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Saturday, December 30, 2017

New Years Resolutions (Goal Digger Edition)


Hello everyone.  It is now 8:25 p.m eastern time on December 30, 2017 as I write this.… One more day in 2017. Have you looked back and reflected on how this year as a whole turned out?  I did and I truly must say as a whole this wasn't a good year.  Between the violent mass murders, police brutality, weather catastrophic,  this was a rough year. One thing I do hope is 2018 brings us more peace and love. 

I am not going to make my resolutions for 2018 just to not do it.  That's the thing people don't actually think things throughout. I look at new years resolution as goals.  I feel like saying resolutions sounds good but in reality there are things people put on their list knowing damn well it won't be done. You may work out,  for a week or two. Or the ones who say they're going to start going to church every Sunday.  You see them 1st Sunday and never again. 

My resolutions are goals. Things I know I will do,  because it will help benefit me. Check out my 5 goals. Next year around this time the goal is to come back and hope I got them all completed. 

 The first goal of mines for 2018 is to take some hosting classes.  One way I would like to expand my brand is by interviewing and hosting.  I would like to learn more about that field,  before I actually go out there and do it. 

 I have a major fear if heights. No joke.. Going to the mall and riding the escalators freaks me out. Because of my fears I have never been on a airplane before.  This is one goal I must force myself to do.  A great opportunity may come up and I can't allow my fear of heights to stop me. 

 Third is to get my articles featured in other publications.  I always wanted to be a guess writer for Essence Magazine. I will truly be submitting more submissions into them on topics hoping one catches the editors attention. But to get Kayla Got The 411 as the author throughout many publications is the mission. 

 Networking.  It's hard to talk to others who aren't in my field or understand my passion of writing and my newest podcast. People who don't think like you won't get it.  I will be going to many network events in 2018 to meet women like myself who have business goals they're trying to achieve. When women put their power together we do a lot of great things. Plus I am fun,  outgoing, and know what I want.  I need to be around others like myself. 

 Focusing on my family.  Recently I saw my father who I haven't seen in years.  I don't know him,  and he doesn't know who I am which is sad.  Meaning, we have no idea each others personailty. I want to put effort into getting to know him.  Maybe that way all the questions I have can be answered. I want to do more family activities with my mother and daughter. My daughter and I always do fun events.  But I want to get my mother to join us.  These times are precious and I don't want to take it for granted. 


Happy New Year Dolls.  Thank you to ever subscriber,  and person who comes to read my post.  The views, and shares this year were amazing. I was sometimes shocked. I'm happy to share my experiences.  I am no expert. I am just a girl with a passion for writing who shares her experiences. If I can make you laugh, smile , or say yassss at least once,  I have accomplished what I wanted. Be safe, be brave, be bold see you next year. 



Wednesday, December 27, 2017

You're Not Invited (Fashion Trends To Keep In 2017)





Hey there you'll.  With only 4 more days left in 2017 I am reflecting back on the fashion this year.  Normally how fashion statements begin is a celebrity making it popular. Let's be real,  Monkey See,  Monkey Do is how I look at fashion. But just because our favorite celebrities wear it, that doesn't mean its a good look for everyday wear.  Now darling I'm not Anna Wintour but I do know there are some fashion / beauty trends of 2017 I would like to not invite into the new year.  Let's begin.

No Bra/ See Through




This was the year the twins were on display. I do love a nice cleavage moment when it comes to my fashion.  When the titties are just there looking back at you like πŸ‘πŸ‘, now I think we're taking it too far. Rihanna pulled it off best and first and now I'm seeing chicks at target with no bra,  see through top,  and titties staring at me,  or the floor.  Can we leave this trend here in the year of 2017. Let's keep men imaging what we look like under our clothes, not give them a free show. 
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  Man Bun


Maybe it's just me on this one.  This year women were drooling over this new trend of men wearing buns.  Apparently this is the top style on the barbers list, but not for me.  I hate the style. The dutch braids, shaved sides,  all awful.  I think a good looking man can for sure pull it off.  The look doesn't make my panties wet,  only dry.  It takes away the masculinity in a man.  


