Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Man Down: " Protecting Yourself From Predators As A Woman

Being a woman has it's perks. If your car breaks down on the side of the road people will always run to your rescue. Or how about free before 11 at the club for ladies. Being a woman is awesome and it does has it's disadvantages. I watch a lot of crime shows. Women are always the target. From robbery, kidnapping, rape, to domestic violence. There are men who take advantage of women because they're bigger and stronger. I can not tell you how recently I have came across a woman robbed and sexually assaulted by a stranger this year alone. Its scary as hell being a woman and knowing you're the prey for a lot of sick, disturbed individuals. Sadly we can't stop every bad person but we can help protect ourselves and be more aware. I don't want you to be scared but I want you to be aware and alert. I am going to give you all a few things to look out for as women to help protect yourself. It breaks my heart when I see a young women assaulted or violated. I am a mom myself to a daughter. I want us all to be safe. Let's start with the number one thing.


Sometimes when a guy offers you a drink it doesn't always mean he's being a gentleman. Never accept a drink from a guy if you didn't actually see him make it. There are guys who will slip a date rape drug into your alcohol beverage to get you knocked out so they can take advantage of you sexually. Most women admit they got very dizzy and lightheaded suddenly and when they woke up didn't remember a thing. Always smell your drink and look clearly at it. Be careful to not leave your drink sitting around too. Some of the most common date rape drugs are roofies, gamma, liquid ecstasy, and special k all street terms. Be careful also outside of clubs. Just because he has a bottle at his house doesn't mean it's still safe to drink. Smell, look, and trust your gut. If he's very pushy for you to drink it, RUN BITCH!

 This is a common way women are violated. If you feel this has happen to you or someone you know, contact your local authorities and contact 1-800-656-HOPE. 

. Watch Your Surroundings 

Sometimes those midnight Wal-Mart runs sounds like a good idea. Nobody is there that late. I remember seeing a episode of See No Evil on investigation network of a teen doing late night shopping. A strange man followed her around the store, and attacked her at her car. He approached her with a gun, kidnapped her, raped her, and killed her. I cried like a baby. It could of been me or you. Girls please watch your surroundings especially when you are alone. I don't want you to be paranoid ,but be aware. If you live alone pay attention to the cars following you. If a person follows you for miles call a friend to have someone on the phone with you. Also if you leave early or come home late, check your surroundings before getting out the car. Always have your keys and phone in hand. It sounds like a lot, but if your key is in your hand it's a life safer if a person is coming at you. 

. Don't Date Anyone

Sometimes a guy may slide in your DM. He seems great, he's cute from his pictures too. Remember , you don't know him. Get to know him very well before agreeing to a date. If you do decide to go out with him make sure it's a public place. 
I don't suggest that but at least inform a friend where you're going, and who you are going with. Truthfully I wouldn't even suggest he picks you up. He can meet you there. It has become common for women to meet up with predators they meet online. I like to see if we have mutual friends, that way you can do a quick reference check.  Don't be thirsty for a date and risk your life. 

. Watch Your Hands & Mouth

There are some crazy ass men out there. Girls be careful how you talk to men. The cursing , and hand in face will set off a already violent man quickly. Some guys are full of rage, it only takes you poking the bear before he unleashes. Please don't get yourself in a violent situation with a physcopath .A quick hit upside his head from you may make him hurt you in a way you might not recover from. Look for signs in abusive men. Crazy people can only hide their crazy for so long. His outburst and how he treats other's will tell you allot. If you see signs of crazy, Run Bitch! Fighting back is for the boxing ring, don't risk your life trying to be Wonder Woman.

Revenge Porn

If I see one more explicit picture or video online of revenge porn I may scream. If you don't know what revenge porn is, its basically posting  explicit pictures or videos of someone without consent. Trust me I know how easy it is to believe the hype when he says he will delete it. I can almost bet you $50.00 he is lying. Don't let these guys record you having sex. You can't even trust boyfriends these days. There are actual websites out there where men expose ex girlfriends by posting their nudes or sex tapes. If you are having sex and you see a flash just get up and start swinging. I know what I said before just in this case get the camera and run. 😂💯
It has happen to me, I had to jump up quick. They sneaky. Don't let them take advantage of you. Your reputation and dignity is what makes you a woman. 


 Don't let your woman's intuition go to waste. Your brain is there for a reason. If it doesn't sound right, or feel right, it must not be right. If you're somewhere with a guy and the vibes feel weird, get out.  Its hard to describe the feeling but it's a quick instinct of danger. 

