Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Should You Flaunt It, If You Got It?

Kim Kardashian is the hot topic at the moment due to another nude picture posted on her Instagram. There is a huge debate going on with many people all over social media. The biggest question I have seen was "Why"? She's successful, has a a wealthy husband and 3 kids. This is normal for Kim,  but after her Robbery in Paris she took a break from social media while little sister Kylie became the hottest out the crew.  Kim is obviously a beautiful  woman. Only a hater would deny that. Just because you got it,  does that mean you should flaunt it? 

Look I am all for women's empowerment. I believe women should love themselves inside and out.  You don't need to flaunt it to feel good about yourself,  but some do like the attention of others to make them feel validated and important. 

We live in a time where in 2050 our grandchildren will be able to see a lot more than they would anticipate. There will be twerk videos, drunken snap chats for our grand kids to look back on.  Right now we are just living it up, without thinking about that. 

Women who put themselves out there are always labeled as a hoe.  It's been a stigma that really annoys me.  If a woman does it she's a hoe,  if a man does it he's sexy. Should you flaunt your body if that's what you want?  Yes and No.  What you do is your battle  especially if you are a married woman.  What you do is a representation of your man. So if you know that posting your bare ass online could upset your man,  flaunting it may not be a good idea.  Most men like to feel like their woman only belongs to them.  So me being a woman I can't imagine a man seeing his wife naked to tell you what it feels like. In Kim Kardashian case lots of people feel he doesn't really care much. Personally most men will go off if their girl left the house braless. 

So because you have a big butt,  nice boobs,  and flat tummy should a woman have the right to flaunt it any and everywhere?  Would you do it? 

Saturday, January 27, 2018

Colorism : When Being Black Is More Than A Ethnic Group

You would think in 2018 we would be a lot more aware.  Sadly I realized for myself that not every black person are actually Africans or African American. I came across a gorgeous dark skin Latina name Amara La Negra on the premiere season of Love & Hip hop Miami. I for the 1st time heard the term "Afro Latina." I had no idea that there were Latinas who were dark skin but weren't African. Sounds insane, but there are lots of others who had no clue. Did we not know,  or are we finally starting to listen?

 Amara La Negra who is 100% Latina had to provide pictures of herself and parents to shut down haters who accused her of darkening her skin.

The term colorism has also been going around due to Amara story on Love & Hip Hop Miami.  Racism &, Colorism are two different things that I think some people think are the same. Yes similar, but different.

"Colorism" are discriminatory acts against people based on the color of their skin.. For example brown skin. 
"Racism" is being prejudiced for your racial status.. For example African American. 
"Afro Latina Says Identifying As Just Latina is Anti-Black"

There are other ethic groups whos race is black, but it doesn't mean they're actually African Americans. Afro Latinas are more known in Haiti, Dominican Republic, Cuba, and Puerto Rico. This may explain the lack of knowing here in the U. S.  Normally when you see a black person you automatically think they're African American.  When it comes to Afro Latinas most have said their own culture are responsible for putting one another down. The traditional Latinas looks like Jennifer Lopez.

Dravidian's also come in different shades, mostly living in southern parts of India. The people up north India have fairer skin and are descendants of Aryans.

Being Indian and dark skin has its own challenges. It depends on the type of family you have. I read a article where one young lady talked about her aunt and uncle suggested skin lighting cream for her. She eventually let it get to her and started using bleaching creams. For a young child being told you should use skin lightning cream is something that will tear any womans self esteem down. 

South Asians deal with a lot of negativity from family members and peers all because of their darker skin too. Whiter skin is looked highly upon in some Asian countries. In Thailand tourists have noticed the whiter your skin is,  the better you were treated. In some Asian countries, darker skin is considered to be poor. Insane right?  Unfortunately in their eyes it isn't racism, it's what their culture standards have showed them. 

Racism is real and hurtful for me just being African American. What my peers fail to notice is colorism in our own culture. 

Colorism also exists in the black community. Many African Americans don't talk much about it, but it exists. Light skin vs dark skin.  The light skin girls in the urban communities were always considered more beautiful than the dark skin girls. It's not true, both are equally beautiful. For some men their idea of beauty is what they see in the rap videos. Long hair,  red bone. 

Back during slavery, "House Negros" was a term white slave owners used to describe lighter African Americans. They were considered to be more beautiful, and smarter just because their skin pigment was closer to theirs. It made some lighter skin slaves think they were better than the "Field Negros" who did hard labor in the yard. To keep it real,  in reality everybody was slaves with no damn freedom. So who wins? 

I am glad this topic was a big discussion and still is. We confuse racism a lot with colorism. Yes they both are wrong.  No one should be judged or mistreated due to their skin color or ethic group. I hope you enjoyed this post.  If you have any stories please contact me.  I am open to learn and hear your stories. 

Sunday, January 21, 2018

Kayla Got The 411 Podcast :Episode 8- Dear Ex,

NASA Removed What "Would've Been" 1st African American Astronaut Jeanette Epps Off Upcoming Spaceflight

Jeanette Jo Epps is an Engineer and NASA Astronaut

Strangely without reason Jeanette Epps was booted off a mission to be a crew member on the international space station. Sis would of made history in becoming the 1st African American woman astronaut to actually serve a long term stay on the international space station. 

NASA made a announcement this past Thursday they were taking Jeanette off the mission and replacing her with this woman
Serena Auñón-Chancellor

Now normally when this happens there is a reason behind it.  But in this case NASA
has not gave a reasoning behind it. Serena Auñón-Chancellor was actually Jeannette Epps backup. All NASA stated was she would be returning to NASA’s Johnson Space Centre in Houston to assume duties in the office and would be considered for future assignments.

We don't know as of yet why they reassigned her. But we do know Jeanette dreams are crushed. She dreamed of one day walking in space and now her dreams are no longer happening in June of 2018.

Inquiring minds want to know... 

@NASA we need answers.  Is it because she's sick,  not qualified or because she would if been the 1st African American woman to actually live on the international space station? This woman seemed as if she was ready, and qualified. Let's stay tuned for a reason. I'm not going to say why I really think they reassigned her but I'll wait on their explanation first. 

Monday, January 15, 2018


On April 4, 1964 on my mothers 11th birthday, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr was assassinated while standing on a balcony outside his second-floor room at the Lorraine Motel in Memphis, Tennessee. She recalls being so young at the time but remember hearing it on the radio broadcast that he was shot and killed.  She recalls everyone in the neighborhood going outside and destroying all the business and rioting. Not only in Augusta, Georgia but all over the world. People were angry, upset, felt hopeless. 

Dr Martin Luther King gave black folks hope that one day blacks and whites could go to school together, and shop together. 54 years later a lot of our parents and grandparents who aren't living would be proud to see the progress and everything he went through made a difference. We are still dealing with racism, and injustice today, but because of the strength, and bravery Martin Luther King Jr had,  it's the reason I and yourself reading this can live in a country and have equal rights.  So today we take the time to honor a man who gave up a wife, and family to make this country a better place.  R. I. P We Love You. 

"Thank you Dr Martin Luther King Jr for all you have done for us.  There has been progress and much more needed but thank you for giving us hope.  #MLK" 💙