Track Suits With Heels 

I blame Kim Kardashian for this one.  Her style use to be so fabulous.  This trend of taking track suits,  with heels and a fabulous fur has to stay behind.  The pairing of a Adidas tracksuit, heels, and a fur is straight tacky to me.  I haven't seen this style rocked on the streets thankfully. So far the celebrities are owning this trend and I hope they retire it. 

These are my picks I don't prefer.  Everyone has a opinion.  You may like vanilla ice cream,  I prefer strawberry. Enjoy and share your 2017 fashion trends you would like to leave behind. 

Thursday, December 21, 2017

NeveR ThE RighT TimE



Do you think it's true that everyone has a soulmate?  You know that person no matter what path you both take in life, the feelings always stay.  The person who knew you,  understood you,  and made you feel complete. 

But


It just wasn't the right time. You love them,  they love you but right then at that moment it just wasn't the right time for you two to be together.

You both or one of you could not be particularly ready to settle down.  You know that this person is the one for you but it just won't work out. Maybe both of you want different things in life.

The most devastating feeling is to have to love someone from a distance. Knowing you can't be together when all you want is them.  I believe the pain comes heavy having to watch them move on.  Never the right time is it?


People sometimes meet at the wrong time in life.  You may be in college or working on your career goals and they have their own thing going. Or you may be in a whole relationship with someone else and here he comes.  Messing up what you thought, was a good thing.

It's easy to say well if you love the person go be with them.  Easier said than done.
But real life shit happens.  Love has detours.  Sometimes you can get through it,  but sometimes you have to go another path. Get it!


Never the Right Time?
Or Not The Right One.



Never The Right Time

Never The Right Time, an album by Janine on Spotify



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Monday, December 18, 2017

Kayla Got The 411 Podcast Episode 6: 20 Something's





Whats the 411? Former political aide
Omarosa allegedly resigns from white house . Kevin Hart talks recent infidelity on recent breakfast club interview. 
Girl talk discussion this week. 20 Somethings,  when life gets real and reality sets in that you are no longer a kid. 








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Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Kayla Got The 411 Podcast: Episode 4- Straight Outta Patience With His Family



⏯New Podcast Episode Episode
πŸŽ™Straight Outta Patience With His Family?
Whats the 411?  Actor/Singer #JenniferHudson and her fiance aka boyfriend aka baby daddy #David Otunga
split after a 9 year engagement! Rapper Cam'Ron  girlfriend of 10 years  Juju split. Damn..Tis The Season To Break The He'll Up I Guess
Girl talk discussion this week... Straight Outta Patience With His Family? When you have had enough of the disrespect.



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Sunday, December 3, 2017

Kayla Got The Recipe: Broccoli Cheese Soup

 "Panera Style Broccoli Cheese Soup "

I am no chef but I love to eat so that is why I cook so much.  I fell in love with Panera Bread broccoli cheese soup, but it can get pricey.  So good,  but expensive for the bowl or bread bowl.  So I searched on line and found inspiration on how to get the taste of Panera bread soup.  Well I found it,  put a Twist on it and and honestly I think I beat Panera.  Check out my ingredients below. Give it a try.  What's better than a hot bowl of soup in the winter?

Ingredients 



  • tablespoon butter melted 



  • grated sharp cheddar cheese 

    •  chopped diced onion
    • 1 ⁄4 cup flour
    • 2 cups half-and-half cream
    • 1/4 cup of broth 
    • 2 cups chicken stock
    • broccoli chopped into bite size pieces
    • 1 cup carrot ,sliced thin
    • 1  teaspoon nutmeg
    • salt and pepper,  Lawry's seasoning. 

    I cooked my soup in the crock pot. 
    I sauteed the onions and butter 1St.  Added the flour and half and half.  I let it slow simmer before adding the carrots and broccoli. Then once my veggies started to get soft I added my cheese. (Careful, don't add to much cheese to the point it takes away the broccoli taste) 

    Lastly I added salt,  pepper,  Lawry's and also garlic powder but not much. Lastly my nutmeg. 



