Friday, June 23, 2017

Upgrade Your Standards!

Baby let me upgrade you? No I think we as women should upgrade our standards. Life is all about growth. So grow your taste in men as well. Now for young girls in their teens may not understand what upgrading your standards are. For one they are still living with their parents watching Disney and eating hot Cheetos as lunch. When you are 16 you are lucky to even date a guy who has his driver license. You aren't 16 any more babe. Those standards you had for yourself at 16 should not be the same when you are 25 and up. You are a grown ass woman now. Bills, responsibilities and things going in life. You have upgraded in life so the men you date should not be any different.


  • A man who has a job is very important. He should have some source of income. Unless he was born rich he needs to be able to file his taxes at the end of the year. The main reason we need a man who has a career is because it is not our job to take care grown men. Dating a rich man is not realistic but he needs to be independent. He should be able to pay his own bills, and have his own gas money, That's if he has a car. 
  • It is understandable that everyone can't afford a car, but you are not a Uber. You can not always be his Lyft when he is in need of a ride. If he doesn't have a car he should be hopefully looking for one, unless he can afford to pay for a driver. Trust me, those date nights when you're the designated driver who has to get in your vehicle, and use our gas to pick him up, will become tiring. My mom once told me years ago, if there is a emergency and you need help in the middle of the night, he should be able to get in his car to come help you. The bus doesn't run after midnight.
  • Then you have the "Couch Crasher." If he is always sleeping at his fellas house, or his family members homes, that is a serious downgrade, He needs to have his own place that he can call home. Once he gets comfortable with you, he will be bringing a suitcase full of his items to your house and he will never leave. Ha! (That was hilarious) As grown women we don't have time for kiddie games. Dinner at his house and dinner at your house is how its suppose to be. Or consider privacy. Room mates are cool, for the moment, not a lifetime.
  • You are a woman, so as women those little boy antics are for little girls. If a man wants to get to know us, or meet up he should be inviting us for coffee or a date. Netflix and chill is cool if that's all you want from him. In the dating world the impression you give him is what he is going to have. You can't meet him and invite him over to have sex, but a week later you tell him he needs to take you on a date. Excuse me b****? That is going to be his response if he's a savage. We should be wanting a man with goals, and respect for himself and us as women, He knows what he wants and won't waste our time. Upgrade your standards is so important. We have to know our worth and stop settling. It is okay to tell him "You're Are Not For Me."  Grown men are already on that type of mentality . You are not a gold digger for upgrading your standards. You are a woman who wants to be treated like a grown woman and not a little girl. 

Hope you enjoyed this post. Repost, email, or tag a friend who needs to read this and upgrade her standards when it comes to dating. Oh and don't forget to subscribe. Check out more great post below.

Friday, June 16, 2017

New Music Fridays: DJ Khaled Ft Rihanna & Bryson Tiller

@djkhaled You Got Another 1. This Rihanna & Bryson Tiller Joint #WILDTHOUGHTS And it is A Smash. Sampling My Favorite Santana Maria Maria. Khaled will be dropping his new album Grateful soon with ft Jay Z, Drake, Beyonce, Rihanna, Nicki Minaj, Nas, Future, Alicia Keys and many more.
Check out his newest sing below.

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Thursday, June 15, 2017

Styling Tracksuits! Trendy or Trash?

Tracksuits are know for active wear, but celebrity ladies have been turning tracksuits to a full blown fashion statement wear. From Kim Kardashian, to Rihanna and more. These ladies are styling tracksuits with heels, jewelry pieces and more. Is this a trend you like or do you think it is a bit much?


Kim Kardashian

Gigi Hadid

Rita Ora

                                               Jennifer Lopez

Khloe Kardashian

                                                Kendall Jenner


Bella Hadid

Friday, June 9, 2017

Street Style!

Between Rihanna, The Hadid sisters, and Kim Kardashian, they have been rocking street style for the past few months. Street style is a style that has been trendy on the runway. But in reality street style was created from the urban communities. Girls who didn't have the funds to buy designer clothes and new fashion would create unique styles with the clothes they had in their closet. They weren't new, matching, or even up to date. But that is what made it unique. Using what you got to create dope fashion looks. 

Joseline From Love & Hiphop Atlanta breaks street style down but shows a little shade as well. 

In 2017 designers, and celebrities are heavily into street style. Check out some dope looks from these celebrities. 