Wednesday, February 7, 2018

#BlackHistoryMonth - 28 Days Of Black Women In History ( Day 5: Sister Rosetta Tharpe)

Sister Rosetta Tharpe

Also known as the God Mother of Rock N Roll is Sister Rosetta Tharpe.  This woman is a legend in the rock n roll industry but hasn't got much of the recognition like the men who she inspired like Elvis Presley who listened to her growing up. She was the type of artist to shout, and swing hips before Little Richard and Johnny Cash. She turned this type style into a international sensation honey. Let me just say she was a bad ass woman.

Rosetta Nubin is her birth name. She was born in Arkansas. When she first picked up a guitar at age 4 who knew by age 6 she would be performing with her  mother and a evangelist group in churches in the South. Rosetta and her mother continued playing all the way to the 1920's spiritual music, which is now known as gospel.

She had a very unique voice. Her particular style was a mix of blues, jazz and gospel. During the 1930s it was not typical to see a woman playing a guitar especially a black woman. People in the gospel community had a hard time accepting her also. She never let the haters change her. By age 23 in 1938, she joined the Cotton Club Revue. It was a New York City club that became very popular. Rosetta had a hit with her single, "Rock Me."  It had a traditional gospel and rock 'n' roll vibe mixed with blues.


Now her music was kinda sexual but was also gospel so you can imagine the uproar she sent people . She was dominating the industry as a black woman guitarist. She even collaborated with many men in her field.  By the 1940s she even collaborated with white artists Jordanaires. Now it was still segregation while she was performing for mixed audiences. She wasn't able to sleep in the hotels so she slept on the bus. She even had to get food from the back door because she couldn't come inside. She did what she had to do, so she could be successful. 

Later she started to get a celebrity status. Around the time of  World War II she created a song called 
"Strange Things Happening Everyday," with Decca Records. That song reflected on everything going on in the world at that time. It is her biggest record to date. Now some people think it's gospel ,and some think rock n roll. You listen and decide.

She broke down the door for black women who wanted to play instruments the men did especially guitar. She toured in Europe years before dying in 1970s by a stroke. 
She influenced many of your favorites like Chuck Berry and Elvis Presley. Because she was a openly bi sexual woman who played gospel in rock n roll, the industry didn't give her the recognition she deserved. But in 2007 she was inducted into the Blues Hall of Fame. Recently she was elected into the Rock Hall of Fame. 

Monday, February 5, 2018

#BlackHistoryMonth - 28 Days Of Black Women In History ( Day 4: Coretta Scott King)

Coretta Scott King

The strong, talented, civil rights activist, writer, daughter and wife Coretta Scott King is what you call a strong black woman.  She was the wife of Martin Luther King Jr.  After his death she kept his legacy alive. Let's go right in.

Mrs . King was born in Alabama 1927. Many people don't know she had a passion for singing and playing the violin.  After graduating high school she went to Antioch College in Ohio.  There she received her Bachelor of Arts in music and education in 1951. She moved to Boston to attend New England Conservatory of Music in Boston, Massachusetts.  While in Boston she met Martin Luther King Jr.  She eventually married Martin and had 4 children. 

She was heavily involved in her husbands civil rights movement, and was right by his side during the 1950s and '60s. Coretta was even part of the historic Montgomery Bus Boycott in 1955.  She's worked to make sure the Civil Rights Act was passed in 1964 along with others. Coretta had the same beliefs as her husband and that was equal opportunity, and justice.  She wore many hats also as a public mediator and liaison to peace and justice organizations.
She was more than a wife and mother she made sure to continue her husband's legacy after his aassassination in 1968. She took on the role for racial equality  and became active in the women's movement.  She founded the King center in honor of her husband's attributes. Today Martin Luther King Jr birthday is a national holiday.  Ronald Reagan signed the legislation because of Coretta dedication to get it did 
She was highly known in the political world especially for the Kennedy's who admired her and her husband's well doings. 

In 2005 Coretta died to complications dealing with cancer. Her legacy was celebrated with over 10,000 guest at her funeral.  She was inducted into the Alabama Women's Hall of Fame after 

She was the backbone that held this country together after the death of Mr. King that led many feeling hopeless and discouraged. She was left to pick up the pieces and raise 4 children all while being strong and still fighting for a cause. 

Sunday, February 4, 2018

#BlackHistoryMonth - 28 Days Of Black Women In History ( Day 3:Bessie Coleman)

Bessie Coleman 

Bessie made history in 1922 by becoming the first African American woman to fly a flight in the United States. She was the first ever black woman to even earn a pilot license. She read stories about World War I pilots that got her interest in one day becoming a pilot herself. She broke barriers by actually finishing high school and attending college. She did one semester due to financial issues at Langston Industrial College. 
She went on to live with her brothers in Chicago during a time when the tension between blacks and whites were at a all time high. She wanted to get out badly and expressed her dreams to her brother who showed no encouragement. 