    As long as you have the key ingredients it will come out tasty. Remember this is soup.  Slow cook it,  on low.  Don't rush soup,  you may end up with a disaster. 



    Thursday, November 30, 2017

    STRAIGHT OUTTA PATIENCE: "With His Family"


    Happy holidays to you all. I hope you have been keeping up with my podcast episodes. This 4th episode is perfect timing for the holidays.  You may be meeting your guys family for the first time, or spending the holidays with him and his family. Dealing with your man's family can either be amazing or a train wreck.

    Sometimes you're just straight out of patience dealing with his family. Trust me I have experienced my share. You know you have had enough when you find yourself in the bedroom away from his family because you are minutes away from letting somebody have it.

    Look I know you want to make a good impression. It is important to your man that you as his girlfriend or fiance get along with his family. No matter what they throw your way. Trust not every family member will be a pain, but you may have one that is really pushing it and asking to get slapped.
    Men are sometimes blind to the disrespect their family members do. They feel like it's just their way of messing with you, and drilling you. But he needs to understand...this is not damn boot camp. You are his woman, they have to accept that you are his woman. Their favorite line is " DO NT BE SO OFFENSIVE, YOU JUST HAVE TO GET TO KNOW THEM"

    See those smart comments, and interrogations can hit a nerve, especially if you're the new girlfriend.  Shade is shade. Joking is one thing, but if you feel shade, block it.
    When your guy brings you around his family it can either go two ways. Either the last chick he was dating was so awful they are delighted to have you in his life. 

    Or

    They loved his ex so much they think you are just a waste of his time and a waste of their time and they want no parts of you girl.

    Beware if he has sisters. I always felt brothers were easier to deal with. Men don't get into their brothers love life much, unless they feel like you're a gold digger. Majority of the time the sisters are known to give their brothers girlfriends a hard time.
    If you feel like the smart remarks and other things you are dealing with his family are becoming a bit much talk to your man. Remember this is his family. Most men are in denial about their damn family and the uncomfortable vibes the girlfriends go though. So tell him how you feel but watch your words.  Saying the wrong thing could jeopardize your relationship. If he ignores you it's your decision to deal with the disrespect or walk away. Thinking that marriage or baby will help them accept you doesn't always work. Be cool, breath, walk away if a family member tries you. You don't want to be next year's holiday topic when he brings his new girlfriend. 

    Wednesday, November 29, 2017

    *UPDATED* 22 year old Tyrika Terrell- Gunned Down At Work By Ex Boyfriend

    Please Share Her Story 

    "Update on story"
    December 2, 2017

    Her ex was taken into custody after he started a fire and shot himself during a two hour long standoff with police.
    Police found Quantez at a family members house on Friday, four days
    He also shot himself and tried to start a house fire before swat came in.  Also new discovery,  Tyrika called police to warn them Quantez had been threating to kill her a week before and was stalking her at work.  Again the police failed another one of our girls.  R. I. P angel he is caught you will get justice. 




    22 year old Tyrika Terrell was shot and killed by her ex boyfriend and child's father at her job.  Tyrika worked at the post office for 3 weeks in Decatur Georgia,  when her ex stalked her job at the near by coin laundry before gunning her down at her job. Witnesses say the gate was not secure and he came right in without a problem entering.  Tyrika mother was waiting to pick her up when the gun shots were heard.  Neighbors say he was a violent guy and had a temper.

    Please keep Tyrika family in your prayers but most importantly her child who is now motherless. Girls please get out the first sign of abuse or violence.

    This is real shit.  Your life matters. These men will never change. You are precious and don't ever allow a man to hurt you.  If you can't fight back, reach out for help until someones listens and helps. If you know someone who is with a abusive person please helo.  Don't wait until a tragedy like this hapoens

     So far the shooter is still out there.
     Tyre is 5 feet 8 inches tall and weighing about 160 pounds. He was last seen running towards Wesley Chapel Road. Police consider him armed and extremely dangerous.