Katy Perry Debuts New Album Witness

Katy Perry 4th Album #Witness dropped today as well. Her vocals are on point on this album. She kinda went for a edgy vibe unlike #TeenageDream. With features by Nicki Minaj and Migos her album is already Number 1 in 50 countries. Check it out.

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SZA Drops Anticipated Album CTRL

Singer & Writer SZA (Solรกna Imani Rowe)
 has worked with the best. Kendrick Lamar, Rihanna. She even worked on Nicki Minaj & Beyonce major hit "Feeling Myself". She has released a few eps but recently her single Love Galore has been all over the radio. Fans are so excited she is finally getting her shine as a artist. She dropped her album same day as Katy Perry. But seems like some have looked over Katy and went straight to itunes to support SZA. Stream her album on Spotify and purchase all below. Go girl. I love to sew young women shine. 

SZA, CTRL- Itunes Purchase

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Saturday, June 3, 2017

Girl Talk London Feature: Are Sidechicks Winning In 2017?

I had the privlage to write a article for Girl Talk London which was created by Vanessa Sanyauke the Founder and CEO of Girls Talk London who is a speaker, presenter and writer who is based out of London.  Also host of Girls Talk, an online panel talk show for women.I recently did a post on are side chicks winning, and wanted to go more into detail explaining the cons of being a sidechick. Head over to their website and check it out. Subscribe to their website as well. 

Friday, June 2, 2017

Kayla Got The Recipe - Easy Shrimp Fried Rice

Buying good shrimp fried rice can be hard to find unless you visit China. Lets be real spending 8-9 bucks for fried rice at the local restaurant adds up. You tell them no bean sprouts but they still do it. Or maybe the shrimp are tiny and you only get 8. I'm not Chinese but sometimes I want to try my favorite dishes at home. I have been making my own fried rice recipes for years. Finally I have the perfect pick. 

  • Left over white rice
  • Raw shrimp 
  • Sun bird fried rice seasoning
  • 2 eggs
  • White Onions, green onions, or veggies of your choice.
  • Canola oil or rice bran oil
  • Sesame oil
  • Soy Sauce
  1. For one you will need a non stick pan. Using a pan that sticks will ruin this dish completely.
  2. I prefer large raw shrimp. Season with pepper, Lawry's seasoning and salt. 
  3. Use oil to saute shrimp. I save bacon grease to saute my shrimp or you can use butter or olive oil.
  4.  After shrimp are done fry your 2 eggs and set aside.
  5. Next Saute your green onions, white onions and your veggies. I hate hard veggies.
  6. Once they are almost soft add 3 table spoons of oil and your cold rice to the pan. ( use left over rice so it frys better)
  7. Spread rice over  pan and let cook for 2-3 mins then flip rice and let other side cook. Once it starts to brown you know you are doing right.
  8. Next add 2-3 tablespoon of soy sauce and 1 teaspoon of sesame oil. Also for seasoning I use Sunbird fried rice seasoning. You can find this at walmart or Kroger's international lane. 
  9. Only use half the package for a small amount as I did. For a bigger amount use entire package.
  10. Let cook for 1 min then add saute veggies, shrimp and egg. Stir it all together and let cook for amount of time you prefer. I let it all cook for 4 mins on low heat. 
  11. If you like spice add some red pepper flakes. 
  12. Eat up!
If you would like to use other meats as in chicken, beef, or pork best to cook before adding to rice. Without meat sautee your veggies and add to rice. For the fried rice seasoning walmart always has them for a buck. This is a favorite I created by reading online but adding my own twist. No I am clearly not asian but this is a quick dish for dinner.

Wednesday, May 31, 2017


Love is truly like a drug. To fall in love is a amazing feeling. To get butterflies just by receiving a text from your man. But the most common thing is to love and hate someone at the same time. You hate that you can't stop loving them. It feels so good but feels so wrong. You may have told him you hate him so much, don't call you anymore, and to play in traffic. Or maybe that's just me lol. Still the thought of them leaving your life would be heart breaking. Girl nothing is wrong with you. As women we are just crazy as hell.

I hate that I love you is a real feeling. You hate that person for the hurt that they caused you. However laying in bed at night not having them kills you. You want them but then again you don't want to ever see them again. Listen you are not crazy. True love just doesn't die. You can curse him out, yell, send him mean texts, yet when he actually leaves you alone, your world crashes.