Back then every flying school denied her so she taught herself French and moved to France. Nothing was stopping her. A well known school
Caudron Brother's School of Aviation was where she attended school.  There she was the first African American woman to get her pilot license. She specialized in stunt flying and made money  performing aerial tricks. 
Sadly she died doing what she loved . She died in a plane crash in 1926 while testing her new aircraft.

She paved a way for black women who wanted to fly planes .Because of her dedication she followed her dreams and made history .

Saturday, February 3, 2018

#BlackHistoryMonth - 28 Days Of Black Women In History ( Day 2: Mary McLeod Bethune )

Mary McLeod Bethune

Mary is someone in black history I look up to.  She was born in South Carolina 1875. She grew up with both parents both who had been slaves and in a house with 16 siblings. Mostly everyone did field work like picking cotton and farming.  Mary got a blessing when a school for African American children opened near by. By her attending that school she was able to share what she learned with her family. She had to walk miles everyday but did it because she was eager to learn all she could. She went on into life to actually earn a scholarship to Barber-Scotia College in North Carolina. She was so passionate about education she even went to Dwight Moody's Institute for Home and Foreign Missions and later became a teacher back in South Carolina.  

Mary believed that a highrr education was a way to advance as a African American. She started the Daytona Normal and Industrial Institute for black girls in Daytona, Florida, in 1904. Starting out with five students, she eventually increased it to 250 students over the next years.

With her school being such a success she created the National Council of Negro Women in New York. Franklin Roosevelt made her the director of the Division of Negro Affairs of the National Youth Administration.  She went on to ruffle a few feathers including the Ku Klux Klan who hated the work she was doing by helping blacks get educational skills. She was a powerful black women encouraging blacks to get vocational learning so they could provide for themselves instead of doing farm work. She worked with the NAACP and National Negro League.  Mary contributed to World War II by being a assistant director to the Women Army Corps and helped African American Women Who wanted to join the military. 

Mary was one of the world's leading educators, and activist. She later died in May 1955 leaving behind a legacy she is still being reward for. 

"I leave you a thirst for education. Knowledge is the prime need of the hour." Bethune closed with 'If I have a legacy to leave my people, it is my philosophy of living and serving. 

-Mary McLeod Bethune 

Thursday, February 1, 2018

#BlackHistoryMonth - 28 Days Of Black Women In History ( Day 1: Sojourner Truth )

Sojourner Truth

Sojourner Truth was a African American women's activist. Very motivated, intelligent woman who spoke English and Dutch. She was born in 1797 into slavery in New york. Her real name was actually "Isabella Baumfree, " but gave herself the name Sojourner Truth. 

She had 3 of her children taken from her,  and sold. Back then black women children were taken so that the women could continue doing duties for the slave master. Also their children were looked at as valuable to become future slaves. As young as 5 these children were doing adult duties. In 1826 she escaped slavery with one of her daughters.  She went to court to get her son back and she won. She made history by becoming the first black woman to win a case against a white man in that manner. 

After that she used her strength and bravery to help encourage and empower other freed people. She was a motivational speaker who empowered other women. “Ain’t I A Woman?” was a speech she is most known for which she delivered at a women's convention in Ohio of 1851. 

Kerry Washington reads "Ain't I A Woman"

Sojourner traveled to Washington DC to meet with Abraham Lincoln and involved herself into getting work for freed people. She worked hard also trying to get a state for the ones who were free.  She used her strength to speak up about women's rights,  and freedom.  All she wanted was slavery to end peacefully,  and for women to have the same rights as men. 

She died in 1883 due to old age but she left a legacy that inspired many others. 

#BlackHistoryMonth (28 Days of 28 Black Women In History )

Black history is in the month of February. I always wondered why they gave us the shortest month.  Who was Mr. Petty who got to choose the month. I'm just kidding  I am appreciative they gave us something.

This is the month where we celebrate the contributions from blacks in history. People of other color may not realize why this month is so important. For years blacks didn't have the freedom to be able to have achievements,  or even vote.  Being hated for being black was why so many were mistreated and some killed. They spent their time trying to be heard and have equal rights. So every accomplishment was taken seriously and recognized as a proud moment.

Our black men accomplished a lot, but it took a strong black woman to get them to where they were. So this month I am dedicating 28 days to 28 amazing black women in history. Their strength, and intelligence gave women like myself the freedom to do what I love. So subscribe and each day you will find out who I picked.

Day 1: Sojourner Truth