    Her family has started a go find page.  She was a young mother and has a child who has now lost a mother.

    https://www.gofundme.com/tyrika-terrell-memorial-fund



    Read more

    http://amp.fox5atlanta.com/news/police-postal-worker-shot-killed-in-dekalb-county

    Sunday, November 19, 2017

    Kayla Got The 411 Podcast: Episode 3- "Fake Friends"


    Episode 2 πŸŽ™
    "F*ck A Fake Friend Where Are Your Real Friends?"
    Whats the 411? @NickiMinaj Broke The Internet With Paper Magazine "MINAJ Γ€ TROIS" cover. @MeekMill sentenced 2-4 years for probation violation. Fair or Wrong?
    Girl talk discussion this week... F*ck A Fake Friend Where Are Your Real Friends. Don't get bit by thinking someone's who's a fraud is your real friend.
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    Sunday, November 5, 2017

    Kayla Got The 411 Podcast : Episode 2: "Who's Relationship Goals? "


    Whats the 411?
     Actor/Singer Tyrese social media meltdown. Cardi B & Offset engaged.
    Justin & Selena rekindling that old flame.
    Girl talk discussion this week...
    "Who's Relationship Goals?

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    Friday, November 3, 2017

    Who's Relationship Goals? 🀷‍♀️


    Will be posted November 5, 2017

    Don't speak for me or others when you say #Relationshipgoals. I'm down for inspiring and motivating the single ones to have a relationship, but let's keep it real.  Those hashtag Relationship Goals memes aren't for everyone.  So who's relationship goals? 

    As a millennial myself born in 1991 let me be the first to say majority of us don't have any idea what relationship goals are unless you grew up fortunate to see your parents show you by example. But lots of my generation are basing it off of social media and the reality shows.  It' has portrayed a picture that they are so perfect. Then things hit the fan and the Breaking News is, "He & She Are Divorcing After 72 Days". 


    The fame,  the money is what people consider relationship goals. You do know people with money and fame have issues too? 

    Example...  Singer Tamar Braxton & Manager Husband Vince Herbert from the reality show Braxton Family Values are calling it quits after a 9 year marriage. 

    They were known as the power couple because they had TV shows,  money, artists he was managing like "Lady Gaga" and clothing lines. They seemed like the better modern day Ike & Tina without the beatings. Everyone knew them as that couple that did and went everywhere together. Just weeks before it was announced Tamar filed, they were seen loving it up as if they were going stronger than ever.  After a alledged abuse 911 call last year and rumor controlling ways he had over her. #RelationshipGoals turned out to be struggling. 
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    Mary J Blige and ex husband Kendu Isaacs divorced after 12, years of marriage. Kendu was caught cheating and is currently receiving a big spousal support check after it all.  He was known as the good guy who got Mary clean and career back on track.  We looked at them as that couple still going strong. Everyone thought they were perfect.  But turns out Mary didn't think so.  She told Angie Martinez in a interview from March, 


    "You start to realize that this man doesn’t want you and he’s just gone all the time and you’re by yourself in the relationship,” said Blige. “When you realize you’re by yourself and you’re just suffering through it, now it’s time to do some investigating"

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    Trust me I know it isn't always a good idea to look at others relationships as goals. Truth is, there is nothing wrong with looking to other couples as inspiration and for advice.  Come on,  you have to be realistic. Cardi B & rapper Offset from rap group Migos are engaged after a few months of dating. Cardi B left a long relationship for her incarcerated ex. Lets give them more time to build their relationship before referring to them as relationship goals and not admire money,  making it rain, and icy jewelry. 




    A couple of mines who I adore so much and their love story are Actor & Actress Cory Hardrict and Tia Mowry Hardrict. Both were featured on OWN new hit show "Black Love".  



    This couple met when she was already a established actress from the hit sitcom "Sister Sister" and Cory was a struggling actor also working odd jobs trying to better himself in California. After giving him a ride along with her sister Tamera from a movie set they remained friends. She saw the kindness and ambition in him. 17 years they have been together married since 2008 with 1 son name Cree.  They admit it isn't easy, but it's real and they are each others support systems and best friends. Cory has gone on to star in American Sniper,  All Eyez On Me and lots more.