As women we are slightly indecisive. We say we don't want him, but get mad when he moves on. As women you are allowed to change your mind. Be mindful he may be tired of it and actually not come back. Do you like being with him more than being apart from him? Make a decision if you want to work it out. Do you hate the flaws in the relationship more than the great times? Fight for what you want. Life is short, if its meant to be it will be. Yes you hate his childish ways, selfishness or etc, but love the nice things he do for you, and always there when you need him. Think about it, and figure it out. Listen to my favorite song to help you think about it. 

Thursday, May 25, 2017

Help Find Missing 16 yr old LaTania "Janell" Carwell

I grew up in Augusta, Ga born and raised. My family and friends still reside here.  I have been in Atlanta Georgia 7 yrs now. Being Augusta is my hometown I stay on top of the news. Right now this story about a beautiful young girl name LaTania Carwell who is known as "Janell" is touching me. I want to share her story with hopes someone knows something and can reach out. First off lets start from the beginning.

April 21 Latania Janell Carwell, 16, and Leon Lamar Tripp, 38, were last seen on Monday around 1:30 a.m. at the 3100 block of Tate Road. Lamar is her step father. Both Leon and Janell were reported missing after not returning from a supposedly trip to help a friend with car trouble.

She told police.

"I heard the truck crank up and I heard the backdoor slam. I said what in the world is this man doing," said Tripp.

Tripp says she quickly called her husband. "He immediately answered and he said babe I'm sorry. I know what you are fixing to say. I have Janell. I said oh thank God," said Tripp. Leon told her he was taking Janell to help him fix a man named "Maurice's" car in Clarks Hill, GA.

Now this was at 1:30 am she allowed this man to take her daughter to help fix another mans car. Read on.

Mother on the news.

So a week goes by and iinvestigators say they have found the car he was driving not even a mile away from their home.

Investigators also got a tip he was in Atlanta, GA.

May 1st comes around police put out a kidnapping charge due to Leon Tripp was seen on April 21, 2017 at the Stop N' Shop Grocery located at 785 Lee Street SW Atlanta, Ga, but Latania Carwell was not with him. He was spotted but the young girl was not. So police did the best next thing. 

By now the mom is still acting clueless. 

"When I heard the charges I'm like 'wow really?' Because this is her dad. I said this is her dad. Both of my kids. This is the only dad they've ever known," she told reporters. 

So even after they found the car, plus her husband is spotted she is still taking up for him. 

3 weeks later the step father is arrested. Leon is in jail on a felony aggravated stalking charge. He was booked into the DeKalb County jail on Tuesday.

Now you may be asking, why stalking? That is something I am still confused on. But he was also wanted for kidnapping in Augusta, GA. I figure because he was on probation for a previous stalking charge.

Leon Tripp Is in Fulton County Jail
Tanya Tripp (mother) is in Richmond County Jail 

Here comes the boom. Investigators have learned Tanya Faye Tripp yes the mom of Latania"Janell" Carwell, was in contact with Leon Tripp, the girl's stepfather. They say she had recently moved from her residence in Augusta to the metro Atlanta area to be with Leon Tripp.

Augusta investigators along with the Atlanta Police Department were able to locate Tanya Tripp and she has been arrested for Hindering the criminal. Wow right?

Their family home was evicted and police officers came and started searching it yesterday. So far no word where this 16 yr old is. Both mom and step dad are in custody and there is a $1000 award for any one with clues. So far it is a waiting game hoping they confess where this girl is.

Janell's Story Was Featured On Vanished Podcast. PLEASE CHECK IT BELOW TO GET A MORE UNDERSTANDING

Updates: Mother Tanya Trip has been transferred to Richmond County Jail in Augusta GA.


Leon Trip was sent from Dekalb Co Jail, to Fulton Co jail.
06-12-17Augusta Sheriff: After conducting interviews we no longer consider this a missing investigation, but a homicide investigation. @WRDW_WAGT

 ●Bond Denied for Tanya Tripp the Mother.
●Leon Tripp gave statement that Janell Carwell is not alive.
●We now know from the Step Father who is the prime suspect that Janell Carwell is not alive. Please Pray For Her Family


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Saturday, May 20, 2017

Are Side Chicks Winning? (MUST READ)

Lately side chicks are a new trend for men, besides rompers lol. It's a big topic in the media but also a big topic in the communities. From fight videos trending of the main chick fighting with the side chick. Side chicks are bragging about being a side chick. It's like they have their own society. 


Remember there use to be a time when Mistresses were ashamed to admit they were dealing with a taken man. They knew they were a slut but if anyone knew it too it was a embarrassment. Think of the biggest side chick scandal.  

