b****? That is going to be his response if he's a savage. We should be wanting a man with goals, and respect for himself and us as women, He knows what he wants and won't waste our time. Upgrade your standards is so important. We have to know our worth and stop settling. It is okay to tell him "You're Are Not For Me."  Grown men are already on that type of mentality . You are not a gold digger for upgrading your standards. You are a woman who wants to be treated like a grown woman and not a little girl. 

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Kayla Got The Recipe - Easy Shrimp Fried Rice

Buying good shrimp fried rice can be hard to find unless you visit China. Lets be real spending 8-9 bucks for fried rice at the local restaurant adds up. You tell them no bean sprouts but they still do it. Or maybe the shrimp are tiny and you only get 8. I'm not Chinese but sometimes I want to try my favorite dishes at home. I have been making my own fried rice recipes for years. Finally I have the perfect pick. 

Ingredients

• Left over white rice
• Raw shrimp 
• Sun bird fried rice seasoning
• 2 eggs
• White Onions, green onions, or veggies of your choice.
• Canola oil or rice bran oil
• Sesame oil
• Soy Sauce

1. For one you will need a non stick pan. Using a pan that sticks will ruin this dish completely.
2. I prefer large raw shrimp. Season with pepper, Lawry's seasoning and salt. 
3. Use oil to saute shrimp. I save bacon grease to saute my shrimp or you can use butter or olive oil.
4.  After shrimp are done fry your 2 eggs and set aside.
5. Next Saute your green onions, white onions and your veggies. I hate hard veggies.
6. Once they are almost soft add 3 table spoons of oil and your cold rice to the pan. ( use left over rice so it frys better)
7. Spread rice over  pan and let cook for 2-3 mins then flip rice and let other side cook. Once it starts to brown you know you are doing right.
8. Next add 2-3 tablespoon of soy sauce and 1 teaspoon of sesame oil. Also for seasoning I use Sunbird fried rice seasoning. You can find this at walmart or Kroger's international lane. 
9. Only use half the package for a small amount as I did. For a bigger amount use entire package.
10. Let cook for 1 min then add saute veggies, shrimp and egg. Stir it all together and let cook for amount of time you prefer. I let it all cook for 4 mins on low heat. 
11. If you like spice add some red pepper flakes. 
12. Eat up!

If you would like to use other meats as in chicken, beef, or pork best to cook before adding to rice. Without meat sautee your veggies and add to rice. For the fried rice seasoning walmart always has them for a buck. This is a favorite I created by reading online but adding my own twist. No I am clearly not asian but this is a quick dish for dinner.