    So ask yourself what does the couple have that will hold a stable, long, healthy relationship before you hashtag #Relationshipgoals.


    Thursday, October 26, 2017

    Kayla Got The 411 Podcast-Episode 1: Sidechick Predicament

    If you believe in yourself you can do anything. This southern girl has taken the blog on air.  It's been 2 years since I started this website.  Why not build a brand.  Blogs,  podcast, books.

    With myself getting sick twice in one month losing my voice.  With me breaking my new mic.  Also struggling editing this podcast.  The first episode stressed me out.  I do admit I am a control freak over my own material.


    The first episode this week is What's the 411? Film Producer Harvey Weinstein alleged sexual assault victims come forward. Girl talk discussion this week... how to avoid getting yourself into a "Sidechick Predicament."
    You can listen so far on SoundCloud, YouTube, and spreaker.
    Hopefully by tomorrow you can listen on itunes and Google play.

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    Friday, October 13, 2017

    My 2017 Fall Fashion Favorites

    I am a fall baby.  Born September 28 the fall weather is my go to season.  But sadly here in Georgia I haven't got my fall weather as of yet.  It is hotter than a under boob down here.  Ha!  No really it is 80° in October. Anyways,  let's get to the point. 

    So my favorite fall favorites are velvet pieces, thigh high boots and over size sweaters. 
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    High To The Thigh 

    (H&M) 


    These H&M boots are hot. Normally with fall weather the weather is not too cold, and not too hot.  So pairing these with some mini shorts, can really give a sexy,  Bada$$ look.
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    Velvet Baby 

    (Altuzarra) 


    Velvet is such a throw back fabric but so sexy and sophisticated.  Pairing a top and bottom is a dope fall favorite for me as well.  Trust me with velvet, it is definitely a eye catcher,  and is very popular right now in the fashion world. The top fashion stores at your local mall I am sure has a display in the window.

    (Banana Republic) 

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    The over size Sweater 

    (Fabshopper) 
    The over size sweater look can be worn so many ways.  This is something I sm loving to sew this fall.  Pairing a over size sweater with a nice fitted pant.  If you are going out pair it with a heel,  or heading out to run errands pair it with a flat. 


    Rihanna is always on top of what's hot in fashion.  Here she is pairing a over suze sweater with a heel.  

    What are your fall favorites? 

    Saturday, October 7, 2017

    Charisma "What's Good Sis? "

    There are some of us who have a personality that just attracts people. I always say being real is what makes a person authentic and unique. When you just let your hair down and be yourself that will attract so many opportunities and of course "MEN".

    I understand that some men are attracted to a fat ass and that's all.  So those raisin brains aka small minded men don't count in this conversation.  Let me spill the tea. Truthfully girls,  the reason a lot of you aren't getting any play from men is not because of your looks,  but because you're just boring,  dull and lack sauce.


    A lot of women think they are to good to even start a conversation with a man by saying hello.  It's that stuck up attitude that is driving men away.
    I had a conversation with a guy I know. He opened up to me that he likes women who are funny, has personality, and spunk.  He struggled dating because chicks he met were so bad on the outside, but couldn't hold a conversation like glue holds eyelashes. But he met his wife and she was just so down to earth they were inseparable.  Her looks were a bonus.

    Having charisma is a gift in itself. Being able to charm, influence, and attract people is just something you got,  or you don't. It's not something you buy on ebay. Confidence plays a big part in it. Knowing who you are, and actually liking those things about yourself makes you secure in your self. How you walk, talk, and interact with men will will play a big part in that.

    Also your stand-off attitude makes men not even want to approach you.  If you see a guy smile at you, a nice quick smile back won't kill you.  That's just a guys way of saying hello from a distance. A lot of girls think that every guy who speaks is trying to holla.

    Calm down sis.........

    So working on communication skills and confidence helps with shyness.  Trust me I am the girl who attracts men just from my personality. Men I have dated have always said how great my personality is.  I am just always myself. Whether they think I'm weird, talkative, you can't knock realness. Also dating, and talking to men is the only way to help that.  Bad attitude will keep your ass lonely sis.  So simmer down,  humble yourself and let your guard down.