Monica Lewinsky admitted she had sexual encounters with President Bill Clinton on 9 occasions and even admitted Hillary Clinton was at the white house during some of those moments. To actually admit, yes I knew he was married, and yes it was under the same roof as the wife.

Men find that inspirational to cheat with a side piece and come home and have a home cooked meal by their main chick at home. Who is normally the one who holds them down, makes sacrifices and all. Also to even think that his main girl should be okay with it because she is supposedly his number 1. Really?

So it goes back to my question. Are side chicks winning? They get gifts, money, trips and less drama because they are not his number 1. He gets what he wants from her and she gets what she wants from him. 

Truth is, being a voluntarily side chick is not winning. By voluntarily meaning you know he has a woman but you don't care. Lets keep it real sometimes you can be a side chick and not even be aware you are one, because men can lie so well. Side chicks you are losing, To allow yourself to be number 2 in anything, and accept that , babe you can never win. To lay down with a man knowing he has a woman that says a lot about that person. You lose them how you attract them. Side chicks find any excuse to clarify why they do what they do. "Oh they not together LIKE THAT" or SHES NEVER AROUND' or "HE DON'T LOVE HER ANYMORE."But why even involve yourself in that? So no side chicks aren't winning in my opinion. Because you will always be known as the woman who allows anything. Lastly side chicks always end up having to deal with another side chick. 


Monday, May 15, 2017

Nicki Minaj Ex Group Member Sticks Up For Her Against Ex Boyfriend

Yikes! Looks like Nicki Minaj & her ex boyfriend Safaree old group member 7 even up spilled all the beans to @vladtv.

 Now Nicki & Safaree broke up back in 2014. Years later Safaree has stated 1st saying Nicki writes her own lyrics but later saying he wrote for her and he want a check. He has done many interviews bashing her writing credibility. Fans gave compared Safaree's own music to Nicki Minaj to see if he is a good writer. For example how Jay Z wrote for Dr Dre and has had major music success as a rapper. But their old time group member from HOODSTARZ says "Lies He Tell" Check Out Interview from VLADTV. Subscribe to them their interviews are always and subscribe to me too duh. Lol

juicy. http://www.vladtv.com/article/227971/7even-up-pulls-out-a-letter-safaree-sent-asking-him-to-ghostwrite

Friday, May 12, 2017



As girls we have that ex who we always fall back in their arms. When we know deep down he is a ex for a reason. But men are very smart and sneaky on their plot to get us back.

I use to have a ex who always would let me know he was in town but would do so after 11pm. Now men who have dated us probably know our weakness. Now my weakness is Sex & Food lol. Now I had to put on my thinking hat a ask myself. "Girl, why come he over here the next morning, when you hated him yesterday"? If he texts me at 1pm in the afternoon he knew I would not entertain him. But if he hit me up at 1 a.m when I am half asleep and was hearing his deep sexy New Orleans accent on my phone line, I might give in. Which I always did for a while. Until I said Ohhhhhh no! I had "DO NOT ANSWER" as his name, but also blocked him. He would leave crazy voice mails but it helped.

Girl do not feel bad. As women we are soft, and sweet. But it only takes that 1 who you will always have a special place in your heart for. But don't let him suck you back in when you left him for a reason. When you wake up the next morning you are going to feel bad all over again for allowing him to get the best of you. Block him, change your number do what you have to do. I can almost promise you the only reason he is hitting you up is because someone else is unavailable. So be strong and "DON'T ANSWER".

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Keeping Your Vagina Purty

I like to think of a woman's vagina as a purse. Our purse holds lots of valuable things inside, and so does our vagina. As young girls either you had a mom who taught you how to keep yours up. Or you had to learn throughout life on your own. As women besides our period, the one thing that unites us is our vagina. We have to keep it clean, safe, tight, and purty. Check out some ways to help keep yours on fleek. 

1. The V-Steam

I had the chance to get the V-steam for my birthday with my bestie. Before I get all technical let me give you my definition of it. It is a bowl of water filled with herbs you sit on. While sitting on it you can feel the steam releasing the herbs into your vagina. Oh the shit is hot! Now I will mention I had went out the night before and I had a killer hangover that entire day after. But it was a hour long but it was for some reason so hot I almost said F it. ๐Ÿ˜‚After my vagina did feel different, it felt fresh, and tighter.

