Sunday, July 29, 2018

"What Do Women Want"

Have you ever saw a confused puzzled look on your man face? Followed by the question"What's Wrong With You". He looks so dumb doesn't he? He may have stayed out all night and didn't answer one call. So the next morning when you're giving him the cold shoulder he doesn't know what's wrong. Or you may be having dinner but he spends the entire time on his phone. When you have become annoyed by it ,he actually has the audacity to ask, what's wrong with you? Oh trust me I understand.
Women are not hard to understand, but men have a hard time understanding us . What does a woman want? If they actually payed attention to women they would understand. Let me get to the point and break it down.

The difference between a woman and a girl is a girl wants all your attention. She doesn't care that you work and have responsibilities. A woman wants to feel that you do notice her. She is busy too, but acknowledging that you thought about her throughout the day is enough for her. Women want a man to focus on her when you're spending quality time together. If  social media is more important during quality time, she could of stayed home. 

When your woman does something good all she wants is a "good job babe". She doesn't need validation don't get it twisted. She wants her man to recognize she is out here making moves and doing great things. 

Talk! Tell her how you feel and why you feel the way you do. Ignoring her is the quickest way to get under her skin. If she did something that bothers you or hurt you just tell her. Women have no problem telling you why we are mad.. This thing where men are suppose to shut up is a old age thing our grandparents use to do. 

Put some respect on our feelings, our time, and our commitment to you. Respect is not only about talking to her in a respectful manner. Respect means not embarrassing her because you want to entertain other women. Respect her feelings and how she may feel. 

This is a big one. Do you want her or do you not. Its that simple. Commit to her. Drop your others and commit to her and only her. Telling the world who she is so that its really real. Take the relationship serious. If you're not ready to commit ,we would rather you leave us the hell alone. No time for games. 

Men don't listen. You can send a 4 page letter on why you're feeling how you're feeling, and he responds with "What"?
If they listened and was fair in understanding you, their life would be much easier. If a woman tells her man "I miss you, I wish I could see you", understand she actually miss you so do something about it. 

Take charge. No woman wants to wear the skirt and suit in a relationship.  Plan things for her and let her know. Women love when a man makes plans without getting her approval first. 

Saturday, July 21, 2018

Kayla Got The 411 Podcast: Episode 12- The Dating Game



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"The Dating Game"

Welcome to the dating game. Where you put your faith and trust into a guy hoping you hit the jackpot and that he turns out to be the man of your dreams. Then you realize you put all your trust , energy and faith into him, only to strike out and he's not the one. Yes sis, that is the dating game. You lose some but the goal is to win. 

I look at my dating experience as a game. Between me and you I hated games all my life. Boards games, card games, sport games, and games played with my heart. Don't play me , play lotto! 

See you meet a guy, then you waste your time getting to know him by telling him all the amazing things about yourself. Also while listening to all the lies and bull shit he tells you about himself. Just when you really think you got a good one, he turns out to be trash. Conversations start to fade. Now you have to dispose him and keep it moving. Let's hope you don't get dickmerized in the process. Then you move on and do it again, and again. Playing the game until you finally win. 

Sucks but its part of the dating process. You literally have to kiss a million frogs until you meet your King. I can easily say don't get in your feelings but who am I kidding. Accidentally falling for someone happens so often. Mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the good and the bad. Go into every dating situation knowing this could work out and this could be a disaster. What do you really have to lose? Don't be scared to date thinking you are bound to get your feelings hurt. By doing that you already have set yourself up to fail. 

If you haven't realized men lie just for the hell of it. I find it very creepy. It be the stupidest unnecessary lies too. Remember to always do your own little investigation. That's the best way to avoid egg on your face. I had a date with a guy one time. I had a funny feeling in my spirit. I found out he told me a fake name. After I discovered his real name I ran a background check on him. 

"Oh Yes I Did"

He had a criminal record longer than Ariana Grande pony tail. It included assault, assault, assault. You get the point! The same way employers call references you do the same. It's all fun and games but remember this is your life so don't gamble everything on a man. 

Thursday, July 19, 2018

#TTOTM: Having A Easy Menstrual Cycle

I can always sense when a woman is on her period. Her fashion style is very casual and comfortable. Normally she skips makeup and doesn't want to be bothered. Oh, and lets not forget the slow walk of death because your cramps are killing you. Giirls this is the partwhere we all bond. Every woman has some kind of symptoms before and during her period. Whether it's bad cramps, gas, or a acne breakout.

 I was on NEXPLANON birth control for 3 years and just got off a few months back. During those 3 years I was lucky enough to not have a menstrual cycle. Now that I am off for good, I am back to mother nature every month. One thing I did realize, it still sucks. Instead of us doing our normal complaining every month, I have found ways to help us women have a smoother and easier period every month. Take a look and use some of these tips to make it much less stressful and dreadful.

The worst feeling is getting a "funny feeling" then discovering your period is on and you have no tampons or pads near. Download a period tracker on your phone and keep track of when your period comes on every month. Also many of those apps allows you to track you ovulation. That way you know when you're fertile to avoid getting pregnant or plan for your pregnancy. 

Unless you're a savage, you have to take something to avoid cramps. I normally cramp in my butt. Yes, my bottom. It's very odd but I have met other women who get butt cramps also. Its very painful when it comes suds. I know you may have cravings but fried foods, sugar, caffeine and bread are major causes of cramps during your menstrual and causes inflammation. To stop the pain quickly, doctors suggest
ibuprofen,or aspirin. For a natural route use heating pads by applying it to your abdomen. Something new I have heard of is acupressure and massages too. My doctor even mentioned Fish Oil and Vitamin B1 for a natural relief. My mother taught me years ago about the Apple cider vinegar bath. Warm bath and just add the vinegar. There are many types of ways to help those cramps, try some.

One thing I learned as a teen is what to wear and what not to wear. Remember in school that one girl would wear khaki pants and you would see a period stain on her pants. That is not hot. 
Dress comfortable. Wear loose pants and comfortable full covering panties. The worst feeling is wondering if there is something on your pants if you know what I mean. 

The best way to have a easy period is sleeping. For some reason I feel as if my period flow is lighter when I'm sleeping. It is also good to move around but let's keep it real. Who wants to work our during their period unless you have to?

The best you invest in pads, and tampons will make it much easier. The top brand of tampons and pads are Tampax, Playtex, Kotex. Making sure you understand your flow is also key. If you're lighter go for regular sizing pads and tampons. Like myself if you have much heavier flows . Super will give you full protection. Remember to read the packaging of tampons. Staph, which is found in many of our bodies. ... Toxic shock syndrome will cause a drop in blood pressure that deprives organs, oxygen and can lead to death. So be aware of how long you keep your tampons in.