It's also known as a vaginal steam bath. You're naked or wearing a poncho cover up that feels like you can't breathe to increase the steam's effect which I had on. Koreans say it fights infections, reduces stress, eases PMS, and even increases fertility and tightens your vagina.

2. Cotton Underwear 

Doctors suggest that cotton panties are much healthier for our vagina's. They are soft and keep our vagina's safe from bacteria. When it is hot or you are at the gym it is suggested to wear thongs, only because cotton panties can get sweaty. Thongs are cute and a quick go to. But did you know thongs are a easy way for bacteria to go from your butt to your vagina, which can cause urinary trac infections. Yikes. 

3. Watch What You Eat!

Taste like sugar? Pineapples are not only good, sweet, and healthy but they do wonders for your vagina. I remember I was at work at my desk eating pineapples. This woman Tina came up to me and said " you know pineapples keep you sweet". I said,"huh"? She said google it and you will see. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Yes what you eat affects your vagina. Pineapples, applesyogurt, red grapescranberry juicelots of water, mint, watermelon,strawberries are suggested to help. 

4. Yearly Woman's Exam

If you are sexual active getting a yearly exam is key for your vagina. The same way you take your car to the shop, take yourself to the doctor yearly for the pelvic exam or when needed if you smell a off smell. Lets be real as adults our vagina wont smell like peaches and cream 24/7. The pap is something common. 

Your doctor will perform the speculum exam. A device called a speculum will be inserted into the vagina. The speculum is opened to widen the vagina so that the vagina and cervix can be seen by your doctor then your doctor will use a plastic spatula and small brush to take a sample of cells from the cervix and a sample of fluid from vagina to test for infection.

5. Trim Her Up

Having a bush down their is not sanitary. Whether you like bald eagle or a nice trim it's a must you get your vagina looking right. Trimming is always  a good idea. You can use safe baby scissors to neatly trim your puberty hair. Shaving creams with aloe vera and less chemicals is always key to use. Always shave in the direction hair is growing. Once done use a non antibacterial soap to scrub it up clean. Doing this weekly should keep her cute, purty and clean.

6. Kegels Please!

Kegels are a known factor for keeping the vagina tight and right. It takes practice to actually know which is your pelvic muscle. You have to stop urination in midstream. Once you figure it out you can do them any position and any place. No one will know. 


Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Jordan Edwards: 15yrs old, Black, Unarmed, Killed By Police(Read More)

R.I.P Jordan ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’”

Jordan Edwards,"ANOTHER" unarmed black boy who was 15 yrs old was shot and killed by a police officer while leaving a party. Police tried to lie & say 
that the car that Jordan was in reversed "aggressively," and the officer shot because of that. Then later the police chief said that video evidence showed the exact opposite, and that the officer's actions "did not meet their core values." So they fired the officer. Okay we need a conviction too. Pretty much if it wasnt footage they would of lied. I mean why do  they fear black men that much you shoot 1st & ask questions after. 

Monday, May 1, 2017

Met Gala 2017 ❗❗❗❗

Lala Anthony-Halle Berry-Nicki Minaj

 -Each year there is a fundraiser for the Metropolitan Museum of Art's Costume Institute. Bringing celebrities each year to slay for a particular theme. This year they honored "Comme des Garcons" designer Rei Kawakubo.
Everyone was suppose to wear bold, architectural designs of Kawakubo who is a 74 year old Japanese designer who founded Comme des Garcons in 1969. So that is where the theme comes from tonight.-

Madonna-Rihanna-Katy Perry

      Ashley Graham-Zendaya-Stelle Maxwelll

Sunday, April 30, 2017

Step Your Cookies Up!!!

I know this post is misleading. "Step your cookies up before they crumble, was a line from Nicki Minaj Mix tape. I know some tolerate situations out of love. But you cannot allow a man to get by, get by and get by. If he needs to step his sh*t up, tell him. Keep reading.......

Allot of men need to be told "step your shit up".  There is nothing wrong ladies with telling your man to step it up and be a man, and do better. If he is someone you love and see a future with he needs to get it together. If he doesn't, you have to see the worth in yourself and let him go.

There are men who want to still party every weekend, or don't want to work, or be a better man for you. Do you really want to have to tell him daily he needs to get it together? How annoying is that? We as women can only support and love a man so much before we crumble trying to save his ass. I always say it is a parents job to build confidence and self love within a child. Because you may end up with a grown ass man who needs to be taken care of.

Support your man, but don't let your life crumble trying to save his life. ๐Ÿ’ฏ